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So far Cathy has created 473 blog entries.

Breaking Up Is Hard To Do

Do you want a different way of looking at breaking up? Start with an exit strategy and communicate so you can transition, rather than disintegrate! Cathy: Breaking up can be really hard. It can be so painful that you stayed on a relationship you don't want to stay in. Reid: It can be painful like that Paul Sedaka, Neil Sedaka song Breaking Up is Hard to Do. Sorry Paul, Neil. [...]

By | 2016-01-05T10:08:49+00:00 June 10, 2013|Dating, Relationship Skills|

What is the Difference Between Poly and Cheating

Ever wondered about Polyamory? Want to know how cheating is different from Poly? Cathy: Hey everyone. If you've been hearing something on the news or just from your friends about open or poly relationships, you may be wondering what the difference between that is and having an affair. Reid: What's the difference between polyamory and cheating? Cathy: It's all about ethics and communication. Reid: And why is that important? Cathy: [...]

By | 2016-01-06T10:38:23+00:00 June 8, 2013|Dating, Relationship Skills|

Impulse Control We’re Not In 7th Grade

Cathy: Hey everyone. You may not realize this but we're not in 7th grade anymore and it is okay to feel attraction to someone and we probably won't explode. Reid: You probably won't hit somebody with your lunchbox because you like them and in 7th grade when we had no impulse control for the most part... Cathy: And all these hormones surging through our bodies... Reid: And just felt weird [...]

By | 2016-01-06T09:00:12+00:00 June 7, 2013|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills|

Safer Sex Talk

Cathy: Have you ever wondered how to talk to someone about safer sex issues, STDs, what you like in bed? Reid: Have you freaked out when it was time for the talk because you didn’t know what exactly was supposed to be in the talk or if it was a good time to have it? Cathy: This is Reid Mihalko from Reid: And this is Cathy Vartuli from [...]

By | 2016-01-11T10:52:35+00:00 June 6, 2013|Body Image, Dating, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Mindful Touching

We can get lost in our heads... and when we're present and mindful, touch feels so amazing! Join Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from to learn more. Reid: Touching with mindfulness and what was it? Cathy: I don't remember what I said. Reid: It was good though. Cathy: Yes. Reid: So touching mindfully is the topic for this video and Cathy Vartuli, why is it important to [...]

By | 2016-04-13T08:21:35+00:00 April 15, 2013|Dating, Relationship Skills, Touch|

Being Physically Intimate with Bigger People

We don't see people having sex with bigger people on TV, generally. There's a lot of internalized shame around sex and bigger people. Making it normal and ok and having great communication (which is important in ANY relationship) can make it lots more fun! Cathy: So if you're playing with someone who is bigger, there's not a lot of information out there on how to play with them? How to [...]

By | 2016-04-13T14:37:29+00:00 March 15, 2013|Body Image, Dating, Shame, Touch|

Reigniting Passion in Your Relationships

Is your relationship growing stale? Are one or both of you shut down or disconnected? Cathy: Hey everyone. Do you want to revitalize your relationship? Reid: Do you want to reignite your passion? Cathy: It can be hard if you're feeling shut down. Reid: Yeah. Cathy: And once you're shut down, you tend not to communicate and I think a lot of people start looking elsewhere for connection. Reid: Uh-hum. [...]

By | 2016-01-06T10:53:04+00:00 March 12, 2013|Dating, Relationship Skills, Touch|

How to Appreciate Bigger Women without Appearing Creepy

Want the inside scoop from Kelly Shibari from and Join Cathy Vartuli from as she talks with Kelly about appreciation and being approached. Cathy: So how does someone approach you and tell you that they like bigger women without appearing creepy. Kelly: You know, the funny thing is when I used to be in college -- because it didn't really happened so much if you're 12 [...]

By | 2016-01-07T09:36:52+00:00 March 9, 2013|Dating, Shame|

How Body Image Changes Romantic Connection

Have you found that body image (your view of your own body, your thoughts about what other people think, what they actually think about your body) gets in the way of connecting with people, especially romantically? We're all built differently, and when we stop critiquing ourselves, we may find that others aren't judging us as harshly as we thought! Want the inside scoop from Kelly Shibari from and [...]

By | 2016-01-07T09:32:50+00:00 March 6, 2013|Dating, Shame, Touch|

Why is Vulnerability Vital to Intimacy?

Why is Vulnerability Vital to Intimacy? Get the deep, meaningful relationships by being authentic and transparent. Learn why and how you can share more of the REAL you! Cathy: We're here today talking about vulnerability. Hi, Reid. Reid: Hi, Cathy. Cathy: And vulnerability is really important for intimacy. Reid: It is? Cathy: Yeah. Reid: It is. It's wicked important, super important. Cathy: Without being able to be vulnerable, we can't [...]

By | 2016-01-06T11:58:46+00:00 March 4, 2013|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills|