What To Do If Your Partner Isn’t Hard

Not to sure what to do in bed if your partner's penis isn't hard? Do you feel ashamed or embarrassed? Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from as they discuss playing with penises if they aren't hard. Cathy: Hey everyone. Have you ever been in bed with someone and you weren't quite sure how to proceed. Maybe they weren't getting hard when you were playing [...]

By | 2016-01-06T08:47:09+00:00 June 6, 2014|Dating, Relationship Skills, Shame, Touch|

The Big O, and Goal Oriented Sex…How They Can Get In The Way of Deep Intimacy

Rather than focusing on the big O as a sign that you did a good job...try focusing on the connection and the joy. When we take the pressure off, and don't shame each other for not "getting there", we can be more present and enjoy ourselves a lot more. Cathy Vartuli from and Ashely Manta from share. Cathy: If you read the latest addition of Cosmo, you'll see a [...]

By | 2016-01-06T08:48:42+00:00 June 4, 2014|Collaborators, Dating, Relationship Skills, Touch|

What To Do When Someone Is Really Clingy

Dealing with clingy people can be overwhelming and unsettling. Learn how to create boundaries, talk to people and upgrade your relationships. Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from as they discuss dealing with clingy people in an empowered way. (Please note, we decided not to chop the beginning, and let you see how truly goofy Reid is!) Cathy: Luckily, I can edit these and chop off [...]

By | 2016-04-18T11:32:40+00:00 July 24, 2013|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills|

Delayed Ejaculation: Suggestions with Humor

If you have trouble ejaculating, or have a partner who does, this video will give you insights and ideas to help. Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from as they share ways to talk about delayed ejaculation and increase pleasure. Cathy: Hi, I'm Cathy Vartuli from Reid: I'm Reid Mihalko from Cathy: We have a video on premature ejaculation. Reid: It's really shitty. Cathy:  (Laughs) Oh my God! [...]

By | 2016-01-04T12:59:45+00:00 July 21, 2013|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Gender and Identity with Allison Moon

Allison Moon from joins Cathy Vartuli from and about gender and identity. Cathy: Hey, everyone. This is Cathy Vartuli from here with Allison Moon from So you teach some classes approach. Can you share a little bit for people that -- a lot of people think everything is very binary, and you're either male or female and you should be more to attract someone. And to [...]

By | 2016-01-07T09:35:38+00:00 June 21, 2013|Dating, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

As A Woman Who Likes Women…What Is Your Favorite Thing About A Vulva?

Allison Moon from joins Cathy Vartuli from and shares what she most likes about vulvas... learn more here! Cathy: Hey, everyone. This is Cathy Vartuli from, and I'm here today with Allison Moon from Hey, Allison! Allison: Hi! How it's going? Cathy: Good! I'm so glad you're here with us. Allison: I'm glad I'm here too. Cathy: So as a woman who likes women, can you [...]

By | 2016-01-06T08:57:32+00:00 June 19, 2013|Body Image, Dating, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Having a Safer Elevator Speech In An Existing Relationship

Cathy: We just did a video on having a safer sex elevator speech on your date. But if you've been in a relationship for a while, you may feel really awkward to bring it up. You've already been sleeping together. You're already together. You're like if I bring it up, they might think I don't trust them. There's all kinds of fears that can come up. So how can you [...]

By | 2016-01-06T10:23:00+00:00 June 11, 2013|Dating, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Breaking Up Is Hard To Do

Do you want a different way of looking at breaking up? Start with an exit strategy and communicate so you can transition, rather than disintegrate! Cathy: Breaking up can be really hard. It can be so painful that you stayed on a relationship you don't want to stay in. Reid: It can be painful like that Paul Sedaka, Neil Sedaka song Breaking Up is Hard to Do. Sorry Paul, Neil. [...]

By | 2016-01-05T10:08:49+00:00 June 10, 2013|Dating, Relationship Skills|

What is the Difference Between Poly and Cheating

Ever wondered about Polyamory? Want to know how cheating is different from Poly? Cathy: Hey everyone. If you've been hearing something on the news or just from your friends about open or poly relationships, you may be wondering what the difference between that is and having an affair. Reid: What's the difference between polyamory and cheating? Cathy: It's all about ethics and communication. Reid: And why is that important? Cathy: [...]

By | 2016-01-06T10:38:23+00:00 June 8, 2013|Dating, Relationship Skills|

Impulse Control We’re Not In 7th Grade

Cathy: Hey everyone. You may not realize this but we're not in 7th grade anymore and it is okay to feel attraction to someone and we probably won't explode. Reid: You probably won't hit somebody with your lunchbox because you like them and in 7th grade when we had no impulse control for the most part... Cathy: And all these hormones surging through our bodies... Reid: And just felt weird [...]

By | 2016-01-06T09:00:12+00:00 June 7, 2013|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills|