Attraction

3 Strikes Rule And Lying/Changing Your Mind

What are the 3 Strikes Rule and how are they applied to lying? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com.     Reid: Cathy promised me that was the last video but now we have to shoot another one. Cathy: Actually I- Reid: You lied to me! Cathy: No, you changed your mind. Reid: Okay, the first video if you haven't seen it was about lying and there [...]

By | 2017-05-03T20:21:59+00:00 May 2, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills|

What Is Gender Queer?

And what about pronouns? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com, Andi Cortland from http://www.LevelUpSex.com. Cathy: What is genderqueer? I'm Catherine Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com. I'm really honored to be joined today by Andi Cortland.  Andi: From http://www.LevelUpSex.com. Today, we're talking about genderqueer. For me, that means that I don't feel like a man. I don't feel like a woman. I just feel like a human. It would be pretty awesome if people [...]

By | 2016-11-07T16:07:53+00:00 April 29, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Do You End Up Being Friends With People You’re Interested In Romantically? Here’s Help!

Cathy: Some people end up being friends with everyone they're interested with romantically. It doesn't ever quite transition to romantic. They end up being buddies. That can be really frustrating. Reid: The friend zone. Cathy: Yes. It can be very frustrating.  What would you do, Reid Mihalko, from http://wwwReidAboutSex.com? Reid: I don't know, Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com. What would I do? What a weird segue. Being stuck in the friend zone. [...]

By | 2016-09-23T15:27:19+00:00 April 23, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Can I Be A Sex Educator Even If I’m Not Having A Lot Of Sex Right Now?

Does a sex educator have to be having great sex a lot to be in integrity? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: I can't take him anywhere. Reid: That's why we sit right here, in front of this camera. Cathy: Someone wrote in and said they're a sex educator. Good job. They're also going through a lot of transition about their sexuality right [...]

By | 2016-09-23T15:26:10+00:00 April 20, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Touch|

Considering A Non-traditional Relationship?

Why are you in relationships? What if the relationship is non-traditional? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com, Andi Cortland from http://www.LevelUpSex.com and Raj.Cathy: Are you considering a non-traditional relationship? A marriage without sex? What are we talking about? I’m Cathy Vartuli from https://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com. Cathy: Are you considering a non-traditional relationship? A marriage without sex? What are we talking about? I’m Cathy Vartuli from https://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com. Andi: I’m Andi Cortland from http://www.LevelUpSex.com. Raj: [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:57:08+00:00 March 23, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

How Do You Deal With Haters? And Herpes Not A Big Deal?!

Someone calling you a wacko? And saying you're way off track? What can you do? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Reid: Hate mail, hate mail, whatcha gonna do? Whatcha gonna do when the haters come for you? Okay, so this really isn't necessarily hate mail ...  Cathy: Well, calling us "fucking wackos" is a little bit unpleasant.  Reid: Well, we're a little bit [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:55:52+00:00 March 17, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Trauma|

Transitioning Gender? How Do People React In Mainstream Communities?

When you're transitioning your gender, how do people react? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com, Andi Cortland from http://www.LevelUpSex.com and Raj. Cathy: When you're transitioning gender, what are other people's reactions when you're in the mainstream? I'm Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com.  Andi: I'm Andi Cortland from http://www.LevelUpSex.com.  Raj: I'm Raj. I'm married to Andi.  Cathy: Thanks for being here. You're transitioning your gender?  Andi: Yes.  Cathy: I'm curious for both of [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:54:27+00:00 March 11, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Building Community to Make Life More Fun: Sex Geeks Community

It can be hard to find like minded people to share and co-create with. Building community can make life lots more fun. Kate McCombs from http://www.SexGeekdom.com, Ashley Manta from http://www.AshleyManta.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com share tips and their experiences. Cathy: So if you watched our last video, we're talking about collaboration and how much fun it is to work with other people. If you feel kind of isolated and [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:49:29+00:00 March 2, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

What Do You Do When One Partner Wants Something and The Other Doesn’t?

How do you deal with the shame and social pressure and choose what's right for you? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com, Andi Cortland from http://www.LevelUpSex.com and Raj. Cathy: How do you deal with it when one partner wants something and the other partner doesn't? I'm Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com.  Andi: I'm Andi Cortland from http://www.LevelUpSex.com.  Raj: I'm Raj, I'm married to Andi.  Cathy: It is a challenge when ... We're [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:42:29+00:00 February 9, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

How Does The Sex Positive Community React To Gender and Relationship Changes?

Even in a super supportive community, it can be challenging to change how we identify ourselves, either in relationships (opening up) or gender. How does it feel? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com, Andi Cortland from http://www.LevelUpSex.com and Raj. Cathy: Whether you're opening up your relationship or transitioning gender or whatever you are doing in your relationship how does that feel as part of the sex positive community, what are your [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:41:53+00:00 February 6, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|