Communication Skills

How Do You Tell Someone That You’re Just Not That Into Them?

What would you do when you realize you just want to be friends? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo and Reid Mihalko and Cathy: Someone wrote and said, “I recently parted with a female over the New Year’s holidays but now she’s obviously more into me that I am into her. She’s dropping the L word after only a week.” Reid: Latte! I’m Reid Mihalko from Cathy: I’m Cathy [...]

By | 2017-05-03T02:37:28+00:00 June 19, 2017|Dating, Relationship Skills|

How Do I Know If My Rules Are Reasonable In My Poly Relationship?

What is "reasonable" to ask for in a relationship? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo and Reid Mihalko and Cathy: Hi Reid and Cathy. I really need some advice and someone to tell me if the rule I have in my poly relationship is reasonable or not. My primary partner has started dating someone else for the first time in 6 years. I support her 100%. I have [...]

By | 2017-05-03T02:15:08+00:00 June 16, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills|

How Can You Lead From Intention Vs Expectation?

How can you set intentions while giving space for audience's needs and direction? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo and Reid Mihalko and   Reid: Yeah. Cathy: Talking about today about leading from intention versus expectation. How to listen to the room and hold space for it. Reid: That sounds like a facilitator question. Oh, my goodness! That's why I wear my Sex Geek Summer Camp, because we're talking about [...]

By | 2017-05-02T23:49:06+00:00 May 26, 2017|Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

What Is Gender Queer?

And what about pronouns? With Cathy Vartuli from, Andi Cortland from Cathy: What is genderqueer? I'm Catherine Vartuli from I'm really honored to be joined today by Andi Cortland.  Andi: From Today, we're talking about genderqueer. For me, that means that I don't feel like a man. I don't feel like a woman. I just feel like a human. It would be pretty awesome if people [...]

By | 2016-11-07T16:07:53+00:00 April 29, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

If You’re The Go To Expert Around Sex, How Do You Make Space For Your Own Growth?

When everyone is turning to you... When do you get time, space and focus to do your own growth and learning? With Cathy Vartuli from and Reid Mihalko from and Cathy: How do you deal with being both a sex educator and a human being? Being the resource for information on dealing with personal relationship issues we all have? I have this feeling like one must know [...]

By | 2016-09-23T15:28:40+00:00 April 26, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Do You End Up Being Friends With People You’re Interested In Romantically? Here’s Help!

Cathy: Some people end up being friends with everyone they're interested with romantically. It doesn't ever quite transition to romantic. They end up being buddies. That can be really frustrating. Reid: The friend zone. Cathy: Yes. It can be very frustrating.  What would you do, Reid Mihalko, from Reid: I don't know, Cathy Vartuli from What would I do? What a weird segue. Being stuck in the friend zone. [...]

By | 2016-09-23T15:27:19+00:00 April 23, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Can I Be A Sex Educator Even If I’m Not Having A Lot Of Sex Right Now?

Does a sex educator have to be having great sex a lot to be in integrity? With Cathy Vartuli from and Reid Mihalko from and Cathy: I can't take him anywhere. Reid: That's why we sit right here, in front of this camera. Cathy: Someone wrote in and said they're a sex educator. Good job. They're also going through a lot of transition about their sexuality right [...]

By | 2016-09-23T15:26:10+00:00 April 20, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Touch|

How Women Can Talk About STIs and Testing

How can women talk about STIs and getting Tested? Kate McCombs from, Ashley Manta from and Cathy Vartuli from share tips and their experiences. Cathy: Hey, everyone. We're talking about STDs and getting tested. We know that as women, there's a lot of stigma around that. We'd like to discuss our views and share different ways to make it more comfortable. Would you like to introduce us? [...]

By | 2016-09-23T15:21:10+00:00 April 17, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Considering Opening Up Your Relationship? How Do You Talk To Your Partner?

Want to talk to your partner about opening up your relationship? How do you bring up the subject? Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from as they share ideas and resources for talking about polyamory and open relationships. Cathy: Have you been thinking about opening up your relationship? Are you terrified of speaking to your partner about it? You’re not sure what they’re going to [...]

By | 2016-09-23T15:20:19+00:00 April 14, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Acting As If Your Lovable

Do you want to improve your embodiment? Do you want to feel better about yourself?  A lot of us want to love ourselves more. We're told that that will help, but we don't know how to make the first steps. When I first started this journey, I didn't love myself at all in fact I had spent decades learning to hate myself and how to punish myself and push myself [...]

By | 2016-09-23T15:02:56+00:00 April 11, 2017|Dating, Energy, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|