Trauma

Is Lack of Desire Causing Problems in Your Relationship?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lfv8YS0XeMI Cathy: In response to your webinar about my partner doesn't want to sleep with me, we've had a lot of people writing in about this. It's a great question. This woman wrote in and said, "In this situation, I'm the one who doesn't desire sex. It's just not there no matter what we've tried." They think it's menopause and hormones, but they're having trouble in their relationship because of [...]

By | 2017-05-08T17:30:58+00:00 September 20, 2017|Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Touch, Trauma|

On-Again-Off-Again Sex Drive? What Can You Do?

How do you deal with it when you and your partner have an on again - off again sexual connection? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_ASa5NMSWYU Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, "We have had this relationship with this woman on and off again, and the -" Reid: Is it "we have had" or "I have had"?  Cathy: This person wrote in, "I've been in [...]

By | 2017-05-09T16:28:52+00:00 September 17, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

What Is INCEL and Why Do People Use The Term?

What's the meaning of INCEL? Are there undateable people? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8EWmIBhf1Ck Cathy: Do you know what “Incel” means?  And how to use it? Reid: How do you spell it? Cathy:  I-N-C-E-L. Reid:  Google it! Google fuckin’ exist. This is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: This is Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com. Reid: Before you Google things, If you’re some junior, what’s ‘Incel’? [...]

By | 2017-05-09T16:08:10+00:00 September 8, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Event, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

Is It Possible To Be “Undateable”?

When do you label a person as undateable? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cjyf3YQlumM Cathy: Is there anyone undateable? This is Reid Mihalko from http://reidaboutsex.com/ Reid: Cathy Vatuli from the http://theintimacydojo.com/ Cathy: And BBC did a documentary called the Undateables, people that no ones dating and the person wrote in just find that people were just too older, too ugly for anyone to ever want [...]

By | 2017-05-09T15:33:53+00:00 August 30, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Trauma|

How Does It Feel When You Share Vulnerably?

Learn the different experiences when sharing vulnerability. With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l0aF0hbhZS0 Cathy: We talk a lot about vulnerability on these videos. And Reid and I were talking the other day and we kind of discovered we had different experiences when we shared vulnerably and we want to talk about that. This is Reid Mihalko http://www.ReidAboutSex.com/ Reid: Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com/ Cathy: Yes. So, [...]

By | 2017-08-28T14:56:51+00:00 August 27, 2017|Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Shame, Trauma|

How Do You Deal With Haters? And Herpes Not A Big Deal?!

Someone calling you a wacko? And saying you're way off track? What can you do? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Reid: Hate mail, hate mail, whatcha gonna do? Whatcha gonna do when the haters come for you? Okay, so this really isn't necessarily hate mail ...  Cathy: Well, calling us "fucking wackos" is a little bit unpleasant.  Reid: Well, we're a little bit [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:55:52+00:00 March 17, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Trauma|

Afraid Your Partner Is Going To Abandon You? Does That Fear Create Tension In Your Relationship?

Fear of being left can be intense... And it can strain a perfectly healthy relationship. What can you do? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: How do you deal with major fears of abandonment? He left. The thing is this can bother and be part of a relationship in general. It can be big problem if you have fears of abandonment and they're [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:44:31+00:00 February 15, 2017|Dating, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Trauma|

What If Your Potential Partner Has Herpes?

A lot of people are nervous about connecting with people with herpes. Join Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com as they share. Cathy: Hi Reid. One of our listeners asked, is it safe to be involved with someone with herpes? Reid: I'm Reid Mihalko from http://ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: I'm Cathy Vartuli from http://TheIntimacyDojo.com Reid: Is it safe? Cathy: Well, it is true that our culture makes ... Reid: That was a shout [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:30:52+00:00 January 14, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame, Trauma|

If I Have Sex With Him, Will He Disappear?

Traditional advise says women should hold back on being sexual so the man will pursue. Is that still valid and what are the alternatives? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: One of our viewers wrote in and said, “I recently had sexual encounter with a new man. I know we really like each other and we seeing each other twice now. Something I [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:30:03+00:00 January 11, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Trauma|

Certain Sexual Positions Hurt… Is That Normal?

Its fun to be able to mix it up and try new things... But what if some of the sexual positions you try hurt? What can you do? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, "I'm wondering if it's normal to have pain during certain sexual positions. I noticed that when riding my boyfriend or being in the doggy [...]

By | 2016-09-22T16:48:51+00:00 December 24, 2016|Energy, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Touch, Trauma|