Trauma

Can You Give Yourself Herpes if You Use Your Own Saliva as Lube?

Can You Give Yourself Herpes if You Use Your Own Saliva as Lube? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo and Reid Mihalko and http://www.ReidAboutSex.com.   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FMj0kaNFxRg Cathy: If I use my own saliva, can I give myself herpes? This is Reid Mihalko from http://ReidAboutSex.com/. Reid: What a great question. Cathy Vartuli from http://TheIntimacyDojo.com/. Cathy: So this person wrote in that they were using their own saliva as lube and they have Herpes 1, [...]

By | 2017-08-28T16:16:23+00:00 March 16, 2018|Body Image, Dating, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Trauma, Uncategorized|

Is It Ever Your Fault If You’re INCEL (Involuntarily Celibate)?

Should you blame yourself if you aren't ever connecting sexually? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo and Reid Mihalko and http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: We had a video on incels, people that are voluntarily celibate. And someone wrote in and said, white male that are incel are very pathetic, they belong in a group of men that are sought after by women. So your inability to get a decent woman is all caps [...]

By | 2017-05-12T15:38:58+00:00 February 2, 2018|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

How Do I Reclaim My Sexuality After Trauma?

If you've shut down due to trauma or traumatic experiences, how do you open up again? How can you embrace your sexuality? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo and Reid Mihalko and http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, how do I go about regaining self-ownership of my body and sexual aspect after a trauma? I’m a 46 year old divorced gay man who had an incest in military in sexual [...]

By | 2017-05-12T15:37:35+00:00 January 31, 2018|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

How To Deal with People Who Say That There’s Something Wrong about You Because You’re Bigger?

If you're fat or bigger, what do you do if someone says there's something wrong with you for being larger? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo and Reid Mihalko and http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: Someone wrote in in response to a video that Ashley Man did together about being bigger and being sexual. And they said, your fatties need to recognize that you're mentally ill. You over eat because there's something about you [...]

By | 2017-05-12T15:36:24+00:00 January 24, 2018|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

Betrayal… And How Can Someone Bounce Back?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e0-CgrlvnXs Cathy: We have new comment. Hey peeps, running for a dear friend who had a classic narcissistic partner with who have been lying to her for years. A lot something major, it’s a long story. I’m looking for advice about psychological response to experiencing betrayal and the loss of abusive addictive relationship. How can someone flame of bad relationships of their self-talks than can find strength to pick up [...]

I Miss Giving My HSV Positive Partner Oral… Is There Anything I Can Do?

If you have Herpes, do you need to stop having oral sex with your partner? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo and Reid Mihalko and http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: Hi guys! My wife has HSV 2 but I don’t I don’t have one or two we’ve been 30 years. I kinda wish I could get infected because I miss giving her oral sex please keep up the good work. This is Reid Mihalko [...]

By | 2017-05-10T20:19:28+00:00 December 19, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

Is It Okay To Masturbate To Someone?

Can you fantasize about someone when you masturbate? What is the ethics around this? With Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from htto://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com. Cathy: So one of our amazing viewers wrote and said, it is okay if I fantasize, they’re talking to you, fantasize about you when I masturbate? Reid: I didn’t see this comment. Cathy: I haven’t share it with you yet. Reid: Oh my goodness. Cathy: You [...]

By | 2017-05-10T17:17:26+00:00 December 13, 2017|Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

What Do You Do When The Chair Breaks Under You?

There is a fear, especially for bigger folks, that chairs and benches won't support them. What do you do when that happens? Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com shares and experience. Cathy: So, I'm at Sex Geek Summer Camp. I'm hanging out and it's the day after we're chilling. I sat down at the picnic bench and I wanted to lay down because Reid was taking a dunk. Reid: A dunk, not [...]

By | 2017-05-10T17:05:57+00:00 December 10, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

How Do I Stop Myself From “Future Tripping”?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3QIUxn94M9c Cathy: How do I stop myself when I’m future tripping for example, my primary partner doesn’t call or text me back in a few hours I start feeling like I’m not important to him anymore therefore we’re gonna break up, etc. I take these things too far. Reid: I think I like to get myself back to the future too. Cathy: Do you have any banana pills? Reid: I [...]

By | 2017-05-10T12:38:24+00:00 November 16, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

Will Herpes Ruin Your Life?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4aXDcNnM3R4 Cathy: So we have number of videos on Herpes and how to deal with it what is safe or safer? And we have a number of comments come back about it as well and there seems to be a lot of fear in the general culture around herpes and we have some people comment, some people said thank you so much for sharing this and normalize which one of [...]

By | 2017-05-09T13:47:07+00:00 November 4, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Event, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame, Touch, Trauma|