Body Image

If Your STD/STI Test Is Negative… Are You “Clean” or “Clear”?

What correct term do you use when your STI test comes back negative? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xk_gL2w_6nE Reid: Hey Cathy, I just got tested and I'm clean. How about you? Cathy: Reid, I love that you got tested, and you're clean whether you showered or not, not whether you got tested negative or not. Reid: What does that mean? I'm confused. Cathy: This [...]

By | 2017-05-09T15:57:37+00:00 September 5, 2017|Body Image, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Is It Possible To Be “Undateable”?

When do you label a person as undateable? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cjyf3YQlumM Cathy: Is there anyone undateable? This is Reid Mihalko from http://reidaboutsex.com/ Reid: Cathy Vatuli from the http://theintimacydojo.com/ Cathy: And BBC did a documentary called the Undateables, people that no ones dating and the person wrote in just find that people were just too older, too ugly for anyone to ever want [...]

By | 2017-05-09T15:33:53+00:00 August 30, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Trauma|

Coming Out Kinky… To Your Kids?

How do you come out kinky (or do you...) to your children? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com.   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U_Ym9apOxOk Cathy: How do parents come out to their kids if they’re poly, gay or kinky? This is Reid Mihalko from http://reidaboutsex.com/ Reid: Cathy Vartuli from http://theintimacydojo.com/ Cathy: And Reid has this great thing called the difficult conversation formula. Reid: At http://reidaboutsex.com/difficult-conversation-formula/ Cathy: And we’ll put the [...]

By | 2017-08-26T19:08:00+00:00 August 21, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

Creating Safe Space For Yourself and Others

How do you make a safe space for you and for others around you? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GBUt7BouxoE Cathy: Do you create safe space for yourself? Reid: It’s fucked out of me. Cathy: This is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Reid: Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com. I swore I’m right in the beginning of the video. Fuck! Alright, how do you create safe space? Cathy: Actually, [...]

By | 2017-05-05T14:26:37+00:00 August 12, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

What Is Gender Queer?

And what about pronouns? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com, Andi Cortland from http://www.LevelUpSex.com. Cathy: What is genderqueer? I'm Catherine Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com. I'm really honored to be joined today by Andi Cortland.  Andi: From http://www.LevelUpSex.com. Today, we're talking about genderqueer. For me, that means that I don't feel like a man. I don't feel like a woman. I just feel like a human. It would be pretty awesome if people [...]

By | 2016-11-07T16:07:53+00:00 April 29, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Act As If You Were Lovable

Hi everyone. I’m Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and today we’re talking about loving yourself. We get people all the time saying how they want to improve how they feel about themselves or self-esteem. How they come to relate to other people and court to that is how much you care for yourself. When you see someone walking down the street as if they are lovable and deserving, good things should [...]

By | 2016-09-23T15:00:04+00:00 April 2, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

Transitioning Gender? How Do People React In Mainstream Communities?

When you're transitioning your gender, how do people react? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com, Andi Cortland from http://www.LevelUpSex.com and Raj. Cathy: When you're transitioning gender, what are other people's reactions when you're in the mainstream? I'm Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com.  Andi: I'm Andi Cortland from http://www.LevelUpSex.com.  Raj: I'm Raj. I'm married to Andi.  Cathy: Thanks for being here. You're transitioning your gender?  Andi: Yes.  Cathy: I'm curious for both of [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:54:27+00:00 March 11, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

What Do You Do When One Partner Wants Something and The Other Doesn’t?

How do you deal with the shame and social pressure and choose what's right for you? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com, Andi Cortland from http://www.LevelUpSex.com and Raj. Cathy: How do you deal with it when one partner wants something and the other partner doesn't? I'm Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com.  Andi: I'm Andi Cortland from http://www.LevelUpSex.com.  Raj: I'm Raj, I'm married to Andi.  Cathy: It is a challenge when ... We're [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:42:29+00:00 February 9, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

How Does The Sex Positive Community React To Gender and Relationship Changes?

Even in a super supportive community, it can be challenging to change how we identify ourselves, either in relationships (opening up) or gender. How does it feel? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com, Andi Cortland from http://www.LevelUpSex.com and Raj. Cathy: Whether you're opening up your relationship or transitioning gender or whatever you are doing in your relationship how does that feel as part of the sex positive community, what are your [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:41:53+00:00 February 6, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

What If Your Potential Partner Has Herpes?

A lot of people are nervous about connecting with people with herpes. Join Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com as they share. Cathy: Hi Reid. One of our listeners asked, is it safe to be involved with someone with herpes? Reid: I'm Reid Mihalko from http://ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: I'm Cathy Vartuli from http://TheIntimacyDojo.com Reid: Is it safe? Cathy: Well, it is true that our culture makes ... Reid: That was a shout [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:30:52+00:00 January 14, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame, Trauma|