Dating

What If You Want To Change The Level of Connection in A Relationship?

Been Hanging out with someone and want to not spend the same amount of time and intimacy with them? What do you do? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com, Andi Cortland from http://www.LevelUpSex.com. Andi: That's really interesting, but then what happens if say you have had a connection with someone in the past, but right now you're just totally overbooked? You have so many amazing things happening in your life that [...]

By | 2016-09-22T15:02:51+00:00 October 22, 2016|Dating, Energy, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Jealousy in Polyamorous Relationships: Examples and Stories

Wanting to handle jealousy better? What are examples of jealousy in poly relationships? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: Someone wrote in and asked about jealousy in a polyamorous relationship and was asking if we had some stories we could share that would help bring it down to a real level, like a more practical experiential level.  Reid: And Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com has a [...]

By | 2016-09-22T14:57:07+00:00 October 10, 2016|Dating, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Jealousy and the Law of Attraction

How does understanding jealousy can help you attract more of what you want in your life? Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.ThrivingNow.com (and founder of http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com) discuss how understanding jealousy can help you attract more of what you want in your life. Cathy: This is Cathy Vartuli from http://ThrivingNow.com. I'm here with Reid Mihalko from http://ReidAboutSex.com. If you saw the first video, we were talking about how [...]

By | 2016-09-19T14:36:36+00:00 October 7, 2016|Dating, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

How Can Understanding Jealousy Give You More Confidence?

Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.ThrivingNow.com (and founder of http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com) discuss how understanding jealousy can give you more confidence. Cathy: Good evening, this is Cathy Vartuli from http://ThrivingNow.com. I'm here with Reid Mihalko from http://ReidAboutSex.com. We're going to be talking about jealousy today. Reid: The green-eyed beast. Cathy: We all have jealousy and our society does not teach us how to deal with it well, most of [...]

By | 2016-09-19T14:33:29+00:00 October 4, 2016|Dating, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

When Can Disappointment and Grief Be Triggered By Childhood Experiences?

Sometimes emotional pain can hit us out of the blue... And seem way out of line with the intensity we might expect. Sometimes that's because the disappointment is resonating with something from your childhood. What do you do? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: Dealing with the grief of disappointment. How do you do it? This is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com.  Reid: This [...]

By | 2016-09-19T14:31:11+00:00 October 1, 2016|Dating, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Shame|

When Is Disappointment Useful?

Disappointment is a feeling most of us avoid... But what if it can be a useful and insightful signal to pay attention to? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: So Reid, you've shared with me that you think that, are you going to pick on me now? That people can most determine when they have expectations because they experience disappointment. Explain.  Reid: Yeah, [...]

By | 2016-09-19T14:29:46+00:00 September 28, 2016|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Trauma|

Dealing With Expectations, Agreements, And Disappointment

How do you gracefully (or even awkwardly) handle unmet expectations, agreements and disappointment? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Reid: Video number two on expectations.  Cathy: Dealing with disappointment, because they go often hand in hand.  Reid: Yes, I'm Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. This is Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com. Go, Cathy, go.  Cathy: We just did a video on how disappointment can be a [...]

By | 2016-09-22T14:46:25+00:00 September 25, 2016|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Dealing With Envy and Disappointment When There’s No Way To Get That Need Met…

It's easier to deal with disappointment and envy when you have alternatives... Can't have chocolate ice cream, just have chocolate chip. What do you when you can't have ice cream at all? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: This is Reid being helpful.  Reid: This is a very important question and I'm feeling intimidated.  Cathy: Someone asked:  "How do you deal with envy [...]

By | 2016-09-22T14:50:24+00:00 September 22, 2016|Dating, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Trauma|

How Do You Handle Disappointment In The Bedroom?

Disappointment sucks. In the bedroom it can bring debilitating shame. What can you do and how can you handle it?     With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Reid: Disappointment and ponies. Video number four. This one's about disappointment in bed. I'm Reid Milhako from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: Cathy Vartulli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com. We are not talking about sleeping with ponies, not that we judge anybody [...]

By | 2016-09-19T06:34:17+00:00 September 19, 2016|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame, Uncategorized|

If You Don’t Want To Have Sex With Your Partner… Should You?

Do you tell your partner if you're not in the mood to have sex?     Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1GTMgV5HqBU Reid: Welcome back. Or if this is the first video that you are watching. Welcome for the first time. Cathy: We are talking about how you can talk to your partner about not wanting to have sex, and do it in [...]

By | 2016-08-08T19:36:48+00:00 August 11, 2016|Body Image, Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Touch|