Energy

How Do You Avoid Dependency In A Relationship?

We’re all taught that we should avoid dependency in a relationship, that codependency is bad. What can you do to avoid that? Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com as they share more about this topic. Cathy: We're all taught that we should avoid dependency in a relationship, that it's bad, codependency is bad. What can you do to avoid that? This is Reid Mihalko [...]

By | 2016-01-05T09:38:14+00:00 May 4, 2015|Dating, Energy, Relationship Skills|

Finding A Balance: Self-Expression and Helping Others Feel Comfortable

How to find a balance where you're not offending? Some people are hard to read so you don't always know, if you've offended people. Finding that safe balance  can be a challenge. Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com as they talk about how to find a balance between self-expression and helping others feel comfortable. Cathy: I had shared in a video how I don't like to [...]

By | 2016-01-05T09:42:01+00:00 May 1, 2015|Energy, Relationship Skills|

Mismatched or Different Sex Drives in a Relationship

When we're talking about issues of libido, we have to ask ourselves, if there've been any recent changes in ourselves, your lovers' lives that could be the cause of the decreased libido. The second thing to start looking at, then, is there something that's going on between you two relationship wise that you don't have matching libidos? Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com as they talk about [...]

By | 2016-01-04T12:49:18+00:00 April 22, 2015|Dating, Energy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

If You Want To Be More Powerful …How Can You Still Leave Space For Other People?

There's an assumption that, if you're powerful, then somehow you're not going to notice people. We tend to think that power is automatically reckless or the worry there is that it's going to be reckless. If you want to be a more powerful person, how can you do it without trampling other people, still being aware of other people and giving space for other people to have their needs and wants too? Join [...]

By | 2016-01-06T09:37:28+00:00 March 23, 2015|Energy, Relationship Skills|

In The Mood For Connection… How Can You Invite Your Partner?

If you're in the mood to be really intimate, connected with your partner, not necessarily sexual, but just connected, present, and your partner's not in the mood, how can you start a conversation maybe to invite them to step into it with you? Hear what relationship expert Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com have to say about this. Cathy: If you're in the mood to be really intimate, connected [...]

By | 2016-01-06T09:39:51+00:00 March 20, 2015|Energy, Relationship Skills|

When Does Taking Care Of Yourself Become Selfish or Hedonism?

Hedonism has gotten a bad slant, like people use the word to mean something negative. But looking for pleasure or happiness is not necessarily a bad thing. You need to be selfish in life - you actually need to take care of yourself first. Hear relationship expert Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com talk about when does taking care of yourself drop into selfishness or hedonism. Cathy: Someone wrote in and asked, [...]

By | 2015-12-23T12:33:20+00:00 February 24, 2015|Body Image, Energy, Relationship Skills|

When To Get In The Mood and When To Say No

What do you do when you're not in the mood for sex and your partner is? Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com as they share ways to get yourself in the mood and when to say no. Cathy: What do you do when you're not in the mood and your partner is? Reid: In the mood for what? Cathy: Sex. Reid: I'm Reid Mihalko from [...]

By | 2016-01-06T09:50:15+00:00 February 18, 2015|Energy, Sex Geeks|

Tuning Into Touch: Increasing Sensation and Arousal

Want more spark in the bedroom? What to drive your partner wild? Join Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com as they discuss Tuning Into Touch. Cathy: Tuning into Touch.  This is Cathy Vartuli from http://TheIntimacyDojo.com. Reid: And I'm Reid Mihalko from http://ReidAboutSex.com.  Oh, oh, oh. Cathy: (Laughs) Reid: Everybody just clicked off because they were like, EW! Stop it! Stop it! Cathy: (Laughs) I love that you talk about [...]

By | 2016-01-05T07:37:46+00:00 June 30, 2014|Dating, Energy, Flirting, Relationship Skills|

Backdoor Basics: Introducing Anal Sex To Your Relationship

Are you curious about anal sex? Would you like to explore this with your partner? Join Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com as they discuss Backdoor Basics! Cathy: Hi everyone.  I'm Cathy Vartuli from http://TheIntimacyDojo.com. Reid: I'm Reid Mihalko from http://ReidAboutSex.com Cathy: One of our viewers wrote in and asked if we could give some tips on introducing anal into the relationship. Reid: Woa!!!!  I just had to do [...]

By | 2016-06-30T11:20:09+00:00 June 29, 2014|Energy, Relationship Skills, Touch|

Expectations and Agreements

Where do expectations get in the way, and how are they helpful? When do you want agreements and when are they too much work? Cathy: Hi everyone, I'm Cathy Vartuli from the http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and I want to talk today about expectations versus agreements. Most of us are really good with expectations, we have them all the time. We were brought up in a certain culture, a certain set of social [...]

By | 2016-01-06T10:15:45+00:00 June 22, 2014|Dating, Energy, Relationship Skills|