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What Do You Do When The Chair Breaks Under You?

There is a fear, especially for bigger folks, that chairs and benches won't support them. What do you do when that happens? Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com shares and experience. Cathy: So, I'm at Sex Geek Summer Camp. I'm hanging out and it's the day after we're chilling. I sat down at the picnic bench and I wanted to lay down because Reid was taking a dunk. Reid: A dunk, not [...]

By | 2017-05-10T17:05:57+00:00 December 10, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

If I Lust In My Mind… Am I Committing Adultery?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jj0pHKMY9LY Reid: Trigger warning. There’s Bible quote coming’. Cathy: Yeah, we get a lot of comments, we love the comments and this. Comment with questions you guys sent in. Someone said, but I say unto you that whoever looketh other woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. So he felt like we were talking about…just us talking about it is wrong. Reid: Okay. [...]

If I Sleep With An Older Woman, Will I Get STDs or STIs?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f1cWU3t9kSs Cathy: So, I’ve done a video with Elizabeth Wood and Dan Powers about cougar if someone had to ask about wanting to date older women. Reid: Cougaring? Cathy: Cougaring. Reid: Is that what’s called? Cathy: Yes Reid: That’s awesome. Cougaring. My Cougars out there. [Inaudible 00:00:17] Cathy: Someone replies said that cougar mantra Reid: Cougar mantra? Cathy: Well he was not being very nice about it. Reid: Okay Cathy: [...]

Do Your Friends Just Go Along With Your Choices Because They’re Shy?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P7-pKh9j3_I Reid: So, you invited your friends to dinner. And you’re like, hey! Where do you want to go? And they don’t have any answers. So, you’re like, how about Chinese? Coz’ you love Chinese, insert whatever food you want. But you secretly worry that they just went along with it and said yes, because maybe they’re shy, maybe they don’t have the words to speak up. What do you [...]

By | 2017-05-10T13:03:08+00:00 November 25, 2017|Body Image, Collaborators, Dating, Event, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

How Do Handle It When If You Ask- They Say No, But If Its Their Idea- They Love it?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WdWNBQb8GUY Reid: How do you handle situations where when you ask for something, the person is a no but if it’s their idea, they’re yes? This is Cathy Vartuli from http://theintimacydojo.com/ Cathy: And this is Reid Mihalko from http://reidaboutsex.com/. Reid: We’re building off of a previous video and so I had this insight now, and I want to flip these scales on Cathy Vartuli and be like okay, so how [...]

What Do You Do When Someone Says Everything Is Fine (In Bed) But They Don’t Mean It?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mAxRBMtFVxA Cathy: Okay. So someone write in and said I come from Asia and realized that what I’m sharing is trembles cultures, people will say everything is fine, when they don’t really mean it, so she says, I’ve had sexual partners who I, they report that they love our connection, interaction with regular partners and I asked them to let me know if anything’s uncomfortable or if everything feels good…they [...]

How Do I Stop Myself From “Future Tripping”?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3QIUxn94M9c Cathy: How do I stop myself when I’m future tripping for example, my primary partner doesn’t call or text me back in a few hours I start feeling like I’m not important to him anymore therefore we’re gonna break up, etc. I take these things too far. Reid: I think I like to get myself back to the future too. Cathy: Do you have any banana pills? Reid: I [...]

By | 2017-05-10T12:38:24+00:00 November 16, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

Will Herpes Ruin Your Life?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4aXDcNnM3R4 Cathy: So we have number of videos on Herpes and how to deal with it what is safe or safer? And we have a number of comments come back about it as well and there seems to be a lot of fear in the general culture around herpes and we have some people comment, some people said thank you so much for sharing this and normalize which one of [...]

By | 2017-05-09T13:47:07+00:00 November 4, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Event, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

Is It Impractical To Ask Everyone In A Cuddle Or Play Pile For Consent?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Ahfk09maeE Cathy: Question: When discussing consent in a workshop someone asked, “How do you respond to someone claiming that it’s impractical to ask every participant for consent in a cuddle or fuck pile? Thanks in advance.” Reid: Yes, so… Cathy: Reid Mihalko from http://reidaboutsex.com/ Reid: Oh, my god! I just wanna answer this! Cathy Vartuli from http://theintimacydojo.com/ Cathy: It’s a great question. Reid: Yeah, the impractical is an interesting situation [...]

What Do You Do If Someone Smells? How Do You Tell Them?

Dealing with someone's odors can be challenging. Can you talk to them about it? Learn how with Dan Powers and Elizabeth Wood from http://www.BeyondTheBedroom.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com.   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pSjaD2CsmVQ Dan: Have you ever been to an event and somebody really smell not quite right for you.  Well, I’ve got two beautiful women here that can help us answer the question.. Cathy and Elizabeth:  What do you do then? [...]

By | 2017-05-08T20:37:48+00:00 October 14, 2017|Body Image, Collaborators, Dating, Event, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame, Touch, Trauma|