Shame

When Desire Goes Away… What Do You Do?

If you've been enjoying sex and sensuality... what do you do when all of sudden the passion and wanting go away? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: What if you've been pretty sexual, pretty sensual and all of the sudden the desire goes away? It can be really hard and really confusing. This is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com.  Reid: Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com. What [...]

By | 2016-01-04T09:47:47+00:00 June 18, 2016|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

What Do I Do If I Have Anal Burning?

Not sure what to do if you experience burning around your anus? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, "This is embarrassing, but I need an answer. My anus is burning anytime I use the rest room or shave in that area."  Reid: Put water on it, quick!  Cathy: Wow.  Reid: Like it's actually on fire?  Cathy: I don't think [...]

By | 2016-01-04T09:35:08+00:00 June 9, 2016|Shame, Trauma|

Keep Running Into An Ex-Friend And Feel Drawn To Reconnect?

If you're in the same social circle and keep running into an ex-friend... How do you not get pulled in again? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: All right. Someone wrote in and said that they watched our video about talking about conflict.  Reid: We love when you write in!  Cathy: Yes.  Reid: Keep writing in.  Cathy: She said it actually went really [...]

By | 2016-01-07T09:00:25+00:00 May 16, 2016|Dating, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame, Trauma|

Need A Vibrator To Orgasm… But Haven’t Told Your Partner?

Not sure how to talk to your partner about needing a vibrator to come? How do you reveal this? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: One our readers wrote in and said, "I'm 71 years old and I've never had an orgasm without a vibrator. I'm really embarrassed about my partner finding out, but I'm tired of just being able to sneak into [...]

By | 2016-01-07T08:24:49+00:00 March 23, 2016|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

How Can You Be More Orgasmic? When You’ve Been Only Able To Come With A Vibrator?

How can I enjoy my partner more, when I've been depending on a vibrator to peak? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: A reader wrote in and said, "I can only have orgasms with a vibrator and I haven't really talked to my husband about it. I'm wondering how I can enjoy pleasure with him more? Can I be more orgasmic?" This is [...]

By | 2016-01-07T08:26:11+00:00 March 20, 2016|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

Will I Get In Trouble If I Bring My Vibrator When I Fly?

I don't want to get in trouble or be embarrassed. What can I do? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: Someone asked, can I bring my vibrator with me when I fly? Is TSA going to pull it out and embarrass me in front of everyone? This is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Reid: This is Cathy Vartuli from the http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com. Cathy: I've flown [...]

By | 2016-01-07T08:38:25+00:00 March 17, 2016|Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

How Do You Deal When Someone Shames You For Being A Sex Educator?

When society shames you for teaching "bad" things or expects you to be available sexually to everyone, what do you do? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Reid: Sex educator shame, what is it? Hi. This is Cathy Vartuli from http://TheIntimacyDojo.com. Cathy: And this is Reid Mihalko from http://ReidAboutSex.com. Reid: I'm holding the mic here to see if it sounds better. Cathy: He's good with that [...]

By | 2016-01-04T06:31:07+00:00 December 21, 2015|Sex Geeks, Shame|

Have You Been Shamed For Wanting Distance or Space?

Has anyone ever given you a hard time because you didn't want to spend as much time (or affection) as they wanted? Join Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com as they share ideas and insights from the beach (recorded from Fort Lauderdale Beach, our apologize for the wind noise on the recording). Cathy: What do you do when someone shames you for wanting some space? I'm Cathy [...]

By | 2016-01-06T12:41:08+00:00 December 15, 2015|Shame|

Vaginal Shame? Afraid You Smell Bad?

How do you handle vaginal shame when you think you smell bad? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: What do you do when you have vaginal shame and you're afraid that you smell bad down there? Reid: I'm Reid Mihalko from http://ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: I'm Cathy Vartuli from http://TheIntimacyDojo.com. Reid: You have a vulva. Do you want to take this first, or should I? Cathy: Sure. [...]

By | 2016-01-04T12:17:02+00:00 November 27, 2015|Sex Geeks, Shame|

How Do You Deal With Someone Who Doesn’t Realize They’re Being Mean?

We all had someone that was mean to us, giving us advice on whatever, and they didn't realize that they're being mean...but they do come across sometimes very judgmental or harsh. Do you know how to deal with mean people, and with someone who doesn't even realize they're being mean? Hear relationship expert Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com talk about different ways to deal with men people. Cathy: A while ago we did a couple [...]

By | 2016-01-05T06:01:44+00:00 July 11, 2015|Relationship Skills, Shame|