Are You Feeling Disappointment Or Rejection?

How do you know if you're feeling disappointment or rejection? And how do you deal with them? With Cathy Vartuli from and Reid Mihalko from Cathy: What is the difference between disappointment and rejection? Knowing that difference can make your life a lot easier, and we'll be going into that in just a minute. This is Reid Mihalko… Reid: From, and this is Cathy Vartuli… Cathy: From [...]

By | 2016-01-04T06:00:54+00:00 June 20, 2015|Trauma|

5 Break Up Tips: Making Breaking Up Easier To Do

How can you make breaking up easier? How can you support yourself through the process? Join Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from as they discuss making breaking up easier! Cathy: Hi, everyone. Breakups are pretty hard. What are five ways you can make breakups easier on yourself? Reid: Tune in now. We will tell you as we pull the answers out of our butts. I'm Reid Mihalko from [...]

By | 2016-01-19T12:36:16+00:00 July 2, 2014|Relationship Skills, Trauma|

What If Someone Apologizes, But Keeps Repeating The Action

Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from as they discuss what to do if some repeats an out of integrity action over and over. Cathy: In an earlier video, we talked about the Five Languages of Apology, by Gary Chapman which is a great book. It's really powerful. It talks about ways we can apologize to our partners so it really lands. Someone wrote in and [...]

By | 2016-01-06T10:19:15+00:00 June 18, 2014|Dating, Relationship Skills, Shame, Trauma|

Trauma and Sexuality

Cathy Vartuli from and Ashley Manta from share how trauma can effect sexual self-expression, and what you can do to support yourself or others in healing and reclaiming your sexuality. Cathy: Hi everyone today we are talking about trauma and sexuality. A lot of people are traumatized. There is an estimated one in three females by the time that they are eighteen have had some type of sexual [...]

By | 2016-01-20T05:50:11+00:00 June 14, 2014|Body Image, Collaborators, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

Fear of Physical Intimacy: Lack of Trust

How do you deal with fear of intimacy, and how do you feel safe and trusting in a connection? Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from as they share simple, practical steps you can take to bring the passion back into your life, and create warmth and love again. Cathy: Hi, everyone. What do you do when you're afraid of physical intimacy? You want to [...]

By | 2016-01-06T09:07:49+00:00 February 21, 2013|Dating, Relationship Skills, Trauma|

Tips for Creating Safety Around Touch.

Fear of touch can create a conflict- you long for connection and you freeze up at the thought. People need touch to really thrive. Avoid skin hunger and learn how to start feeling safer receiving concentual touch and getting the warmth and connection you long for. Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from share tips and approaches to allow you to feel safer giving and receiving touch. Cathy: [...]

By | 2016-01-06T12:10:24+00:00 November 8, 2012|Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame, Trauma|

Handling Mean People

It's easy to be rattled when someone is mean to us. Want to learn cool ways to reframe this and "turn the tables"? Join Cathy Vartuli from as she talks to sex and relationship expert Reid Mihalko from about creating more intimacy in your life. Cathy:  Hey, everyone. This is Cathy Vartuli from, and Reid Mihalko from Reid, what do you do if someone's mean to [...]

By | 2016-04-13T07:07:58+00:00 June 23, 2012|Relationship Skills, Trauma|

Frozen Around Love?

When something bad happens and we don't feel like we have any power to change or fix the problem, we often freeze. This is a normal response to trauma. If you were a wild animal, you'd quickly shake off the trauma and move on. Most humans have been trained our of the healthy release patterns, so we end up staying frozen. The pattern gets STUCK in your system. The problem is, [...]

By | 2012-03-12T20:16:48+00:00 March 12, 2012|Trauma|