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If Relationships Aren’t “Forever” How Does That Change The Nature of Relationships?

Changing the parameters of what we expect from relationships can bring freedom... But it can also rewrite the rules of relationships. What's important going forward? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, "Should we stop seeing relationships as made for life? What's the alternative in terms of the conditions of relationships? How do we define the future of the [...]

By |2016-09-23T14:40:18+00:00January 31, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|
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Jealousy Explained

Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.ThrivingNow.com (and founder of http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com) discuss the different aspects of jealousy and how understanding the "8-arms" of jealousy can add ease and deepen connection. Cathy: This is Cathy Vartuli from http://ThrivingNow.com. I'm here with Reid Mihalko from http://ReidAboutSex.com. We're talking about jealousy. Reid: This is video three. There are two other videos if you have not seen them. Cathy: They stand alone, [...]

By |2016-09-08T06:37:57+00:00January 31, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|
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Hot Sex… Until You Moved In Together?

Great sex drying up once you shack up? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Reid: Your partner and you were having lots of sex.  Cathy: Hot sex.  Reid: Hot, hot frequent sex and then you moved in together and poof! It evaporated. Not so frequent.  Cathy: Not so hot.  Reid: Not so hot. What do you do? I'm Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com.  Cathy: He's a little [...]

By |2016-09-23T14:38:23+00:00January 28, 2017|Dating, Energy, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|
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How Do You Know When Someone Has An Awkward Crush And When They’re Creepy?

Is someone a stalker or just really sweetly awkward? How can you tell? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Reid: We're eating chewable vitamins, and we're going to do this video while we make these faces. Cathy: I've finished mine, hopefully. Reid: What's the question? Cathy: This came from ... We had a video on dealing with a mini stalker. Reid: A mini stalker? [...]

By |2016-09-23T14:37:36+00:00January 25, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|
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How Do I Know If My Rules Are Reasonable In My Poly Relationship?

What is "reasonable" to ask for in a relationship? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo and Reid Mihalko and http://www.ReidAboutSex.com as they disagree and debate. Cathy: Hi Reid and Cathy. I really need some advice and someone to tell me if the rule I have in my poly relationship is reasonable or not. My primary partner has started dating someone else for the first time in 6 years. I [...]

By |2016-09-23T14:37:00+00:00January 23, 2017|Collaborators, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|
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Does Holding Hands Make You Uncomfortable? Can You Get Close To People Anyway?

Are you scared or uncomfortable holding hands? How can you date or let people close? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: What do you do if you want to get close to people, you want to go dating, but you're scared of holding hands?  Reid: This is Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com.  Cathy: This is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. If you are not comfortable [...]

By |2016-09-23T14:36:08+00:00January 20, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Touch|
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Afraid of Touch? Tips for Creating Safety Around Touch

Fear of touch can create a conflict- you long for connection and you freeze up at the thought. People need touch to really thrive. Avoid skin hunger and learn how to start feeling safer receiving concentual touch and getting the warmth and connection you long for. Reid Mihalko from http://www.reidaboutsex.com/ and Cathy Vartuli from https://www.theintimacydojo.com/ share tips and approaches to allow you to feel safer giving and receiving touch. Cathy: Hey, [...]

By |2016-09-23T14:31:29+00:00January 17, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Touch|
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What If Your Potential Partner Has Herpes?

A lot of people are nervous about connecting with people with herpes. Join Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com as they share. Cathy: Hi Reid. One of our listeners asked, is it safe to be involved with someone with herpes? Reid: I'm Reid Mihalko from http://ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: I'm Cathy Vartuli from http://TheIntimacyDojo.com Reid: Is it safe? Cathy: Well, it is true that our culture makes ... Reid: That was a shout [...]

By |2016-09-23T14:30:52+00:00January 14, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame, Trauma|
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If I Have Sex With Him, Will He Disappear?

Traditional advise says women should hold back on being sexual so the man will pursue. Is that still valid and what are the alternatives? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: One of our viewers wrote in and said, “I recently had sexual encounter with a new man. I know we really like each other and we seeing each other twice now. Something I [...]

By |2016-09-23T14:30:03+00:00January 11, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Trauma|
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How Do You Put On A Condom?

What's the best way to put on a condom? And have fun with bananas? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: How do you put on a condom?  Reid: Banana time. Condoms on bananas, yeah.  Cathy: This is Ried Mihalko from http://www.Reidaboutsex.com.  Reid: This is Cathy Vartulli from the http://www.Intimacydojo.com. Today is banana day. Hello, yes. I would like to learn how to put on a [...]

By |2016-09-22T16:58:18+00:00January 8, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|
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