Dating

Expectations and Agreements

Where do expectations get in the way, and how are they helpful? When do you want agreements and when are they too much work? Cathy: Hi everyone, I'm Cathy Vartuli from the http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and I want to talk today about expectations versus agreements. Most of us are really good with expectations, we have them all the time. We were brought up in a certain culture, a certain set of social [...]

By | 2016-01-06T10:15:45+00:00 June 22, 2014|Dating, Energy, Relationship Skills|

Dealing with People Who Shame You About Body Image and Size

Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Ashley Manta from http://www.AshleyManta.com talk about body image and how to deal with people who use shame to try to "fix" you. Cathy: Hey everyone we are talking about how we can interact with people who are trying to be helpful and giving us advice and suggestions on body image when really they are more shaming and less encouraging than we would like. I'm Cathy [...]

By | 2016-01-07T09:30:17+00:00 June 20, 2014|Body Image, Dating, Relationship Skills, Shame|

What If Someone Apologizes, But Keeps Repeating The Action

Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com as they discuss what to do if some repeats an out of integrity action over and over. Cathy: In an earlier video, we talked about the Five Languages of Apology, by Gary Chapman which is a great book. It's really powerful. It talks about ways we can apologize to our partners so it really lands. Someone wrote in and [...]

By | 2016-01-06T10:19:15+00:00 June 18, 2014|Dating, Relationship Skills, Shame, Trauma|

Safer Sex Elevator Speech On The Third Date? When To Bring This Up

Ever wonder how to have "The Talk" with your date? Reid and Cathy discuss when to share the safer sex elevator speech. Discussing safer sex issues and concerns can bring a lot of ease to a new or an established connection, and sets the groundwork for talking about challenging things. Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com as they discuss the Safer Sex Elevator Speech. [...]

By | 2016-01-06T10:20:52+00:00 June 16, 2014|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Body Image and Sexuality

How you view and connect with your body can strongly effect how you express your sexuality (and whether you express it at all). Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Ashley Manta from http://AshleyManta.com talk about body image and how you can improve yours to improve your sex life! Cathy: Hello, we’re talking about body image now and about how we view our body has an amazing impact on positive and negative [...]

By | 2016-01-07T09:31:55+00:00 June 15, 2014|Body Image, Dating, Shame|

Talking about STIs with Ashley Manta

Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Ashley Manta from http://www.AshleyManta.com talk about STDs and how it can appear like a relationship death sentence to some and how releasing shame and normalizing talking about STI status can improve your relationship. Reid Mihalko's Difficult Conversation Formula that we mentioned in the call is here: http://reidaboutsex.com/difficult-con... Here's the link to The Herpes Opportunity website: www.herpesopportunity.com and these are Adrial's two amazing handouts, one for [...]

By | 2016-01-06T08:43:45+00:00 June 14, 2014|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Shame|

Dealing With People Who Cut You Off, Or Won’t Stop Talking

Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com as they share what to do, whether your lead workshops or in your personal life, when people cut you off or won't stop talking. Cathy: Are you ever in a situation where all of a sudden someone will ... Reid: Cut you off, and then keeps talking? Cathy: Yes. Reid: Yeah. Happens all the time. Cathy: (Laughs) It can be difficult [...]

By | 2015-12-22T21:50:57+00:00 June 12, 2014|Collaborators, Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills|

Resolving Disagreements With Your Partner

What do you do when your partner, friend, co-worker or family member feels strongly about a topic, and disagrees with you? This can cause fights and tension. Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com as they give you tips and suggestions. Cathy: Hi, this is Cathy Vartuli from http://TheIntimacyDojo.com. Reid: I'm Reid Mihalko from http://ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: We all have friends, partners, lovers, coworkers who we may admire and [...]

By | 2016-04-18T10:41:05+00:00 June 8, 2014|Dating, Relationship Skills|

What To Do If Your Partner Isn’t Hard

Not to sure what to do in bed if your partner's penis isn't hard? Do you feel ashamed or embarrassed? Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com as they discuss playing with penises if they aren't hard. Cathy: Hey everyone. Have you ever been in bed with someone and you weren't quite sure how to proceed. Maybe they weren't getting hard when you were playing [...]

By | 2016-01-06T08:47:09+00:00 June 6, 2014|Dating, Relationship Skills, Shame, Touch|

The Big O, and Goal Oriented Sex…How They Can Get In The Way of Deep Intimacy

Rather than focusing on the big O as a sign that you did a good job...try focusing on the connection and the joy. When we take the pressure off, and don't shame each other for not "getting there", we can be more present and enjoy ourselves a lot more. Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Ashely Manta from http://www.AshleyManta.com share. Cathy: If you read the latest addition of Cosmo, you'll see a [...]

By | 2016-01-06T08:48:42+00:00 June 4, 2014|Collaborators, Dating, Relationship Skills, Touch|