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Leading Edge Love – Sex-positive, Emotional Freedom Coach Cathy Vartuli

Hosted by Sumati Sparks Listen Now! We talk about open relationships... body image, shyness, trauma and how they influence how we are in relationships. Questions answered... 1. What is one mistake you see people make over and over when starting open relationships? 2. What got you interested in open relationships? 3. In your coaching, how do you help clients with jealousy issues? 4. What's the most important thing people need [...]

By | 2018-01-11T02:31:32+00:00 January 11, 2018|Uncategorized|

Betrayal… And How Can Someone Bounce Back? Cathy: We have new comment. Hey peeps, running for a dear friend who had a classic narcissistic partner with who have been lying to her for years. A lot something major, it’s a long story. I’m looking for advice about psychological response to experiencing betrayal and the loss of abusive addictive relationship. How can someone flame of bad relationships of their self-talks than can find strength to pick up [...]

What’s The Difference Between An Open Relationship and Poly? Cathy: What's the difference between an open relationship and a polyamorous relationship? This is Yoni Alkan from Yoni: And this is Cathy Vartuli from and we're here today to talk about different types of relationships. Cathy: And it's so fun to dig into and see what other people think. Figure out where you might fit. Yoni: Yeah because every person has their own rules and what they [...]

By | 2017-05-12T13:05:09+00:00 January 6, 2018|Body Image, Collaborators, Dating, Delivery, Energy, Event, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Touch|

What Is Relationship Anarchy? And Do You Bring It Into Your Life? Cathy: What is relationship anarchy? And how do you use it in your life if you want to? This is Yoni Alkan from Yoni: And this is Cathy Vartuli from Cathy: So, we are having dinner and we're talking about this and I find really fascinating. We're talking about a definition of types of relationships. What's relationship anarchist? Yoni: Right. So, relationship anarchy is basically people who [...]

What Are The Types Of Non-Monogamous Relationships? Cathy: I'm here today with Yoni Alkan from and we just had this amazing dinner where we're talking about the types of non-monogamous relationships and we wanted to share some of the ideas that you and I shared. This is Cathy Vartuli from Yoni: I'm Yoni Alkan from and we were taking about different types of non-monogamy and there are endless types because you basically do [...]

What Do I Do When My Eroticism Conflicts With My Politics? Cathy: Someone wrote in and said what do I do with my eroticism and my personal politics collide such as feminists who likes to be called girl by her lovers or black American who likes to be tied up and help captive for a little while. Am I broken? This is Reid Mihalko from Reid: Cathy Vartuli from Who wrote this in, you awesome person for writing [...]

By | 2017-05-12T12:41:35+00:00 December 28, 2017|Body Image, Collaborators, Delivery, Energy, Event, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Touch|

If I Come On Her Pussy, Will She Get Pregnant? Cathy: Another question from the viewer. If I pull out is it okay if I cum on the pussy and just stick it back in. This is Reid from Reid: Cathy Vartuli from Cathy: Oh, Reid Mihalko from Reid: Yeah, we did this on the last video. It’s okay. You all know that I’m Reid, you know that’s Cathy. Ei, we’re good. What’s not good is [...]

How Can I Make A Woman Cum As Fast As Possible? Cathy: Someone new to our channel wrote in and said, “How can I make a girl come really… Is orgasm is fast as possible the first time we meet? This is Reid Mihalko from Reid: Cathy Vartuli. Cathy ‘speedy’ Vartuli from Answer that question, Cathy. Cathy: Absolutely. Reid: It’s a race! Go! Cathy: The best way that I can think of is not to try. It’s about [...]

What If My Partner Doesn’t Want To Sleep Over After Sex? Cathy: We have a wonderful viewer who write in and said that she loved our video on when your partner doesn’t want to sleep with you meaning sexual sleep with you but she said you know I love sleeping after the date like after we have sex. I love when my partner wants to sleep over and I am dating someone right now, he doesn’t want to spend the [...]

I Miss Giving My HSV Positive Partner Oral… Is There Anything I Can Do?

If you have Herpes, do you need to stop having oral sex with your partner? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo and Reid Mihalko and Cathy: Hi guys! My wife has HSV 2 but I don’t I don’t have one or two we’ve been 30 years. I kinda wish I could get infected because I miss giving her oral sex please keep up the good work. This is Reid Mihalko [...]

By | 2017-05-10T20:19:28+00:00 December 19, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Shame, Touch, Trauma|