Sex Geeks

Told A Lie, And They Won’t Forgive You? What Can You Do?

What do you do if someone won't forgive you because you lied to him? What if he tells about it to your friends? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4H1tACnA2w8 Cathy: We've talked about people, “What happens if you tell a lie and how do you fix it?” Someone wrote in reply that, “But what if the person doesn't want to forgive you and what if [...]

By | 2017-05-09T16:21:46+00:00 September 14, 2017|Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

What Is INCEL and Why Do People Use The Term?

What's the meaning of INCEL? Are there undateable people? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8EWmIBhf1Ck Cathy: Do you know what “Incel” means?  And how to use it? Reid: How do you spell it? Cathy:  I-N-C-E-L. Reid:  Google it! Google fuckin’ exist. This is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: This is Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com. Reid: Before you Google things, If you’re some junior, what’s ‘Incel’? [...]

By | 2017-05-09T16:08:10+00:00 September 8, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Event, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

If Your STD/STI Test Is Negative… Are You “Clean” or “Clear”?

What correct term do you use when your STI test comes back negative? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xk_gL2w_6nE Reid: Hey Cathy, I just got tested and I'm clean. How about you? Cathy: Reid, I love that you got tested, and you're clean whether you showered or not, not whether you got tested negative or not. Reid: What does that mean? I'm confused. Cathy: This [...]

By | 2017-05-09T15:57:37+00:00 September 5, 2017|Body Image, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

What’s The Sex Toy Etiquette When A Friend Has A New Toy?

What do you do if someone has a new cool sex toy and you want to see it? Do you just grab it? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G8o02f-kyAM Cathy: A good friend shows up with their brand new sex toy. So cool. Reid: It's so shiny. Cathy: It's nice and bright and it's one you've wanted to see forever. Reid: I want to touch [...]

By | 2017-05-09T15:39:10+00:00 September 2, 2017|Collaborators, Event, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Touch|

Is It Possible To Be “Undateable”?

When do you label a person as undateable? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cjyf3YQlumM Cathy: Is there anyone undateable? This is Reid Mihalko from http://reidaboutsex.com/ Reid: Cathy Vatuli from the http://theintimacydojo.com/ Cathy: And BBC did a documentary called the Undateables, people that no ones dating and the person wrote in just find that people were just too older, too ugly for anyone to ever want [...]

By | 2017-05-09T15:33:53+00:00 August 30, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Trauma|

How Do You Know When It’s Time To End A Relationship?

When is the time to turn aside and when do you keep on going? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z8Rj4vfGYfQ Cathy: How do you know when it’s time to end what you’ve thought of as a long term relationship? Reid: Cathy Vartuli from http://theintimacydojo.com/ Cathy: And Reid Mihalko from http://reidaboutsex.com/ Reid: I don’t know. That’s a relationship [inaudible 00:00:15]. Oh, my goodness. Cathy: You actually [...]

By | 2017-05-09T15:10:33+00:00 August 24, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Coming Out Kinky… To Your Kids?

How do you come out kinky (or do you...) to your children? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com.   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U_Ym9apOxOk Cathy: How do parents come out to their kids if they’re poly, gay or kinky? This is Reid Mihalko from http://reidaboutsex.com/ Reid: Cathy Vartuli from http://theintimacydojo.com/ Cathy: And Reid has this great thing called the difficult conversation formula. Reid: At http://reidaboutsex.com/difficult-conversation-formula/ Cathy: And we’ll put the [...]

By | 2017-08-26T19:08:00+00:00 August 21, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

Starting To Like Someone… But Afraid They’re Going To Cut And Run?

Abandonment issues can make it hard to get close. Feeling afraid that your sweetie will leave? What can you do? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com.   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SKnGx08qbGk Cathy: Someone wrote in and said they wanting to, no, “How can you stop freaking out that the amazing guy you just met and then have been in a relationship with the past six months isn’t going to [...]

By | 2017-05-08T12:38:30+00:00 August 18, 2017|Dating, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

How Can I Be Honest And Not Lead Women On?

If you're sure you want to keep things casual, how can you be clear and not lead women (or men) on? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com.   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HxYKu1KS7ys Cathy: Someone wrote in and then they said, “How can you be honest so you don’t lead women on? Yes, this is a gentleman writing who is heterosexual when you don’t want to hurt them by misrepresenting [...]

By | 2017-05-08T12:29:44+00:00 August 15, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Creating Safe Space For Yourself and Others

How do you make a safe space for you and for others around you? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GBUt7BouxoE Cathy: Do you create safe space for yourself? Reid: It’s fucked out of me. Cathy: This is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Reid: Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com. I swore I’m right in the beginning of the video. Fuck! Alright, how do you create safe space? Cathy: Actually, [...]

By | 2017-05-05T14:26:37+00:00 August 12, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|