Relationship Skills

Want To De-Escalate A Relationship? How Do You Slow Thing Down?

If you're hanging out with someone and you're both using skill sets that create warmth and connection, it's really easy to get deeper than you first planned. In these kind of moments it's better not to just dump the relationship and run if you can help it. It is good to know where the breaks are at all times. Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from as they share what to [...]

By | 2016-04-13T08:15:27+00:00 March 2, 2015|Dating, Relationship Skills|

What Do You Do If You Lied And Don’t Know How To Clean It Up?

What do you do if you lied? You blurted out a lie without meaning to and then you're afraid to take it back and you're not really sure there's safe space to do so. What can you do? Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from as they share thoughts about how to clean up your lie. Cathy: Another viewer wrote in and said what do you [...]

By | 2016-01-06T09:46:23+00:00 February 27, 2015|Relationship Skills|

When Does Taking Care Of Yourself Become Selfish or Hedonism?

Hedonism has gotten a bad slant, like people use the word to mean something negative. But looking for pleasure or happiness is not necessarily a bad thing. You need to be selfish in life - you actually need to take care of yourself first. Hear relationship expert Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from talk about when does taking care of yourself drop into selfishness or hedonism. Cathy: Someone wrote in and asked, [...]

By | 2015-12-23T12:33:20+00:00 February 24, 2015|Body Image, Energy, Relationship Skills|

Trouble Orgasming

Cathy: A lot of women have trouble orgasming. Reid: What? That explains everything. Cathy: They may not be able to orgasm with a partner or by themselves or they may just be, it may take them a long time or it might be a struggle for them. Reid: I just thought it was me. Cathy: It is you sweetie. Reid: It's me, so me, if anyone can orgasm around me is a miracle. I'm Reid [...]

By | 2016-01-06T08:18:31+00:00 August 20, 2014|Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Reframing Fighting

Reid: Hi, I'm Reid Mihalko from Cathy: I'm Cathy Vartuli from the Reid: Yeah, and today we're going to talk about reframing fighting. Cathy: It's really powerful because in our society, we do have a tendency ... Reid: Whatever. Cathy: To have discussions that are ... one of us has to win and I'm going to beat him up until he gives in or his going to give me the cold [...]

By | 2016-01-06T09:52:21+00:00 August 16, 2014|Dating, Relationship Skills|

Doing Things in Bed That You Don’t Want to Do

Cathy: We had someone write in to us and say that their partner is wanting them to try things in bed that they don't really know they want to try. They're not really sure and ... Reid: Like eating cookies in bed? Cathy: Yeah. I'm sure that was it. Reid: That's crummy. Cathy: Oh my god. Reid: I'm Reid Mihalko from Cathy: I am Cathy Vartuli from  and I am so [...]

By | 2016-01-19T13:56:34+00:00 August 16, 2014|Dating, Relationship Skills|

Privacy and Snooping

Cathy: Someone else wrote in to us and said my boyfriend is going through my email and my phone.  He's snooping.  What can I do, it makes me really uncomfortable? Reid: Shhh, he may be listening in right now. Cathy: That's really uncomfortable when someone's going through your stuff. Reid: I'm uncomfortable just filming this video.  Are they watching?  Hey behind you!  I'm Reid Mihalko from Cathy: I'm Cathy Vartuli from the  [...]

By | 2016-01-06T09:54:55+00:00 August 11, 2014|Relationship Skills|

Digging Deeping In Your Relationship

Cathy: Have you found that your relationship might be a little stagnant? Or that you're not growing as fast as you would like? Reid: What? I thought everything was fine. What are you telling me? Cathy: Actually, digging into some of the deeper stuff in your relationship, having the conversations that you don't normally have, can help you both grow. It can also deepen your relationship. Reid: That sounds scary. Cathy: It is, sometimes. [...]

By | 2016-01-06T09:56:10+00:00 August 7, 2014|Dating, Relationship Skills|


Cathy: Someone wrote in and asked, she said she's interested in a married man and she doesn't know what to do. Reid: Mmmhmmmm ... Cathy: This is Reid Mihalko from ... Reid: I'm going to assume that that man's not married to her. Cathy: No, he's not. Reid: Mmmhmmm ... Cathy: This is Reid Mihalko from Reid: This is Cathy Vartuli from Cathy: What would you suggest? Reid: Mmhmmm ... Well, well, well, you had to come [...]

By | 2016-01-05T10:16:35+00:00 August 7, 2014|Dating, Jealousy, Relationship Skills|

Does He Love Me

Cathy: Does he love me? How can I tell? Someone wrote in and asked us that question the other day. It's a great question. And this is Reid Mihalko from and I'm Cathy Vartuli from and apparently, we've killed him, so I'll just do this talk without him. Reid: Oh, let me count the ways. How do you tell? Have you asked? Cathy: Yeah, talking about it can ... Reid: Excuse [...]

By | 2016-01-06T10:06:43+00:00 August 5, 2014|Dating, Relationship Skills|