The Intimacy Dojo Blog

Self Soothing When You’re Stressed!

It can be hard to sooth yourself or release stress. Sometimes the small (and goofy) things can make a big difference. Join the ever humorous Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com as they share their secrets. Reid: Do you self s- What? Cathy: Self soothe. Reid: Self soothe. What are your practices for making yourself unstress? Cathy: It's a really important topic because a lot of people [...]

By | 2016-01-05T07:53:32+00:00 May 27, 2015|Energy|

What Gets You Aroused?

Getting turned on... Getting horney... Getting Aroused or Attracted... what does it mean and how do you navigate it? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: What gets you aroused? What experiences and activities and people get you aroused? This is Reid Mihalko from http://ReidAboutSex.com. Reid: This is Cathy Vartuli from http://TheIntimacyDojo.com. Cathy: She's a little bit scared. Reid: And I'm a little bit aroused. Oh, [...]

By | 2016-01-04T12:44:30+00:00 May 24, 2015|Sex Geeks|

What If I’m Poly But My Friends and Co-Workers Don’t Know?

I'm afraid they'll think I'm cheating if they see me out on a date. What to do with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Reid: Road trip YouTube videos. What are we talking about today Cathy Vartuli of the Intimacy Dojo? Cathy: Dot com. Reid: Dot com. Cathy: And Reid Mihalko from http://ReidAboutSex.com. We're talking about poly. Someone wrote in and said, "I'm poly, but I'm afraid [...]

By | 2016-01-05T09:14:42+00:00 May 21, 2015|Dating, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

What If You Like Someone Who Doesn’t Like You Back?

If you want someone, you're attracted, and they say no... what can you do? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Reid: This is a really good video that you picked. If you missed the one before it this is still good, but the one before it whoa! Cathy: When you’re attracted or aroused towards someone and they don’t reciprocate how do you handle that and how [...]

By | 2016-01-05T08:31:42+00:00 May 19, 2015|Relationship Skills|

How Can I Know When To Stop In Bed?

Do you know when to stop? Some women want to stop when they have an orgasm, and some women are multi-orgasmic, or just want to keep enjoying. Some men, too. Having a discussion with your partner about it can be really powerful. There's ways that you can set up agreements ahead of time. Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com as they talk about when to [...]

By | 2016-01-04T12:47:14+00:00 May 16, 2015|Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Touch|

How Can I Receive Compliments Better?

Receiving compliments can be a challenge. How can you make it easier to accept compliments? A lot of people, especially women, are taught not to receive them very well. We're taught that if we say "Oh, thank you," that that will be kind of prideful or selfish - that we should not receive compliments. But it does hurt when you say something genuine to someone and they reject it. Join [...]

By | 2016-01-05T09:18:16+00:00 May 13, 2015|Body Image, Flirting, Shame|

How Can I Share My STI / STD Test Results With My Partner?

How to make it seem normal to talk about STI testing which isn't in our society? Talking about things with your partner before you do them, can soften the blow. You don't want it to come as a surprise. Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com as they share ways to tell your partner about your STI/STD results. Cathy: One of our listeners wrote in and said she [...]

By | 2016-01-05T06:12:12+00:00 May 10, 2015|Relationship Skills|

How Can You Have Good Boundaries When You’re Being Goofy?

People like being playful and goofy, but they are not necessarily being as careful about boundaries. State your boundaries so that you can be even more playful. It's not the other way around. With boundaries you can make people feel safer, and they will play back with you. Hear what relationship expert Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com have to say about how you can have good boundaries when you're [...]

By | 2016-01-05T09:33:31+00:00 May 7, 2015|Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

How Do You Avoid Dependency In A Relationship?

We’re all taught that we should avoid dependency in a relationship, that codependency is bad. What can you do to avoid that? Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com as they share more about this topic. Cathy: We're all taught that we should avoid dependency in a relationship, that it's bad, codependency is bad. What can you do to avoid that? This is Reid Mihalko [...]

By | 2016-01-05T09:38:14+00:00 May 4, 2015|Dating, Energy, Relationship Skills|

Finding A Balance: Self-Expression and Helping Others Feel Comfortable

How to find a balance where you're not offending? Some people are hard to read so you don't always know, if you've offended people. Finding that safe balance  can be a challenge. Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com as they talk about how to find a balance between self-expression and helping others feel comfortable. Cathy: I had shared in a video how I don't like to [...]

By | 2016-01-05T09:42:01+00:00 May 1, 2015|Energy, Relationship Skills|