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So far Cathy has created 482 blog entries.

Privacy and Snooping

Cathy: Someone else wrote in to us and said my boyfriend is going through my email and my phone.  He's snooping.  What can I do, it makes me really uncomfortable? Reid: Shhh, he may be listening in right now. Cathy: That's really uncomfortable when someone's going through your stuff. Reid: I'm uncomfortable just filming this video.  Are they watching?  Hey behind you!  I'm Reid Mihalko from Cathy: I'm Cathy Vartuli from the  [...]

By | 2016-01-06T09:54:55+00:00 August 11, 2014|Relationship Skills|

How Do I Know When She’s Come

Cathy: How do you know when she has an orgasm, so you know when to stop? Someone wrote in asking about that and I love that the person wants to know more. There is a lot of pressure I think in our society to know when the person had an orgasm or not. Reid: Our society is very orgasm-centric. Cathy: You supposed to do the orgasm then you're done. Reid: Yeah, because now we [...]

By | 2016-01-06T08:24:12+00:00 August 9, 2014|Dating, Sex Geeks, Touch|

Digging Deeping In Your Relationship

Cathy: Have you found that your relationship might be a little stagnant? Or that you're not growing as fast as you would like? Reid: What? I thought everything was fine. What are you telling me? Cathy: Actually, digging into some of the deeper stuff in your relationship, having the conversations that you don't normally have, can help you both grow. It can also deepen your relationship. Reid: That sounds scary. Cathy: It is, sometimes. [...]

By | 2016-01-06T09:56:10+00:00 August 7, 2014|Dating, Relationship Skills|


Cathy: Someone wrote in and asked, she said she's interested in a married man and she doesn't know what to do. Reid: Mmmhmmmm ... Cathy: This is Reid Mihalko from ... Reid: I'm going to assume that that man's not married to her. Cathy: No, he's not. Reid: Mmmhmmm ... Cathy: This is Reid Mihalko from Reid: This is Cathy Vartuli from Cathy: What would you suggest? Reid: Mmhmmm ... Well, well, well, you had to come [...]

By | 2016-01-05T10:16:35+00:00 August 7, 2014|Dating, Jealousy, Relationship Skills|

Does He Love Me

Cathy: Does he love me? How can I tell? Someone wrote in and asked us that question the other day. It's a great question. And this is Reid Mihalko from and I'm Cathy Vartuli from and apparently, we've killed him, so I'll just do this talk without him. Reid: Oh, let me count the ways. How do you tell? Have you asked? Cathy: Yeah, talking about it can ... Reid: Excuse [...]

By | 2016-01-06T10:06:43+00:00 August 5, 2014|Dating, Relationship Skills|

Cathy on Tuning

Reid: Hi this is Reid Mihalko from Cathy: Cathy Vartuli from Reid: You use this phrase "tuning" to somebody. Please explain for our viewers. Your esoteric languaging. Cathy: Yes, OK. Well, there's two levels you can do that at: 1) you can communicate with your partner and understand what ... you have them explain verbally what they would like to do. Reid: Mm-hmm. Cathy: What turns them on, what stimulates them. And so you [...]

By | 2016-01-06T10:07:34+00:00 August 4, 2014|Flirting, Relationship Skills|

Cheated On In Relationship

Cathy: What do you do when your partner cheats on you? Reid: I get angry, that's what I do.  Cathy: Thank you. That was so helpful Reid Mihalko from Reid: Awesome. You're welcome Cathy Vartuli from Cathy: It can be really devastating to be cheated on. There's a trust that's been broken. Cheating and having open-relationships are different things. Cheating implies that there was an agreement that this wouldn't happen or a [...]

By | 2016-04-25T11:58:17+00:00 August 3, 2014|Jealousy, Relationship Skills|

Being Attracted To Unavailable and Distant People

Cathy: Do you ever find that you're getting attracted, you find yourself attracted to people that are distant or emotionally unavailable? That can be a pattern that some people can fond to. And if you can just hit them upside the head it would make you feel better. Reid: Yeah, just do that. Next video please. Cathy: This is Reid Mihalko from Reid: Cathy Vartuli from Cathy: Reid, what can someone do [...]

By | 2016-01-06T08:27:59+00:00 August 1, 2014|Dating, Flirting|

Threesomes: I Have An Idea

Cathy: So we're back. Reid is going to explain, "I have an idea." Reid: We're back from what? What if this is this person's first video they're ever watching? They don't really know where we were. Cathy: That's true. Reid: You should probably tell them. Cathy: We were just discussing ... Reid: Who are you? Cathy: I'm Cathy Vartuli from Reid: I'm Reid Mihalko from We apologize if this is your first video. If this [...]

By | 2016-01-06T08:31:12+00:00 July 31, 2014|Sex Geeks|

Is It Safe To Be Sexual With Someone With Herpes?

Cathy: Hi Reid. One of our listeners asked, is it safe to be involved with someone with herpes? Reid: I’m Reid Mihalko from Cathy: I’m Cathy Vartuli from Reid: Is it safe? Cathy: Well, it is true that our culture makes … Reid: That was a shout out to my friends who are really big geeks about Robert Redford films. Do you know the Robert Redford film with that “Is it safe?” [...]

By | 2016-01-05T07:30:53+00:00 July 29, 2014|Dating|