Trauma

What Do You Do If Someone Smells? How Do You Tell Them?

Dealing with someone's odors can be challenging. Can you talk to them about it? Learn how with Dan Powers and Elizabeth Wood from http://www.BeyondTheBedroom.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com.   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pSjaD2CsmVQ Dan: Have you ever been to an event and somebody really smell not quite right for you.  Well, I’ve got two beautiful women here that can help us answer the question.. Cathy and Elizabeth:  What do you do then? [...]

By | 2017-05-08T20:37:48+00:00 October 14, 2017|Body Image, Collaborators, Dating, Event, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

Dealing with Body Image And Shame In The Bedroom…

How do you get past body image issues and shame when you're getting sexual? With Dan Power and Elizabeth Wood from http://www.BeyondTheBedroom.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com.   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EbzwshBroDM Cathy: In life in general and especially in the bedroom, body image and shame can really crop up and lock our flow and our sexuality and our feeling of desirability. We have some amazing people here tonight and we're going to [...]

By | 2017-05-08T20:30:20+00:00 October 11, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Event, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

Changing Your Mind vs Telling A Lie…

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f_bK8lGy3IA Cathy: We've talked about before about what to do if you're caught in a lie or you catch somebody else in a lie. Someone wrote in and said, "My boyfriend has lied to me a number of times now, and he told me that he wanted to do something, and then he changed his mind, and I consider that a lie. What do I do now?" I'd like to [...]

Is Lack of Desire Causing Problems in Your Relationship?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lfv8YS0XeMI Cathy: In response to your webinar about my partner doesn't want to sleep with me, we've had a lot of people writing in about this. It's a great question. This woman wrote in and said, "In this situation, I'm the one who doesn't desire sex. It's just not there no matter what we've tried." They think it's menopause and hormones, but they're having trouble in their relationship because of [...]

By | 2017-05-08T17:30:58+00:00 September 20, 2017|Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Touch, Trauma|

On-Again-Off-Again Sex Drive? What Can You Do?

How do you deal with it when you and your partner have an on again - off again sexual connection? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_ASa5NMSWYU Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, "We have had this relationship with this woman on and off again, and the -" Reid: Is it "we have had" or "I have had"?  Cathy: This person wrote in, "I've been in [...]

By | 2017-05-09T16:28:52+00:00 September 17, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

What Is INCEL and Why Do People Use The Term?

What's the meaning of INCEL? Are there undateable people? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8EWmIBhf1Ck Cathy: Do you know what “Incel” means?  And how to use it? Reid: How do you spell it? Cathy:  I-N-C-E-L. Reid:  Google it! Google fuckin’ exist. This is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: This is Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com. Reid: Before you Google things, If you’re some junior, what’s ‘Incel’? [...]

By | 2017-05-09T16:08:10+00:00 September 8, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Event, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

Is It Possible To Be “Undateable”?

When do you label a person as undateable? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cjyf3YQlumM Cathy: Is there anyone undateable? This is Reid Mihalko from http://reidaboutsex.com/ Reid: Cathy Vatuli from the http://theintimacydojo.com/ Cathy: And BBC did a documentary called the Undateables, people that no ones dating and the person wrote in just find that people were just too older, too ugly for anyone to ever want [...]

By | 2017-05-09T15:33:53+00:00 August 30, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Trauma|

How Does It Feel When You Share Vulnerably?

Learn the different experiences when sharing vulnerability. With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l0aF0hbhZS0 Cathy: We talk a lot about vulnerability on these videos. And Reid and I were talking the other day and we kind of discovered we had different experiences when we shared vulnerably and we want to talk about that. This is Reid Mihalko http://www.ReidAboutSex.com/ Reid: Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com/ Cathy: Yes. So, [...]

By | 2017-08-28T14:56:51+00:00 August 27, 2017|Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Shame, Trauma|

How Do You Deal With Haters? And Herpes Not A Big Deal?!

Someone calling you a wacko? And saying you're way off track? What can you do? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Reid: Hate mail, hate mail, whatcha gonna do? Whatcha gonna do when the haters come for you? Okay, so this really isn't necessarily hate mail ...  Cathy: Well, calling us "fucking wackos" is a little bit unpleasant.  Reid: Well, we're a little bit [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:55:52+00:00 March 17, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Trauma|

Afraid Your Partner Is Going To Abandon You? Does That Fear Create Tension In Your Relationship?

Fear of being left can be intense... And it can strain a perfectly healthy relationship. What can you do? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: How do you deal with major fears of abandonment? He left. The thing is this can bother and be part of a relationship in general. It can be big problem if you have fears of abandonment and they're [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:44:31+00:00 February 15, 2017|Dating, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Trauma|