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How Does It Feel When You Share Vulnerably?

Learn the different experiences when sharing vulnerability. With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l0aF0hbhZS0 Cathy: We talk a lot about vulnerability on these videos. And Reid and I were talking the other day and we kind of discovered we had different experiences when we shared vulnerably and we want to talk about that. This is Reid Mihalko http://www.ReidAboutSex.com/ Reid: Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com/ Cathy: Yes. So, [...]

By | 2017-08-28T14:56:51+00:00 August 27, 2017|Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Shame, Trauma|

Coming Out Kinky… To Your Kids?

How do you come out kinky (or do you...) to your children? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com.   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U_Ym9apOxOk Cathy: How do parents come out to their kids if they’re poly, gay or kinky? This is Reid Mihalko from http://reidaboutsex.com/ Reid: Cathy Vartuli from http://theintimacydojo.com/ Cathy: And Reid has this great thing called the difficult conversation formula. Reid: At http://reidaboutsex.com/difficult-conversation-formula/ Cathy: And we’ll put the [...]

By | 2017-08-26T19:08:00+00:00 August 21, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

How Do You Know When Its Safe To Kiss Someone If You Have Herpes?

Is it safe to kiss someone if you have Herpes? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo and Reid Mihalko and http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, “If you have HSV-1 or Herpes 1, how do you know when to kiss again?” That’s really a pointy question. If you found out and diagnosed with something, how do you know when you’re safe? How do you know when you can reach out and reconnect [...]

By | 2017-05-03T03:31:05+00:00 June 28, 2017|Flirting, Relationship Skills, Shame|

Facing Judgement As A Sex Educator and/or Sex Worker?

Shamed for being a sex educator and/or sex worker? What can you do? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo and Reid Mihalko and http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: Are you going to do the business thing? Reid: Yah I’m going to do the business thing cause when I’m wearing the Sex Geek Summer Camp t-shirt that means were talking about business for sex educators and things like that. Cathy: What’s like wearing purple orchid [...]

By | 2017-05-03T03:12:58+00:00 June 25, 2017|Flirting, Sex Geeks, Shame|

Talking To Your Partner About Lack Of Desire Can Be Challenging… How Do You Do It?

Do you owe your partner sex? What if you promised? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: How do you tell your partner in a way that's loving and caring that you're just not in the mood? Reid: This is Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com. Cathy: And Reid Mihalco from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Reid: How do you do it? What's your advice? Cathy: One, I have to [...]

By | 2016-09-23T15:02:08+00:00 April 8, 2017|Dating, Energy, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

Act As If You Were Lovable

Hi everyone. I’m Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and today we’re talking about loving yourself. We get people all the time saying how they want to improve how they feel about themselves or self-esteem. How they come to relate to other people and court to that is how much you care for yourself. When you see someone walking down the street as if they are lovable and deserving, good things should [...]

By | 2016-09-23T15:00:04+00:00 April 2, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

Sharing Vulnerably And Told You’re Just Insecure?

Opening up is scary enough without being told you're "too" insecure and needy. What do you do? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, "I've been listening to your advice and I just put myself out there feeling really vulnerable, only to be told by my family that I'm insecure, and my husband, and that the cause behind all of our [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:57:50+00:00 March 27, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

How Does The Sex Positive Community React To Gender and Relationship Changes?

Even in a super supportive community, it can be challenging to change how we identify ourselves, either in relationships (opening up) or gender. How does it feel? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com, Andi Cortland from http://www.LevelUpSex.com and Raj. Cathy: Whether you're opening up your relationship or transitioning gender or whatever you are doing in your relationship how does that feel as part of the sex positive community, what are your [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:41:53+00:00 February 6, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

What If Your Potential Partner Has Herpes?

A lot of people are nervous about connecting with people with herpes. Join Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com as they share. Cathy: Hi Reid. One of our listeners asked, is it safe to be involved with someone with herpes? Reid: I'm Reid Mihalko from http://ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: I'm Cathy Vartuli from http://TheIntimacyDojo.com Reid: Is it safe? Cathy: Well, it is true that our culture makes ... Reid: That was a shout [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:30:52+00:00 January 14, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame, Trauma|

What Do You Do When You Realize What You’ve Been Teaching Is Wrong?!

Its a horrible feeling. You've been confidently teaching what you thought was great advice... And wham! You find out its wrong. What do you do? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Reid: What do you do when you realize what you're teaching is wrong? I love that. I love being wrong. Cathy: This is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Sex Geek Summer Camp Reid: [...]

By | 2016-09-22T15:33:19+00:00 December 12, 2016|Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|