The Intimacy Dojo Blog

Your Partner Asks You To Make A Change… Do You Try Or Honor Where You Are?

Self-expression and boundaries are great things to have. But if someone asks you to upgrade some behavior or skill, how do you know when to stick to your self-expression and when to level up? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LMHWGXJUCmQ Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, my question is say my partner ask to meet a need for them, which is difficult for me. How [...]

By | 2017-05-04T15:59:46+00:00 July 22, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

What’s A Respectful Way To End A Date And Close The Evening?

Wanting to end the connection for the evening in a loving and respectful way? Learn how with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GCYKV21YooU Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, I’d like to see of examples of respectful goodbye rituals from long term partners to unhook from each other and smooth out their own Velcro hooks so they can go well and return keenly. Do you have [...]

By | 2017-05-04T16:04:26+00:00 July 19, 2017|Dating, Event, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

How Do You Deal With Jealousy Of Sex Ed Peers?

With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: Someone wrote and said I really loved that I have some amazing friends in the sex ed business.  My peers are amazing, they’re great people I noticing though that I have a lot of jealousy. One of my friends just released a book and there’s a big to-do over it and other friends is giving side talk at Ted. How [...]

By | 2017-05-04T15:17:40+00:00 July 16, 2017|Dating, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Passionate About Sharing Sex Ed and Sex Positivity? Where Do You Start?

Where do you begin when you are planning to start your own sex positive business? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy:  If you’re starting out in business you could see that there’s so many things to do and especially if you’re only passion about getting sex ed and sex positive information out there. Where do you start? Reid: Oh, my goodness! This is Cathy Vartuli from http://www.theintimacydojo.com/ [...]

By | 2017-05-04T15:15:01+00:00 July 13, 2017|Dating, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

How To Run A Sex Geek Work Weekend

How do you facilitate work weekends with your sex educator peers? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: So someone wrote in and said, I heard about these works weekends, I’ve been running some and another people get to or people get together and crank out work. It's lot more fun sometimes and they’re wanting to know how to facilitate it where people are not chatting too [...]

By | 2017-05-03T20:11:13+00:00 July 10, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

How Can You Handle It If You Get Banned From A Community?

You don't know what you did and you're being banned from the community. How do you handle it? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Reid: What happens if you get banned from a community? How should you handle that? Cathy: This Reid Mihalko from http://www.reidaboutsex.com/. Reid: Cathy Vartuli from http://www.theintimacydojo.com/. Cathy: That would really be hard and it’s hard to balance that. Balance running events in the [...]

By | 2017-05-03T19:54:53+00:00 July 7, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills|

What Happens If Your Love Life Withers… Can You Bring It Back?

If desire goes away, can you revive it? With Elizabeth Wood and Dan Powers from http://www.BeyondTheBedroom.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com. Cathy: What happens when your love life dies and withers? Can you ever bring it back? I'm here with Elizabeth Wood and Dan Powers from http://www.BeyondTheBedroomEvents.com/ and I'm Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com/. Elizabeth: Great question. Do you want to talk personal experience, or do you want to just talk [...]

By | 2017-05-03T14:53:27+00:00 July 4, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills|

Cyber Flirting Basics… What To Do

How do people cyber flirt? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo and Reid Mihalko and http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Reid: Cyber flirting. How do you do it? I'm Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com. Reid: Well this is fun for me because Cathy usually picks all the questions because Cathy is better than this than I am and now I have a topic. We have different dating styles… Cathy: Well because you're an [...]

By | 2017-05-03T03:54:12+00:00 July 1, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

How Do You Know When Its Safe To Kiss Someone If You Have Herpes?

Is it safe to kiss someone if you have Herpes? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo and Reid Mihalko and http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, “If you have HSV-1 or Herpes 1, how do you know when to kiss again?” That’s really a pointy question. If you found out and diagnosed with something, how do you know when you’re safe? How do you know when you can reach out and reconnect [...]

By | 2017-05-03T03:31:05+00:00 June 28, 2017|Flirting, Relationship Skills, Shame|

Facing Judgement As A Sex Educator and/or Sex Worker?

Shamed for being a sex educator and/or sex worker? What can you do? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo and Reid Mihalko and http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: Are you going to do the business thing? Reid: Yah I’m going to do the business thing cause when I’m wearing the Sex Geek Summer Camp t-shirt that means were talking about business for sex educators and things like that. Cathy: What’s like wearing purple orchid [...]

By | 2017-05-03T03:12:58+00:00 June 25, 2017|Flirting, Sex Geeks, Shame|