Stuck In The Friend Zone

Cathy: Some people end up being friends with everyone they're interested with romantically. It doesn't ever quite transition to romantic. They end up being buddies. That can be really frustrating. Reid: The friend zone. Cathy: Yes. It can be very frustrating.  What would you do, Reid Mihalko, from Reid: I don't know, Cathy Vartuli from What would I do? What a weird segue. Being stuck in the friend zone. [...]

By | 2016-01-06T09:51:24+00:00 August 18, 2014|Dating, Flirting|

Reframing Fighting

Reid: Hi, I'm Reid Mihalko from Cathy: I'm Cathy Vartuli from the Reid: Yeah, and today we're going to talk about reframing fighting. Cathy: It's really powerful because in our society, we do have a tendency ... Reid: Whatever. Cathy: To have discussions that are ... one of us has to win and I'm going to beat him up until he gives in or his going to give me the cold [...]

By | 2016-01-06T09:52:21+00:00 August 16, 2014|Dating, Relationship Skills|

Doing Things in Bed That You Don’t Want to Do

Cathy: We had someone write in to us and say that their partner is wanting them to try things in bed that they don't really know they want to try. They're not really sure and ... Reid: Like eating cookies in bed? Cathy: Yeah. I'm sure that was it. Reid: That's crummy. Cathy: Oh my god. Reid: I'm Reid Mihalko from Cathy: I am Cathy Vartuli from  and I am so [...]

By | 2016-01-19T13:56:34+00:00 August 16, 2014|Dating, Relationship Skills|

How Do I Know When She’s Come

Cathy: How do you know when she has an orgasm, so you know when to stop? Someone wrote in asking about that and I love that the person wants to know more. There is a lot of pressure I think in our society to know when the person had an orgasm or not. Reid: Our society is very orgasm-centric. Cathy: You supposed to do the orgasm then you're done. Reid: Yeah, because now we [...]

By | 2016-01-06T08:24:12+00:00 August 9, 2014|Dating, Sex Geeks, Touch|

Digging Deeping In Your Relationship

Cathy: Have you found that your relationship might be a little stagnant? Or that you're not growing as fast as you would like? Reid: What? I thought everything was fine. What are you telling me? Cathy: Actually, digging into some of the deeper stuff in your relationship, having the conversations that you don't normally have, can help you both grow. It can also deepen your relationship. Reid: That sounds scary. Cathy: It is, sometimes. [...]

By | 2016-01-06T09:56:10+00:00 August 7, 2014|Dating, Relationship Skills|


Cathy: Someone wrote in and asked, she said she's interested in a married man and she doesn't know what to do. Reid: Mmmhmmmm ... Cathy: This is Reid Mihalko from ... Reid: I'm going to assume that that man's not married to her. Cathy: No, he's not. Reid: Mmmhmmm ... Cathy: This is Reid Mihalko from Reid: This is Cathy Vartuli from Cathy: What would you suggest? Reid: Mmhmmm ... Well, well, well, you had to come [...]

By | 2016-01-05T10:16:35+00:00 August 7, 2014|Dating, Jealousy, Relationship Skills|

Does He Love Me

Cathy: Does he love me? How can I tell? Someone wrote in and asked us that question the other day. It's a great question. And this is Reid Mihalko from and I'm Cathy Vartuli from and apparently, we've killed him, so I'll just do this talk without him. Reid: Oh, let me count the ways. How do you tell? Have you asked? Cathy: Yeah, talking about it can ... Reid: Excuse [...]

By | 2016-01-06T10:06:43+00:00 August 5, 2014|Dating, Relationship Skills|

Being Attracted To Unavailable and Distant People

Cathy: Do you ever find that you're getting attracted, you find yourself attracted to people that are distant or emotionally unavailable? That can be a pattern that some people can fond to. And if you can just hit them upside the head it would make you feel better. Reid: Yeah, just do that. Next video please. Cathy: This is Reid Mihalko from Reid: Cathy Vartuli from Cathy: Reid, what can someone do [...]

By | 2016-01-06T08:27:59+00:00 August 1, 2014|Dating, Flirting|

Is It Safe To Be Sexual With Someone With Herpes?

Cathy: Hi Reid. One of our listeners asked, is it safe to be involved with someone with herpes? Reid: I’m Reid Mihalko from Cathy: I’m Cathy Vartuli from Reid: Is it safe? Cathy: Well, it is true that our culture makes … Reid: That was a shout out to my friends who are really big geeks about Robert Redford films. Do you know the Robert Redford film with that “Is it safe?” [...]

By | 2016-01-05T07:30:53+00:00 July 29, 2014|Dating|

If I Need Lube For Sex…Does That Mean I’m Not Turned On?

Cathy: We had someone write to us about needing lube for sex. She had thought originally because she needed lube, her partner thought that that meant she wasn't turned on. What do you think about that Reid? Reid: I have lots of thoughts about this. I'm Reid Mihalko from Cathy: I'm Cathy Vartuli from Reid: Lube. Lube, lube, lube, lube, lube, lube, lube, lube. Lube's a good thing, don't mean anything, if you [...]

By | 2016-01-04T12:57:53+00:00 July 25, 2014|Dating, Sex Geeks, Touch|