How Do I Know If My Partner Is Faking It?

How do you know if your partner had orgasm? We all have faked orgasm before, it's true, we do sometimes. What you want to start doing is start talking to each other about the kind of sex that you like. What gets you off, what doesn't get you off, when you're not having the sex. Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from and find out more about [...]

By | 2016-01-04T12:42:41+00:00 June 26, 2015|Body Image, Dating, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame, Touch|

How Can I Know When To Stop In Bed?

Do you know when to stop? Some women want to stop when they have an orgasm, and some women are multi-orgasmic, or just want to keep enjoying. Some men, too. Having a discussion with your partner about it can be really powerful. There's ways that you can set up agreements ahead of time. Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from as they talk about when to [...]

By | 2016-01-04T12:47:14+00:00 May 16, 2015|Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Touch|

My Partner Is Being Too Gentle In Bed…

Would you like your partner to be a little rougher, aggressive, more physical during  sex? Is your partner afraid of hurting you, and treating you like you're glass? Hear what relationship expert Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from have to say about how to communicate with your partner, so he understands that it would be pleasurable for you, and he's not going to hurt you. Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, "I'd like my boyfriend [...]

By | 2016-01-06T08:19:23+00:00 March 14, 2015|Sex Geeks, Touch|

How Do I Know When She’s Come

Cathy: How do you know when she has an orgasm, so you know when to stop? Someone wrote in asking about that and I love that the person wants to know more. There is a lot of pressure I think in our society to know when the person had an orgasm or not. Reid: Our society is very orgasm-centric. Cathy: You supposed to do the orgasm then you're done. Reid: Yeah, because now we [...]

By | 2016-01-06T08:24:12+00:00 August 9, 2014|Dating, Sex Geeks, Touch|

If I Need Lube For Sex…Does That Mean I’m Not Turned On?

Cathy: We had someone write to us about needing lube for sex. She had thought originally because she needed lube, her partner thought that that meant she wasn't turned on. What do you think about that Reid? Reid: I have lots of thoughts about this. I'm Reid Mihalko from Cathy: I'm Cathy Vartuli from Reid: Lube. Lube, lube, lube, lube, lube, lube, lube, lube. Lube's a good thing, don't mean anything, if you [...]

By | 2016-01-04T12:57:53+00:00 July 25, 2014|Dating, Sex Geeks, Touch|

How Can You Tease and Build Anticipation?

Would you like to be better at teasing and building anticipation? It can make everything from flirting to marketing more fun! Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from share. Cathy:  Would you like to be better at teasing and building anticipation? Reid:  Hm? What? Yes. Yes! I want to be better at that. Cathy:  This is Reid Mihalko from Reid:  And this is Cathy Vartuli from Cathy:  [...]

By | 2016-01-06T07:56:59+00:00 July 14, 2014|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Touch|

Backdoor Basics: Introducing Anal Sex To Your Relationship

Are you curious about anal sex? Would you like to explore this with your partner? Join Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from as they discuss Backdoor Basics! Cathy: Hi everyone.  I'm Cathy Vartuli from Reid: I'm Reid Mihalko from Cathy: One of our viewers wrote in and asked if we could give some tips on introducing anal into the relationship. Reid: Woa!!!!  I just had to do [...]

By | 2016-06-30T11:20:09+00:00 June 29, 2014|Energy, Relationship Skills, Touch|

Trauma and Sexuality

Cathy Vartuli from and Ashley Manta from share how trauma can effect sexual self-expression, and what you can do to support yourself or others in healing and reclaiming your sexuality. Cathy: Hi everyone today we are talking about trauma and sexuality. A lot of people are traumatized. There is an estimated one in three females by the time that they are eighteen have had some type of sexual [...]

By | 2016-01-20T05:50:11+00:00 June 14, 2014|Body Image, Collaborators, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

What To Do If Your Partner Isn’t Hard

Not to sure what to do in bed if your partner's penis isn't hard? Do you feel ashamed or embarrassed? Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from as they discuss playing with penises if they aren't hard. Cathy: Hey everyone. Have you ever been in bed with someone and you weren't quite sure how to proceed. Maybe they weren't getting hard when you were playing [...]

By | 2016-01-06T08:47:09+00:00 June 6, 2014|Dating, Relationship Skills, Shame, Touch|

The Big O, and Goal Oriented Sex…How They Can Get In The Way of Deep Intimacy

Rather than focusing on the big O as a sign that you did a good job...try focusing on the connection and the joy. When we take the pressure off, and don't shame each other for not "getting there", we can be more present and enjoy ourselves a lot more. Cathy Vartuli from and Ashely Manta from share. Cathy: If you read the latest addition of Cosmo, you'll see a [...]

By | 2016-01-06T08:48:42+00:00 June 4, 2014|Collaborators, Dating, Relationship Skills, Touch|