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On-Again-Off-Again Sex Drive? What Can You Do?

How do you deal with it when you and your partner have an on again - off again sexual connection? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_ASa5NMSWYU Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, "We have had this relationship with this woman on and off again, and the -" Reid: Is it "we have had" or "I have had"?  Cathy: This person wrote in, "I've been in [...]

By | 2017-05-09T16:28:52+00:00 September 17, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

What Is INCEL and Why Do People Use The Term?

What's the meaning of INCEL? Are there undateable people? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8EWmIBhf1Ck Cathy: Do you know what “Incel” means?  And how to use it? Reid: How do you spell it? Cathy:  I-N-C-E-L. Reid:  Google it! Google fuckin’ exist. This is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: This is Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com. Reid: Before you Google things, If you’re some junior, what’s ‘Incel’? [...]

By | 2017-05-09T16:08:10+00:00 September 8, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Event, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

How Does It Feel When You Share Vulnerably?

Learn the different experiences when sharing vulnerability. With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l0aF0hbhZS0 Cathy: We talk a lot about vulnerability on these videos. And Reid and I were talking the other day and we kind of discovered we had different experiences when we shared vulnerably and we want to talk about that. This is Reid Mihalko http://www.ReidAboutSex.com/ Reid: Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com/ Cathy: Yes. So, [...]

By | 2017-08-28T14:56:51+00:00 August 27, 2017|Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Shame, Trauma|

Coming Out Kinky… To Your Kids?

How do you come out kinky (or do you...) to your children? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com.   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U_Ym9apOxOk Cathy: How do parents come out to their kids if they’re poly, gay or kinky? This is Reid Mihalko from http://reidaboutsex.com/ Reid: Cathy Vartuli from http://theintimacydojo.com/ Cathy: And Reid has this great thing called the difficult conversation formula. Reid: At http://reidaboutsex.com/difficult-conversation-formula/ Cathy: And we’ll put the [...]

By | 2017-08-26T19:08:00+00:00 August 21, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

How Do You Know When Its Safe To Kiss Someone If You Have Herpes?

Is it safe to kiss someone if you have Herpes? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo and Reid Mihalko and http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, “If you have HSV-1 or Herpes 1, how do you know when to kiss again?” That’s really a pointy question. If you found out and diagnosed with something, how do you know when you’re safe? How do you know when you can reach out and reconnect [...]

By | 2017-05-03T03:31:05+00:00 June 28, 2017|Flirting, Relationship Skills, Shame|

Facing Judgement As A Sex Educator and/or Sex Worker?

Shamed for being a sex educator and/or sex worker? What can you do? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo and Reid Mihalko and http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: Are you going to do the business thing? Reid: Yah I’m going to do the business thing cause when I’m wearing the Sex Geek Summer Camp t-shirt that means were talking about business for sex educators and things like that. Cathy: What’s like wearing purple orchid [...]

By | 2017-05-03T03:12:58+00:00 June 25, 2017|Flirting, Sex Geeks, Shame|

Talking To Your Partner About Lack Of Desire Can Be Challenging… How Do You Do It?

Do you owe your partner sex? What if you promised? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: How do you tell your partner in a way that's loving and caring that you're just not in the mood? Reid: This is Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com. Cathy: And Reid Mihalco from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Reid: How do you do it? What's your advice? Cathy: One, I have to [...]

By | 2016-09-23T15:02:08+00:00 April 8, 2017|Dating, Energy, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

Act As If You Were Lovable

Hi everyone. I’m Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and today we’re talking about loving yourself. We get people all the time saying how they want to improve how they feel about themselves or self-esteem. How they come to relate to other people and court to that is how much you care for yourself. When you see someone walking down the street as if they are lovable and deserving, good things should [...]

By | 2016-09-23T15:00:04+00:00 April 2, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

Sharing Vulnerably And Told You’re Just Insecure?

Opening up is scary enough without being told you're "too" insecure and needy. What do you do? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, "I've been listening to your advice and I just put myself out there feeling really vulnerable, only to be told by my family that I'm insecure, and my husband, and that the cause behind all of our [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:57:50+00:00 March 27, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

How Does The Sex Positive Community React To Gender and Relationship Changes?

Even in a super supportive community, it can be challenging to change how we identify ourselves, either in relationships (opening up) or gender. How does it feel? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com, Andi Cortland from http://www.LevelUpSex.com and Raj. Cathy: Whether you're opening up your relationship or transitioning gender or whatever you are doing in your relationship how does that feel as part of the sex positive community, what are your [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:41:53+00:00 February 6, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|