If I Need Lube For Sex…Does That Mean I’m Not Turned On?

Cathy: We had someone write to us about needing lube for sex. She had thought originally because she needed lube, her partner thought that that meant she wasn't turned on. What do you think about that Reid? Reid: I have lots of thoughts about this. I'm Reid Mihalko from Cathy: I'm Cathy Vartuli from Reid: Lube. Lube, lube, lube, lube, lube, lube, lube, lube. Lube's a good thing, don't mean anything, if you [...]

By | 2016-01-04T12:57:53+00:00 July 25, 2014|Dating, Sex Geeks, Touch|

How Can You Tease and Build Anticipation?

Would you like to be better at teasing and building anticipation? It can make everything from flirting to marketing more fun! Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from share. Cathy:  Would you like to be better at teasing and building anticipation? Reid:  Hm? What? Yes. Yes! I want to be better at that. Cathy:  This is Reid Mihalko from Reid:  And this is Cathy Vartuli from Cathy:  [...]

By | 2016-01-06T07:56:59+00:00 July 14, 2014|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Touch|

Backdoor Basics: Introducing Anal Sex To Your Relationship

Are you curious about anal sex? Would you like to explore this with your partner? Join Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from as they discuss Backdoor Basics! Cathy: Hi everyone.  I'm Cathy Vartuli from Reid: I'm Reid Mihalko from Cathy: One of our viewers wrote in and asked if we could give some tips on introducing anal into the relationship. Reid: Woa!!!!  I just had to do [...]

By | 2016-06-30T11:20:09+00:00 June 29, 2014|Energy, Relationship Skills, Touch|

Trauma and Sexuality

Cathy Vartuli from and Ashley Manta from share how trauma can effect sexual self-expression, and what you can do to support yourself or others in healing and reclaiming your sexuality. Cathy: Hi everyone today we are talking about trauma and sexuality. A lot of people are traumatized. There is an estimated one in three females by the time that they are eighteen have had some type of sexual [...]

By | 2016-01-20T05:50:11+00:00 June 14, 2014|Body Image, Collaborators, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

What To Do If Your Partner Isn’t Hard

Not to sure what to do in bed if your partner's penis isn't hard? Do you feel ashamed or embarrassed? Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from as they discuss playing with penises if they aren't hard. Cathy: Hey everyone. Have you ever been in bed with someone and you weren't quite sure how to proceed. Maybe they weren't getting hard when you were playing [...]

By | 2016-01-06T08:47:09+00:00 June 6, 2014|Dating, Relationship Skills, Shame, Touch|

The Big O, and Goal Oriented Sex…How They Can Get In The Way of Deep Intimacy

Rather than focusing on the big O as a sign that you did a good job...try focusing on the connection and the joy. When we take the pressure off, and don't shame each other for not "getting there", we can be more present and enjoy ourselves a lot more. Cathy Vartuli from and Ashely Manta from share. Cathy: If you read the latest addition of Cosmo, you'll see a [...]

By | 2016-01-06T08:48:42+00:00 June 4, 2014|Collaborators, Dating, Relationship Skills, Touch|

Mindful Touching

We can get lost in our heads... and when we're present and mindful, touch feels so amazing! Join Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from to learn more. Reid: Touching with mindfulness and what was it? Cathy: I don't remember what I said. Reid: It was good though. Cathy: Yes. Reid: So touching mindfully is the topic for this video and Cathy Vartuli, why is it important to [...]

By | 2016-04-13T08:21:35+00:00 April 15, 2013|Dating, Relationship Skills, Touch|

Being Physically Intimate with Bigger People

We don't see people having sex with bigger people on TV, generally. There's a lot of internalized shame around sex and bigger people. Making it normal and ok and having great communication (which is important in ANY relationship) can make it lots more fun! Cathy: So if you're playing with someone who is bigger, there's not a lot of information out there on how to play with them? How to [...]

By | 2016-04-13T14:37:29+00:00 March 15, 2013|Body Image, Dating, Shame, Touch|

Reigniting Passion in Your Relationships

Is your relationship growing stale? Are one or both of you shut down or disconnected? Cathy: Hey everyone. Do you want to revitalize your relationship? Reid: Do you want to reignite your passion? Cathy: It can be hard if you're feeling shut down. Reid: Yeah. Cathy: And once you're shut down, you tend not to communicate and I think a lot of people start looking elsewhere for connection. Reid: Uh-hum. [...]

By | 2016-01-06T10:53:04+00:00 March 12, 2013|Dating, Relationship Skills, Touch|

How Body Image Changes Romantic Connection

Have you found that body image (your view of your own body, your thoughts about what other people think, what they actually think about your body) gets in the way of connecting with people, especially romantically? We're all built differently, and when we stop critiquing ourselves, we may find that others aren't judging us as harshly as we thought! Want the inside scoop from Kelly Shibari from and [...]

By | 2016-01-07T09:32:50+00:00 March 6, 2013|Dating, Shame, Touch|