Cathy Vartuli

Do You Get Silent When You’re Disappointed? Can You Reclaim Your Voice?

Silence doesn't often get us what we want, and can leave people feeling disempowered. How can you share when you're disappointment? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, thanks for doing this video, it's about handling disappointment. Then she said, I usually stay silent when I'm disappointed. I'm finding that only causes pain and helpless feelings. I'm middle aged and trying [...]

By | 2016-01-04T07:51:50+00:00 May 22, 2016|Dating, Relationship Skills|

When Is It Time To Pull Out?

Knowing the sensations just before you come give you greater control and possibility during sex. With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Reid: Focus! What are we working on? This is Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com.  Cathy: This is Reid Mihalko for http://www.ReidAboutSex.com.  Reid: We have a question.  Cathy: You actually started this as a joke, but I actually want to know. How do you know [...]

By | 2016-01-04T09:32:40+00:00 May 19, 2016|Dating, Energy, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Touch|

Keep Running Into An Ex-Friend And Feel Drawn To Reconnect?

If you're in the same social circle and keep running into an ex-friend... How do you not get pulled in again? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: All right. Someone wrote in and said that they watched our video about talking about conflict.  Reid: We love when you write in!  Cathy: Yes.  Reid: Keep writing in.  Cathy: She said it actually went really [...]

By | 2016-01-07T09:00:25+00:00 May 16, 2016|Dating, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame, Trauma|

Ever Feel Pressured To Act How People Expect You To Act?

Its easy to feel obligated to meet people's expectations. How do you get around that so you can be self-expressed? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: There's theories in sociology that I've actually ... I believe that are real because I've felt them, but we sometimes behave according to how we think other people think we should behave. Reid: What's that called? Cathy: [...]

By | 2016-01-07T09:02:19+00:00 May 13, 2016|Body Image, Energy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

How Do You Take Care Of Yourself After You Run Events?

After you put out a lot of energy and make sure everyone has a magical experience at your event, how do you take care of yourself? How can you bounce back and recharge? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com.   Reid: What are your after care needs when you run events? After what? Cathy: Knowing how you like to celebrate and wind down is [...]

By | 2016-01-04T08:36:34+00:00 May 10, 2016|Event, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

How Do You Know When To Cancel An Event And When To Push Forward?

Life events or low attendance can make it challenging to go forward with a planned event. How do you know when to pull out? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com.   Reid: How do you know when it's time to pull out? Cathy: Of an event. Reid: Of an event. This is business advice because I'm wearing my "Sex Geek Summer Camp" T-shirt, which [...]

By | 2016-01-08T05:53:46+00:00 May 7, 2016|Event, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

How Do You Do Business? Are You Poly or Monogamous?

Business can involve deep relationships. Using romantic relationship skills and ideas can be a powerful way to look at how you do business. Learn more with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: Are you poly or monogamous in your business relationships?  Reid: What? Business conversation. Sex Geek Summer Camp T-shirt means business conversations for sex educators. This is Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com. Cathy: This [...]

By | 2016-01-04T09:06:49+00:00 May 4, 2016|Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Can You Really Just Watch Your Partner Sleep With Someone Else?

If your partner wants to sleep with someone else, does it work for you to watch? Or does that make you feel bad? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, "What's wrong with you dude? You just sit there and watch while someone else fucked your girl?" and while the language wasn't very polite I really think there's a [...]

By | 2016-01-07T09:04:00+00:00 May 1, 2016|Dating, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

3 Top Tips To Make Going Down On Her Mind Blowing

Get your PhD in Cunnilingus with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Reid: Cunnilingus tips? Cathy: Yes. Reid: All right. Cathy: This is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Reid: This is Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com. Cathy: Reid travels all around the country teaching a workshop at sex-toy stores and colleges on how to be a better lover. Reid: I teach all kinds of things like that. [...]

By | 2016-01-04T09:30:34+00:00 April 28, 2016|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Touch|

How To Give An Awesome Blowjob!

Ever wonder how you can give a better blowjob? Or what to request for a mind-blowing experience? Learn more with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: How do you give a blowjob? This is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Reid: This is Cathy Vartuli from the http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com. Cathy: We teach this amazing workshop on how to give a blowjob. Reid: It's called blowjob grad school, [...]

By | 2016-01-04T09:34:09+00:00 April 25, 2016|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Touch|