Shame

What Do You Do If Someone Smells? How Do You Tell Them?

Dealing with someone's odors can be challenging. Can you talk to them about it? Learn how with Dan Powers and Elizabeth Wood from http://www.BeyondTheBedroom.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com.   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pSjaD2CsmVQ Dan: Have you ever been to an event and somebody really smell not quite right for you.  Well, I’ve got two beautiful women here that can help us answer the question.. Cathy and Elizabeth:  What do you do then? [...]

By | 2017-05-08T20:37:48+00:00 October 14, 2017|Body Image, Collaborators, Dating, Event, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

Dealing with Body Image And Shame In The Bedroom…

How do you get past body image issues and shame when you're getting sexual? With Dan Power and Elizabeth Wood from http://www.BeyondTheBedroom.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com.   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EbzwshBroDM Cathy: In life in general and especially in the bedroom, body image and shame can really crop up and lock our flow and our sexuality and our feeling of desirability. We have some amazing people here tonight and we're going to [...]

By | 2017-05-08T20:30:20+00:00 October 11, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Event, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

Changing Your Mind vs Telling A Lie…

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f_bK8lGy3IA Cathy: We've talked about before about what to do if you're caught in a lie or you catch somebody else in a lie. Someone wrote in and said, "My boyfriend has lied to me a number of times now, and he told me that he wanted to do something, and then he changed his mind, and I consider that a lie. What do I do now?" I'd like to [...]

On-Again-Off-Again Sex Drive? What Can You Do?

How do you deal with it when you and your partner have an on again - off again sexual connection? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_ASa5NMSWYU Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, "We have had this relationship with this woman on and off again, and the -" Reid: Is it "we have had" or "I have had"?  Cathy: This person wrote in, "I've been in [...]

By | 2017-05-09T16:28:52+00:00 September 17, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

What Is INCEL and Why Do People Use The Term?

What's the meaning of INCEL? Are there undateable people? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8EWmIBhf1Ck Cathy: Do you know what “Incel” means?  And how to use it? Reid: How do you spell it? Cathy:  I-N-C-E-L. Reid:  Google it! Google fuckin’ exist. This is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: This is Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com. Reid: Before you Google things, If you’re some junior, what’s ‘Incel’? [...]

By | 2017-05-09T16:08:10+00:00 September 8, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Event, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

How Does It Feel When You Share Vulnerably?

Learn the different experiences when sharing vulnerability. With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l0aF0hbhZS0 Cathy: We talk a lot about vulnerability on these videos. And Reid and I were talking the other day and we kind of discovered we had different experiences when we shared vulnerably and we want to talk about that. This is Reid Mihalko http://www.ReidAboutSex.com/ Reid: Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com/ Cathy: Yes. So, [...]

By | 2017-08-28T14:56:51+00:00 August 27, 2017|Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Shame, Trauma|

Coming Out Kinky… To Your Kids?

How do you come out kinky (or do you...) to your children? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com.   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U_Ym9apOxOk Cathy: How do parents come out to their kids if they’re poly, gay or kinky? This is Reid Mihalko from http://reidaboutsex.com/ Reid: Cathy Vartuli from http://theintimacydojo.com/ Cathy: And Reid has this great thing called the difficult conversation formula. Reid: At http://reidaboutsex.com/difficult-conversation-formula/ Cathy: And we’ll put the [...]

By | 2017-08-26T19:08:00+00:00 August 21, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

How Do You Know When Its Safe To Kiss Someone If You Have Herpes?

Is it safe to kiss someone if you have Herpes? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo and Reid Mihalko and http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, “If you have HSV-1 or Herpes 1, how do you know when to kiss again?” That’s really a pointy question. If you found out and diagnosed with something, how do you know when you’re safe? How do you know when you can reach out and reconnect [...]

By | 2017-05-03T03:31:05+00:00 June 28, 2017|Flirting, Relationship Skills, Shame|

Facing Judgement As A Sex Educator and/or Sex Worker?

Shamed for being a sex educator and/or sex worker? What can you do? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo and Reid Mihalko and http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: Are you going to do the business thing? Reid: Yah I’m going to do the business thing cause when I’m wearing the Sex Geek Summer Camp t-shirt that means were talking about business for sex educators and things like that. Cathy: What’s like wearing purple orchid [...]

By | 2017-05-03T03:12:58+00:00 June 25, 2017|Flirting, Sex Geeks, Shame|

Talking To Your Partner About Lack Of Desire Can Be Challenging… How Do You Do It?

Do you owe your partner sex? What if you promised? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: How do you tell your partner in a way that's loving and caring that you're just not in the mood? Reid: This is Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com. Cathy: And Reid Mihalco from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Reid: How do you do it? What's your advice? Cathy: One, I have to [...]

By | 2016-09-23T15:02:08+00:00 April 8, 2017|Dating, Energy, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|