Communication Skills

Talking To Your Partner About Lack Of Desire Can Be Challenging… How Do You Do It?

Do you owe your partner sex? What if you promised? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: How do you tell your partner in a way that's loving and caring that you're just not in the mood? Reid: This is Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com. Cathy: And Reid Mihalco from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Reid: How do you do it? What's your advice? Cathy: One, I have to [...]

By | 2016-09-23T15:02:08+00:00 April 8, 2017|Dating, Energy, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

Life Purpose

We do a lot of coaching with people who want to find their life purpose.  They want to make a difference in the world. How do you find out what your life's purpose is? How do you know when you found it? I'm Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and I'd love to give you my tips and pointers because once you start on the journey, once you know where you're going, [...]

By | 2016-09-23T15:01:13+00:00 April 5, 2017|Dating, Energy, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Act As If You Were Lovable

Hi everyone. I’m Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and today we’re talking about loving yourself. We get people all the time saying how they want to improve how they feel about themselves or self-esteem. How they come to relate to other people and court to that is how much you care for yourself. When you see someone walking down the street as if they are lovable and deserving, good things should [...]

By | 2016-09-23T15:00:04+00:00 April 2, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

What Does It Mean To Take Someone At Their Word? What About Measuring Their Words By Their Actions?

Treating people like adults means taking them at their word most of the time... How can you tell if someone can use their words well? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: Reid, you talk about taking people at their word and measuring their words by ...  Reid: Let's read the testimonial first. We love it when you guys send in cool things about [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:58:59+00:00 March 30, 2017|Dating, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Sharing Vulnerably And Told You’re Just Insecure?

Opening up is scary enough without being told you're "too" insecure and needy. What do you do? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, "I've been listening to your advice and I just put myself out there feeling really vulnerable, only to be told by my family that I'm insecure, and my husband, and that the cause behind all of our [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:57:50+00:00 March 27, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

Can My Relationship Be Saved?

How do you know if your relationship is worth saving... And how can you save it? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, “Is there a way back from the brink? How can you assess a relationship and tell if it can be made to flourish again?” Reid: The brink of destruction? Cathy: Or [inaudible 00:00:10] Reid: The brink of insanity. [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:56:26+00:00 March 20, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

How Do You Deal With Haters? And Herpes Not A Big Deal?!

Someone calling you a wacko? And saying you're way off track? What can you do? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Reid: Hate mail, hate mail, whatcha gonna do? Whatcha gonna do when the haters come for you? Okay, so this really isn't necessarily hate mail ...  Cathy: Well, calling us "fucking wackos" is a little bit unpleasant.  Reid: Well, we're a little bit [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:55:52+00:00 March 17, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Trauma|

In a Poly Relationship and Not Sure How To Set Boundaries Around Flirting?

Is it ok for people to flirt with your partner, if you're in a poly relationship, in a monogamous situation? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Reid: Cathy Vartuli from Intimacy Dojo. Reading one of our amazing watcher/listeners comments. Oh, I spit everywhere. Cathy: Someone wrote and said, “Hi Cathy, I’ve been watching you and Reid’s video for the past three months and I’m grateful for [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:55:12+00:00 March 14, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Transitioning Gender? How Do People React In Mainstream Communities?

When you're transitioning your gender, how do people react? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com, Andi Cortland from http://www.LevelUpSex.com and Raj. Cathy: When you're transitioning gender, what are other people's reactions when you're in the mainstream? I'm Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com.  Andi: I'm Andi Cortland from http://www.LevelUpSex.com.  Raj: I'm Raj. I'm married to Andi.  Cathy: Thanks for being here. You're transitioning your gender?  Andi: Yes.  Cathy: I'm curious for both of [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:54:27+00:00 March 11, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Building Community to Make Life More Fun: Sex Geeks Community

It can be hard to find like minded people to share and co-create with. Building community can make life lots more fun. Kate McCombs from http://www.SexGeekdom.com, Ashley Manta from http://www.AshleyManta.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com share tips and their experiences. Cathy: So if you watched our last video, we're talking about collaboration and how much fun it is to work with other people. If you feel kind of isolated and [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:49:29+00:00 March 2, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|