Communication Skills

Expectations and Agreements

Where do expectations get in the way, and how are they helpful? When do you want agreements and when are they too much work? Cathy: Hi everyone, I'm Cathy Vartuli from the and I want to talk today about expectations versus agreements. Most of us are really good with expectations, we have them all the time. We were brought up in a certain culture, a certain set of social [...]

By | 2016-01-06T10:15:45+00:00 June 22, 2014|Dating, Energy, Relationship Skills|

Dealing With People Who Cut You Off, Or Won’t Stop Talking

Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from as they share what to do, whether your lead workshops or in your personal life, when people cut you off or won't stop talking. Cathy: Are you ever in a situation where all of a sudden someone will ... Reid: Cut you off, and then keeps talking? Cathy: Yes. Reid: Yeah. Happens all the time. Cathy: (Laughs) It can be difficult [...]

By | 2015-12-22T21:50:57+00:00 June 12, 2014|Collaborators, Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills|

Resolving Disagreements With Your Partner

What do you do when your partner, friend, co-worker or family member feels strongly about a topic, and disagrees with you? This can cause fights and tension. Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from as they give you tips and suggestions. Cathy: Hi, this is Cathy Vartuli from Reid: I'm Reid Mihalko from Cathy: We all have friends, partners, lovers, coworkers who we may admire and [...]

By | 2016-04-18T10:41:05+00:00 June 8, 2014|Dating, Relationship Skills|

As A Woman Who Likes Women…What Is Your Favorite Thing About A Vulva?

Allison Moon from joins Cathy Vartuli from and shares what she most likes about vulvas... learn more here! Cathy: Hey, everyone. This is Cathy Vartuli from, and I'm here today with Allison Moon from Hey, Allison! Allison: Hi! How it's going? Cathy: Good! I'm so glad you're here with us. Allison: I'm glad I'm here too. Cathy: So as a woman who likes women, can you [...]

By | 2016-01-06T08:57:32+00:00 June 19, 2013|Body Image, Dating, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Premature Ejaculation

Cathy: Hi, everyone. Have you ever wondered... I'm sorry I'm messing this up, I don't know how to start this. Reid: You messed up prematurely? Cathy: I prematurely messed it up. Reid: Guess what this one is about. Premature ejaculation. Cathy: We've had several people email and asking for help with this, how do you deal with it. Reid: I'm Reid Mihalko from Cathy: Cathy Vartuli from Reid: [...]

By | 2016-01-04T13:01:20+00:00 June 12, 2013|Body Image, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Having a Safer Elevator Speech In An Existing Relationship

Cathy: We just did a video on having a safer sex elevator speech on your date. But if you've been in a relationship for a while, you may feel really awkward to bring it up. You've already been sleeping together. You're already together. You're like if I bring it up, they might think I don't trust them. There's all kinds of fears that can come up. So how can you [...]

By | 2016-01-06T10:23:00+00:00 June 11, 2013|Dating, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Reigniting Passion in Your Relationships

Is your relationship growing stale? Are one or both of you shut down or disconnected? Cathy: Hey everyone. Do you want to revitalize your relationship? Reid: Do you want to reignite your passion? Cathy: It can be hard if you're feeling shut down. Reid: Yeah. Cathy: And once you're shut down, you tend not to communicate and I think a lot of people start looking elsewhere for connection. Reid: Uh-hum. [...]

By | 2016-01-06T10:53:04+00:00 March 12, 2013|Dating, Relationship Skills, Touch|

How Body Image Changes Romantic Connection

Have you found that body image (your view of your own body, your thoughts about what other people think, what they actually think about your body) gets in the way of connecting with people, especially romantically? We're all built differently, and when we stop critiquing ourselves, we may find that others aren't judging us as harshly as we thought! Want the inside scoop from Kelly Shibari from and [...]

By | 2016-01-07T09:32:50+00:00 March 6, 2013|Dating, Shame, Touch|

Vulnerability: Sharing without Being a Victim

You want to be more open and transparent, but how much do you share, with whom, and what do you share so you feel good about the interaction, and don't come across as a victim? Cathy: You may have just seen the video we did on vulnerability and how important it is to creating intimacy and deep connection with people. But if you want to start being vulnerable, how do [...]

By | 2016-01-06T12:00:58+00:00 February 28, 2013|Dating, Relationship Skills|

Vulnerability: Authentic and Positive

Being Authentic and owning responsibility, while being positive... how do you balance these aspects of yourself and have communication. Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from as they share simple, practical steps you can take to bring the passion back into your life, and create warmth and love again. Cathy: Hey, everyone. If you're being more vulnerable in sharing, being more transparent, part of that [...]

By | 2016-01-06T12:03:20+00:00 February 23, 2013|Dating, Relationship Skills|