Trauma

When Is Disappointment Useful?

Disappointment is a feeling most of us avoid... But what if it can be a useful and insightful signal to pay attention to? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: So Reid, you've shared with me that you think that, are you going to pick on me now? That people can most determine when they have expectations because they experience disappointment. Explain.  Reid: Yeah, [...]

By | 2016-09-19T14:29:46+00:00 September 28, 2016|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Trauma|

Dealing With Envy and Disappointment When There’s No Way To Get That Need Met…

It's easier to deal with disappointment and envy when you have alternatives... Can't have chocolate ice cream, just have chocolate chip. What do you when you can't have ice cream at all? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: This is Reid being helpful.  Reid: This is a very important question and I'm feeling intimidated.  Cathy: Someone asked:  "How do you deal with envy [...]

By | 2016-09-22T14:50:24+00:00 September 22, 2016|Dating, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Trauma|

What If You Tell A HUGE Lie?

How do you clean it up if you tell a big lie, and don't know what to do? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: We have a video about what to do if you tell a lie and get caught in it. Why did you do that?  Reid: I do that when I lie.  Cathy: This is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com.  Reid: Cathy Vartuli [...]

By | 2016-01-05T08:02:29+00:00 June 21, 2016|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Trauma|

What Do I Do If I Have Anal Burning?

Not sure what to do if you experience burning around your anus? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, "This is embarrassing, but I need an answer. My anus is burning anytime I use the rest room or shave in that area."  Reid: Put water on it, quick!  Cathy: Wow.  Reid: Like it's actually on fire?  Cathy: I don't think [...]

By | 2016-01-04T09:35:08+00:00 June 9, 2016|Shame, Trauma|

Keep Running Into An Ex-Friend And Feel Drawn To Reconnect?

If you're in the same social circle and keep running into an ex-friend... How do you not get pulled in again? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: All right. Someone wrote in and said that they watched our video about talking about conflict.  Reid: We love when you write in!  Cathy: Yes.  Reid: Keep writing in.  Cathy: She said it actually went really [...]

By | 2016-01-07T09:00:25+00:00 May 16, 2016|Dating, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame, Trauma|

Someone You Trusted Kicked You Out Of Their Life and Said Bad Things?

What can you do if someone you loved and let close says goodbye in a NOT nice way? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Reid: Oh, don't let me answer this question. Don't let me answer it. Don't let me ...  Cathy: Someone wrote in, said, "My used to be best friend told me to go away and die, what should I do?" This [...]

By | 2016-01-07T09:06:53+00:00 April 10, 2016|Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Trauma|

When Someone Says Really Mean Things… What Do You Do?

What to do when someone says something really mean to you? Examples with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Reid: From the road. Reid Mihalko from http://ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: And Cathy Vartuli from http://TheIntimacyDojo.com. Reid: Answering your questions to our videos. Cathy: In reply to our video on how to handle mean people, how to deal with them. Reid: Somebody left a really mean comment. Cathy: Yes. Reid: [...]

By | 2016-04-12T22:45:38+00:00 September 10, 2015|Energy, Relationship Skills, Trauma|

Are You Feeling Disappointment Or Rejection?

How do you know if you're feeling disappointment or rejection? And how do you deal with them? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: What is the difference between disappointment and rejection? Knowing that difference can make your life a lot easier, and we'll be going into that in just a minute. This is Reid Mihalko… Reid: From http://ReidAboutSex.com, and this is Cathy Vartuli… Cathy: From [...]

By | 2016-01-04T06:00:54+00:00 June 20, 2015|Trauma|

5 Break Up Tips: Making Breaking Up Easier To Do

How can you make breaking up easier? How can you support yourself through the process? Join Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com as they discuss making breaking up easier! Cathy: Hi, everyone. Breakups are pretty hard. What are five ways you can make breakups easier on yourself? Reid: Tune in now. We will tell you as we pull the answers out of our butts. I'm Reid Mihalko from [...]

By | 2016-01-19T12:36:16+00:00 July 2, 2014|Relationship Skills, Trauma|

What If Someone Apologizes, But Keeps Repeating The Action

Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com as they discuss what to do if some repeats an out of integrity action over and over. Cathy: In an earlier video, we talked about the Five Languages of Apology, by Gary Chapman which is a great book. It's really powerful. It talks about ways we can apologize to our partners so it really lands. Someone wrote in and [...]

By | 2016-01-06T10:19:15+00:00 June 18, 2014|Dating, Relationship Skills, Shame, Trauma|