Cathy Vartuli

How Can I Know When To Stop In Bed?

Do you know when to stop? Some women want to stop when they have an orgasm, and some women are multi-orgasmic, or just want to keep enjoying. Some men, too. Having a discussion with your partner about it can be really powerful. There's ways that you can set up agreements ahead of time. Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com as they talk about when to [...]

By | 2016-01-04T12:47:14+00:00 May 16, 2015|Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Touch|

What Do I Do When I Don’t Deserve Happiness and Love?

It can be really challenging when you don't feel like you deserve happiness. It's hard to let in the things that would actually allow you feel better about yourself. Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com as they share advice on what you can do when you don't feel like you deserve to be happy. Cathy: Someone wrote in and asked what can I do when [...]

By | 2016-01-05T10:03:47+00:00 April 4, 2015|Relationship Skills|

I’m Always The Cool Girl Friend… Never the Girlfriend, How Do I Get Out There?

Are you always the cool girl friend and never the cool girlfriend? Do you hate the idea of being shut down? Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com as they talk about how you can deal with that fear of being shut down. Cathy: We shot a video a while ago about being stuck in the friend zone. Reid: It's a Kenny Loggins song, right? Cathy: It's [...]

By | 2016-01-05T10:06:01+00:00 March 29, 2015|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Shame|

I’m Poly And Kinky, My Partner Isn’t, What Do I Do?

You're polyamorous, but your partner is not, and he doesn't have the same sex drive as you do. Basicaly you're dating people that are not your species? Can Poly/Mono relationship work or is it time to pull the plug? Here relationship expert Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com will give advice on what to do in this kind of situation. Cathy: One of our viewers wrote in and said, "I'm polyamorous, [...]

By | 2015-12-23T12:13:28+00:00 March 26, 2015|Sex Geeks|

If You Want To Be More Powerful …How Can You Still Leave Space For Other People?

There's an assumption that, if you're powerful, then somehow you're not going to notice people. We tend to think that power is automatically reckless or the worry there is that it's going to be reckless. If you want to be a more powerful person, how can you do it without trampling other people, still being aware of other people and giving space for other people to have their needs and wants too? Join [...]

By | 2016-01-06T09:37:28+00:00 March 23, 2015|Energy, Relationship Skills|

In The Mood For Connection… How Can You Invite Your Partner?

If you're in the mood to be really intimate, connected with your partner, not necessarily sexual, but just connected, present, and your partner's not in the mood, how can you start a conversation maybe to invite them to step into it with you? Hear what relationship expert Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com have to say about this. Cathy: If you're in the mood to be really intimate, connected [...]

By | 2016-01-06T09:39:51+00:00 March 20, 2015|Energy, Relationship Skills|

Is The Withdrawal Method Effective?

If you're having a condomless sex, you are exposing yourself, or increasing the risk because of exposure to catching certain STDs or STIs whichever way you want to use the lingo. Withdrawal does not increase ... it increases your chances of being exposed to everything basically. That's not good for any kind of safer sex. But for contraception reasons, is withdrawal method really effective or should you avoid it? Join [...]

By | 2016-04-13T11:32:37+00:00 March 17, 2015|Sex Geeks|

My Partner Is Being Too Gentle In Bed…

Would you like your partner to be a little rougher, aggressive, more physical during  sex? Is your partner afraid of hurting you, and treating you like you're glass? Hear what relationship expert Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com have to say about how to communicate with your partner, so he understands that it would be pleasurable for you, and he's not going to hurt you. Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, "I'd like my boyfriend [...]

By | 2016-01-06T08:19:23+00:00 March 14, 2015|Sex Geeks, Touch|

Question: I Heard That Anal Sex Is Bad For You…

Some say that the anus is not meant for receiving penetration and that having anal sex would lead to incontinence were you wouldn't be able to refrain from pulling yourself. Is that true? Hear what relationship expert Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com have to say about anal sex. Cathy: One of our viewers wrote in and said that as a pre-med student in medical science field that they had been [...]

By | 2016-01-04T12:56:09+00:00 March 11, 2015|Sex Geeks|

Tips to Change Your Mental and Emotional State

You're on your way home from work and you're really frustrated. It's a really special night. You really want to be there for your partner and yet, you have road rage. What do you do? How do you change your focus and your state? Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com as they share ways to change your mental and emotional state. Cathy: You're on your [...]

By | 2016-01-06T09:43:17+00:00 March 8, 2015|Relationship Skills|