Trauma

Is It Okay To Masturbate To Someone?

Can you fantasize about someone when you masturbate? What is the ethics around this? With Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from htto://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com. Cathy: So one of our amazing viewers wrote and said, it is okay if I fantasize, they’re talking to you, fantasize about you when I masturbate? Reid: I didn’t see this comment. Cathy: I haven’t share it with you yet. Reid: Oh my goodness. Cathy: You [...]

By | 2017-05-10T17:17:26+00:00 December 13, 2017|Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

What Do You Do When The Chair Breaks Under You?

There is a fear, especially for bigger folks, that chairs and benches won't support them. What do you do when that happens? Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com shares and experience. Cathy: So, I'm at Sex Geek Summer Camp. I'm hanging out and it's the day after we're chilling. I sat down at the picnic bench and I wanted to lay down because Reid was taking a dunk. Reid: A dunk, not [...]

By | 2017-05-10T17:05:57+00:00 December 10, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

How Do I Stop Myself From “Future Tripping”?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3QIUxn94M9c Cathy: How do I stop myself when I’m future tripping for example, my primary partner doesn’t call or text me back in a few hours I start feeling like I’m not important to him anymore therefore we’re gonna break up, etc. I take these things too far. Reid: I think I like to get myself back to the future too. Cathy: Do you have any banana pills? Reid: I [...]

By | 2017-05-10T12:38:24+00:00 November 16, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

Will Herpes Ruin Your Life?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4aXDcNnM3R4 Cathy: So we have number of videos on Herpes and how to deal with it what is safe or safer? And we have a number of comments come back about it as well and there seems to be a lot of fear in the general culture around herpes and we have some people comment, some people said thank you so much for sharing this and normalize which one of [...]

By | 2017-05-09T13:47:07+00:00 November 4, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Event, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

What Do You Do If Someone Smells? How Do You Tell Them?

Dealing with someone's odors can be challenging. Can you talk to them about it? Learn how with Dan Powers and Elizabeth Wood from http://www.BeyondTheBedroom.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com.   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pSjaD2CsmVQ Dan: Have you ever been to an event and somebody really smell not quite right for you.  Well, I’ve got two beautiful women here that can help us answer the question.. Cathy and Elizabeth:  What do you do then? [...]

By | 2017-05-08T20:37:48+00:00 October 14, 2017|Body Image, Collaborators, Dating, Event, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

Dealing with Body Image And Shame In The Bedroom…

How do you get past body image issues and shame when you're getting sexual? With Dan Power and Elizabeth Wood from http://www.BeyondTheBedroom.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com.   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EbzwshBroDM Cathy: In life in general and especially in the bedroom, body image and shame can really crop up and lock our flow and our sexuality and our feeling of desirability. We have some amazing people here tonight and we're going to [...]

By | 2017-05-08T20:30:20+00:00 October 11, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Event, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

Changing Your Mind vs Telling A Lie…

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f_bK8lGy3IA Cathy: We've talked about before about what to do if you're caught in a lie or you catch somebody else in a lie. Someone wrote in and said, "My boyfriend has lied to me a number of times now, and he told me that he wanted to do something, and then he changed his mind, and I consider that a lie. What do I do now?" I'd like to [...]

Is Lack of Desire Causing Problems in Your Relationship?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lfv8YS0XeMI Cathy: In response to your webinar about my partner doesn't want to sleep with me, we've had a lot of people writing in about this. It's a great question. This woman wrote in and said, "In this situation, I'm the one who doesn't desire sex. It's just not there no matter what we've tried." They think it's menopause and hormones, but they're having trouble in their relationship because of [...]

By | 2017-05-08T17:30:58+00:00 September 20, 2017|Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Touch, Trauma|

On-Again-Off-Again Sex Drive? What Can You Do?

How do you deal with it when you and your partner have an on again - off again sexual connection? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_ASa5NMSWYU Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, "We have had this relationship with this woman on and off again, and the -" Reid: Is it "we have had" or "I have had"?  Cathy: This person wrote in, "I've been in [...]

By | 2017-05-09T16:28:52+00:00 September 17, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

What Is INCEL and Why Do People Use The Term?

What's the meaning of INCEL? Are there undateable people? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8EWmIBhf1Ck Cathy: Do you know what “Incel” means?  And how to use it? Reid: How do you spell it? Cathy:  I-N-C-E-L. Reid:  Google it! Google fuckin’ exist. This is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: This is Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com. Reid: Before you Google things, If you’re some junior, what’s ‘Incel’? [...]

By | 2017-05-09T16:08:10+00:00 September 8, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Event, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame, Touch, Trauma|