Trauma

If I Have Sex With Him, Will He Disappear?

Traditional advise says women should hold back on being sexual so the man will pursue. Is that still valid and what are the alternatives? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: One of our viewers wrote in and said, “I recently had sexual encounter with a new man. I know we really like each other and we seeing each other twice now. Something I [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:30:03+00:00 January 11, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Trauma|

Certain Sexual Positions Hurt… Is That Normal?

Its fun to be able to mix it up and try new things... But what if some of the sexual positions you try hurt? What can you do? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, "I'm wondering if it's normal to have pain during certain sexual positions. I noticed that when riding my boyfriend or being in the doggy [...]

By | 2016-09-22T16:48:51+00:00 December 24, 2016|Energy, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Touch, Trauma|

When Is Disappointment Useful?

Disappointment is a feeling most of us avoid... But what if it can be a useful and insightful signal to pay attention to? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: So Reid, you've shared with me that you think that, are you going to pick on me now? That people can most determine when they have expectations because they experience disappointment. Explain.  Reid: Yeah, [...]

By | 2016-09-19T14:29:46+00:00 September 28, 2016|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Trauma|

Dealing With Envy and Disappointment When There’s No Way To Get That Need Met…

It's easier to deal with disappointment and envy when you have alternatives... Can't have chocolate ice cream, just have chocolate chip. What do you when you can't have ice cream at all? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: This is Reid being helpful.  Reid: This is a very important question and I'm feeling intimidated.  Cathy: Someone asked:  "How do you deal with envy [...]

By | 2016-09-22T14:50:24+00:00 September 22, 2016|Dating, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Trauma|

What If You Tell A HUGE Lie?

How do you clean it up if you tell a big lie, and don't know what to do? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: We have a video about what to do if you tell a lie and get caught in it. Why did you do that?  Reid: I do that when I lie.  Cathy: This is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com.  Reid: Cathy Vartuli [...]

By | 2016-01-05T08:02:29+00:00 June 21, 2016|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Trauma|

What Do I Do If I Have Anal Burning?

Not sure what to do if you experience burning around your anus? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, "This is embarrassing, but I need an answer. My anus is burning anytime I use the rest room or shave in that area."  Reid: Put water on it, quick!  Cathy: Wow.  Reid: Like it's actually on fire?  Cathy: I don't think [...]

By | 2016-01-04T09:35:08+00:00 June 9, 2016|Shame, Trauma|

Keep Running Into An Ex-Friend And Feel Drawn To Reconnect?

If you're in the same social circle and keep running into an ex-friend... How do you not get pulled in again? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: All right. Someone wrote in and said that they watched our video about talking about conflict.  Reid: We love when you write in!  Cathy: Yes.  Reid: Keep writing in.  Cathy: She said it actually went really [...]

By | 2016-01-07T09:00:25+00:00 May 16, 2016|Dating, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame, Trauma|

Someone You Trusted Kicked You Out Of Their Life and Said Bad Things?

What can you do if someone you loved and let close says goodbye in a NOT nice way? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Reid: Oh, don't let me answer this question. Don't let me answer it. Don't let me ...  Cathy: Someone wrote in, said, "My used to be best friend told me to go away and die, what should I do?" This [...]

By | 2016-01-07T09:06:53+00:00 April 10, 2016|Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Trauma|

When Someone Says Really Mean Things… What Do You Do?

What to do when someone says something really mean to you? Examples with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Reid: From the road. Reid Mihalko from http://ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: And Cathy Vartuli from http://TheIntimacyDojo.com. Reid: Answering your questions to our videos. Cathy: In reply to our video on how to handle mean people, how to deal with them. Reid: Somebody left a really mean comment. Cathy: Yes. Reid: [...]

By | 2016-04-12T22:45:38+00:00 September 10, 2015|Energy, Relationship Skills, Trauma|

Are You Feeling Disappointment Or Rejection?

How do you know if you're feeling disappointment or rejection? And how do you deal with them? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: What is the difference between disappointment and rejection? Knowing that difference can make your life a lot easier, and we'll be going into that in just a minute. This is Reid Mihalko… Reid: From http://ReidAboutSex.com, and this is Cathy Vartuli… Cathy: From [...]

By | 2016-01-04T06:00:54+00:00 June 20, 2015|Trauma|