Saying No To Your Partner In A Loving Way…

Its important to be able to set boundaries with your partner and say no... How do you do that in a way that leaves them cared about? With Cathy Vartuli from and Reid Mihalko from Cathy: We had people writing in. We discussed how you set boundaries when that’s what you need in your relationship. And what if your partner does or doesn’t want to, like, do [...]

By | 2017-05-05T12:39:56+00:00 July 31, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Your Partner Asks You To Make A Change… Do You Try Or Honor Where You Are?

Self-expression and boundaries are great things to have. But if someone asks you to upgrade some behavior or skill, how do you know when to stick to your self-expression and when to level up? With Cathy Vartuli from and Reid Mihalko from Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, my question is say my partner ask to meet a need for them, which is difficult for me. How [...]

By | 2017-05-04T15:59:46+00:00 July 22, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

In a Poly Relationship and Not Sure How To Set Boundaries Around Flirting?

Is it ok for people to flirt with your partner, if you're in a poly relationship, in a monogamous situation? With Cathy Vartuli from and Reid Mihalko from Reid: Cathy Vartuli from Intimacy Dojo. Reading one of our amazing watcher/listeners comments. Oh, I spit everywhere. Cathy: Someone wrote and said, “Hi Cathy, I’ve been watching you and Reid’s video for the past three months and I’m grateful for [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:55:12+00:00 March 14, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

What If You And Your Partner Have Very Different Needs Around Play Parties?

What if you're shyer and don't want to jump in the middle of the pile? Or what if you do what to jump in the middle of the pile? With Cathy Vartuli from, Andi Cortland from and Raj. Cathy: What if you and your partner have very different needs about play parties, what you want to express, what you want to experience? It can be a challenge. What [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:41:04+00:00 February 3, 2017|Dating, Energy, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

How Transparent Do You Need To Be In Business… And What About Privacy?

Personal stories can help people feel safe and understood. Where is the boundary between privacy and transparency? With Cathy Vartuli from and Reid Mihalko from and Reid: Oh we got a good question. When I'm wearing the Sex Geek Summer Camp shirt, we're talking about business for sex educators around building careers and branding and marketing and stuff, when I'm just wearing the Sex Geek shirt, these [...]

By | 2016-09-22T15:32:30+00:00 December 9, 2016|Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

How Do You Deal With Someone Who Wants Different Things Out Of A Sexual Relationship?

What if one of you wants to have casual sex and the other wants a committed relationship? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from and Reid Mihalko from Cathy:  We have a video on playing games around sex and releasing old paradigms in our relationships, where a woman's not supposed to initiate sex, not supposed to have sex with someone for so many dates or whatever. There's a lot [...]

By | 2016-09-22T15:11:33+00:00 November 12, 2016|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Is There A Way To Make Asking For Payment Easier? Do You Negotiate?

Handling money can be challenging! How do you discuss money with clients or prospective clients and still sound confident and professional? How can it be easy? With Cathy Vartuli from the and Reid Mihalko from Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, “How do I ask for payments with ease? Should I negotiate? What do I do?” Reid: I just send them that little clip from Jerry Maguire. Show [...]

By | 2016-09-22T15:00:53+00:00 October 16, 2016|Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

When Is It Time To Pull Out?

Knowing the sensations just before you come give you greater control and possibility during sex. With Cathy Vartuli from and Reid Mihalko from and Reid: Focus! What are we working on? This is Cathy Vartuli from  Cathy: This is Reid Mihalko for  Reid: We have a question.  Cathy: You actually started this as a joke, but I actually want to know. How do you know [...]

By | 2016-01-04T09:32:40+00:00 May 19, 2016|Dating, Energy, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Touch|

What Do You Do About A Mini-Stalker?

How do you handle someone who is SOOO excited about you that they mini-stalk you? With Cathy Vartuli from and Reid Mihalko from Cathy: How do you deal with someone who mini-stalks you? This is Reid Mihalko from Reid: This is Cathy Vartuli from Cathy: We've all had times where people really enjoyed being with us or we've enjoyed being with them, but sometimes people don't [...]

By | 2016-01-05T08:37:33+00:00 September 16, 2015|Energy, Relationship Skills|

How Can You Have Good Boundaries When You’re Being Goofy?

People like being playful and goofy, but they are not necessarily being as careful about boundaries. State your boundaries so that you can be even more playful. It's not the other way around. With boundaries you can make people feel safer, and they will play back with you. Hear what relationship expert Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from have to say about how you can have good boundaries when you're [...]

By | 2016-01-05T09:33:31+00:00 May 7, 2015|Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|