Monthly Archives: August 2017

Is It Possible To Be “Undateable”?

When do you label a person as undateable? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cjyf3YQlumM Cathy: Is there anyone undateable? This is Reid Mihalko from http://reidaboutsex.com/ Reid: Cathy Vatuli from the http://theintimacydojo.com/ Cathy: And BBC did a documentary called the Undateables, people that no ones dating and the person wrote in just find that people were just too older, too ugly for anyone to ever want [...]

By | 2017-05-09T15:33:53+00:00 August 30, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Trauma|

How Does It Feel When You Share Vulnerably?

Learn the different experiences when sharing vulnerability. With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l0aF0hbhZS0 Cathy: We talk a lot about vulnerability on these videos. And Reid and I were talking the other day and we kind of discovered we had different experiences when we shared vulnerably and we want to talk about that. This is Reid Mihalko http://www.ReidAboutSex.com/ Reid: Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com/ Cathy: Yes. So, [...]

By | 2017-08-28T14:56:51+00:00 August 27, 2017|Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Shame, Trauma|

How Do You Know When It’s Time To End A Relationship?

When is the time to turn aside and when do you keep on going? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z8Rj4vfGYfQ Cathy: How do you know when it’s time to end what you’ve thought of as a long term relationship? Reid: Cathy Vartuli from http://theintimacydojo.com/ Cathy: And Reid Mihalko from http://reidaboutsex.com/ Reid: I don’t know. That’s a relationship [inaudible 00:00:15]. Oh, my goodness. Cathy: You actually [...]

By | 2017-05-09T15:10:33+00:00 August 24, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Coming Out Kinky… To Your Kids?

How do you come out kinky (or do you...) to your children? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com.   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U_Ym9apOxOk Cathy: How do parents come out to their kids if they’re poly, gay or kinky? This is Reid Mihalko from http://reidaboutsex.com/ Reid: Cathy Vartuli from http://theintimacydojo.com/ Cathy: And Reid has this great thing called the difficult conversation formula. Reid: At http://reidaboutsex.com/difficult-conversation-formula/ Cathy: And we’ll put the [...]

By | 2017-08-26T19:08:00+00:00 August 21, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

Starting To Like Someone… But Afraid They’re Going To Cut And Run?

Abandonment issues can make it hard to get close. Feeling afraid that your sweetie will leave? What can you do? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com.   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SKnGx08qbGk Cathy: Someone wrote in and said they wanting to, no, “How can you stop freaking out that the amazing guy you just met and then have been in a relationship with the past six months isn’t going to [...]

By | 2017-05-08T12:38:30+00:00 August 18, 2017|Dating, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

How Can I Be Honest And Not Lead Women On?

If you're sure you want to keep things casual, how can you be clear and not lead women (or men) on? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com.   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HxYKu1KS7ys Cathy: Someone wrote in and then they said, “How can you be honest so you don’t lead women on? Yes, this is a gentleman writing who is heterosexual when you don’t want to hurt them by misrepresenting [...]

By | 2017-05-08T12:29:44+00:00 August 15, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Creating Safe Space For Yourself and Others

How do you make a safe space for you and for others around you? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GBUt7BouxoE Cathy: Do you create safe space for yourself? Reid: It’s fucked out of me. Cathy: This is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Reid: Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com. I swore I’m right in the beginning of the video. Fuck! Alright, how do you create safe space? Cathy: Actually, [...]

By | 2017-05-05T14:26:37+00:00 August 12, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

How Do You Handle Being Jealous If You’re A Casual Partner?

Feeling jealous but not sure you have a right to be? Find out more with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KAX61TUE8uI Cathy: So how do you handle being jealous when you’re not part of a couple but you’re a casual partner to someone who is poly. Reid: How do you avoid being jealous? Cathy: Or how do you handle being jealous? Reid: That sounds like envy [...]

By | 2017-05-05T14:04:25+00:00 August 9, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Touch|

Are There Protocals For Long Term Relationships That Aren’t Aiming For Marriage?

How do you have a long term relationship that's conscious and loving, but doesn't look like marriage, children, joint checking accounts (necessarily). Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dWnmEWayJNQ Cathy: Someone wrote in and said they love the slut protocols that you put together. Reid: Yeah, http://www.ReidAboutSex.com/slutprotocols. Cathy: But they wanted to know if you have created a set of protocols for longer term [...]

By | 2017-05-05T13:51:12+00:00 August 6, 2017|Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Touch|

Trying To Fit In With A New Group… And Now You Can’t Deliver On A Promise You Made?

Cleaning up lies or mistakes can be tough enough with close friends. What if your new to a group and really want to fit in? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xdUex3gfsdo Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, “I love all your videos about if you tell a lie and I really want to come up front about things but I’m new in this group and [...]

By | 2017-05-05T12:55:13+00:00 August 3, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|