Body Image

Is It All About Looks When You’re Dating?

How much do looks matter when you're out there dating? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo and Reid Mihalko and http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: We did a video a few months ago about status, how people have different status something you should consider when you’re dating. Someone replied and said forget status it’s all about looks. This is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Reid: Handsome is the day’s long, this is Cathy Vartuli from [...]

By | 2017-05-12T15:40:23+00:00 February 5, 2018|Body Image, Dating, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Shame, Touch|

Is It Ever Your Fault If You’re INCEL (Involuntarily Celibate)?

Should you blame yourself if you aren't ever connecting sexually? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo and Reid Mihalko and http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: We had a video on incels, people that are voluntarily celibate. And someone wrote in and said, white male that are incel are very pathetic, they belong in a group of men that are sought after by women. So your inability to get a decent woman is all caps [...]

By | 2017-05-12T15:38:58+00:00 February 2, 2018|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

How Do I Reclaim My Sexuality After Trauma?

If you've shut down due to trauma or traumatic experiences, how do you open up again? How can you embrace your sexuality? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo and Reid Mihalko and http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, how do I go about regaining self-ownership of my body and sexual aspect after a trauma? I’m a 46 year old divorced gay man who had an incest in military in sexual [...]

By | 2017-05-12T15:37:35+00:00 January 31, 2018|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

How To Deal with People Who Say That There’s Something Wrong about You Because You’re Bigger?

If you're fat or bigger, what do you do if someone says there's something wrong with you for being larger? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo and Reid Mihalko and http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: Someone wrote in in response to a video that Ashley Man did together about being bigger and being sexual. And they said, your fatties need to recognize that you're mentally ill. You over eat because there's something about you [...]

By | 2017-05-12T15:36:24+00:00 January 24, 2018|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

How Do You Deal With Repeated Minor Putdowns?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LOAbTeO5kr8 Cathy: At camp, Sex Geek Summer Camp which Reid respond amazing event there were lot of talks about people were talking about micro aggressions were and how to make people feel valued and welcomed. I don’t meddle a lot or talked to that really well. And one question we have is what is the difference about micro aggression and genuine expression for instance if one person always says you [...]

Where Is The Boundary Between Other People’s Need To Feel Special, and My Consent

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1nplixJBKeQ Cathy: So, where is the boundary between other people’s need to feel special and my consent? This is Reid Mihalko from www.ReidAboutSex.com Reid: Cathy Vartuli from www.TheIntimacyDojo.com Cathy: You do remember who I am? Reid: Yes I do but this is a good question, read the question again. Cathy: Some people have a very strong need to feel special and where is the boundary between their need to feel [...]

How Do You Extricate Yourself When You’re Dating Someone Who Isn’t Your Species?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3YUOMyOMVuE Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, we talked how not to fall in love but how we extricate yourself when you realize you’re not with your species really bad fit but those cocaine addiction chemicals is still happily trapping through the system. This is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com/ Reid: This is Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com/ Cathy: It’s a great question! Reid: Wooh!  You know you have a drug problem [...]

Bisexuality… What About It?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FA7W2SQsvuA Cathy: Someone wrote in and said could you talk more about bisexuality, there’s not a lot out there that I like at it. Reid: Bisexuality? I can’t see it! It’s invisible. This is Cathy Vartuli from https://TheIntimacyDojo.com/. Cathy: This is Reid Mihalko from https://ReidAboutSex.com/. Reid: It’s a little joke for bisexuals out there about bisexual invisibility. Cathy: A lot of society just don’t see them as they don’t think [...]

What’s The Difference Between An Open Relationship and Poly?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Muv_s_Y00-A Cathy: What's the difference between an open relationship and a polyamorous relationship? This is Yoni Alkan from http://www.ElementsOfSexuality.com/. Yoni: And this is Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com/ and we're here today to talk about different types of relationships. Cathy: And it's so fun to dig into and see what other people think. Figure out where you might fit. Yoni: Yeah because every person has their own rules and what they [...]

By | 2017-05-12T13:05:09+00:00 January 6, 2018|Body Image, Collaborators, Dating, Delivery, Energy, Event, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Touch|

What Is Relationship Anarchy? And Do You Bring It Into Your Life?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=71esHaTB4xs Cathy: What is relationship anarchy? And how do you use it in your life if you want to? This is Yoni Alkan from http://www.ElementsOfSexuality.com. Yoni: And this is Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com/. Cathy: So, we are having dinner and we're talking about this and I find really fascinating. We're talking about a definition of types of relationships. What's relationship anarchist? Yoni: Right. So, relationship anarchy is basically people who [...]