Communication Skills

How Do You Know When Someone Has An Awkward Crush And When They’re Creepy?

Is someone a stalker or just really sweetly awkward? How can you tell? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Reid: We're eating chewable vitamins, and we're going to do this video while we make these faces. Cathy: I've finished mine, hopefully. Reid: What's the question? Cathy: This came from ... We had a video on dealing with a mini stalker. Reid: A mini stalker? [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:37:36+00:00 January 25, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

How Do I Know If My Rules Are Reasonable In My Poly Relationship?

What is "reasonable" to ask for in a relationship? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo and Reid Mihalko and http://www.ReidAboutSex.com as they disagree and debate. Cathy: Hi Reid and Cathy. I really need some advice and someone to tell me if the rule I have in my poly relationship is reasonable or not. My primary partner has started dating someone else for the first time in 6 years. I [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:37:00+00:00 January 23, 2017|Collaborators, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Afraid of Touch? Tips for Creating Safety Around Touch

Fear of touch can create a conflict- you long for connection and you freeze up at the thought. People need touch to really thrive. Avoid skin hunger and learn how to start feeling safer receiving concentual touch and getting the warmth and connection you long for. Reid Mihalko from http://www.reidaboutsex.com/ and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.theintimacydojo.com/ share tips and approaches to allow you to feel safer giving and receiving touch. Cathy: Hey, [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:31:29+00:00 January 17, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Touch|

If I Have Sex With Him, Will He Disappear?

Traditional advise says women should hold back on being sexual so the man will pursue. Is that still valid and what are the alternatives? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: One of our viewers wrote in and said, “I recently had sexual encounter with a new man. I know we really like each other and we seeing each other twice now. Something I [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:30:03+00:00 January 11, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Trauma|

Why Turns You On? Are You Spontaneous or Responsive In Bed?

Ever wonder if there's something wrong with you if you didn't get turned on the "right" way? What if there's nothing wrong... And you just have a different way of responding? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com, Andi Cortland from http://www.LevelUpSex.com and Raj. Cathy: What's the difference between responsive and spontaneous sexuality? How do you know which one you have? I'm Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com.  Andi: I'm Andi Cortland from http://www.LevelUpSex.com.  [...]

By | 2016-09-22T16:56:10+00:00 January 5, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

What Is Monosexism and How Does It Effect You?

Attracted to people of different genders? You could face mono sexism! What is it? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com, Andi Cortland from http://www.LevelUpSex.com. Cathy: What is monosexism and how does it affect you? I'm Cathy Vartuli from the http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com.  Andi: I'm Andi Cortland from http://www.LevelUpSex.com.  Cathy: Could you define monosexism for us?  Andi: Totally. This is discrimination against someone who is attracted to more than one sex. If you think [...]

By | 2016-09-22T16:55:25+00:00 January 2, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

What Role Does Intuition Play In The Bedroom?

When it comes to sexual play, words are really important. Where does intuition come into play and what if its one of the things that turns you on? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: So someone wrote in and said:  "Hey Reid, sexy question here."  Reid: Ooh, sexy question time.  Cathy: "So I've just read one of your articles on communicating and not [...]

By | 2016-09-22T16:49:17+00:00 December 27, 2016|Dating, Energy, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Certain Sexual Positions Hurt… Is That Normal?

Its fun to be able to mix it up and try new things... But what if some of the sexual positions you try hurt? What can you do? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, "I'm wondering if it's normal to have pain during certain sexual positions. I noticed that when riding my boyfriend or being in the doggy [...]

By | 2016-09-22T16:48:51+00:00 December 24, 2016|Energy, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Touch, Trauma|

What Do You Do When You’re In A Relationship And One Partner Transitions Gender?

What if your partner realizes their gender identity is different from what they thought... With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com, Andi Cortland from http://www.LevelUpSex.com and Raj. Cathy: What do you when you're in a relationship and one partner decides to transition gender and just expressing themselves differently? I'm Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com.  Andi: I'm Andi Cortland from http://www.LevelUpSex.com.  Raj: I'm Raj. I'm just a regular guy who happens to be married [...]

By | 2016-09-22T15:34:09+00:00 December 15, 2016|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

What Do You Do When You Realize What You’ve Been Teaching Is Wrong?!

Its a horrible feeling. You've been confidently teaching what you thought was great advice... And wham! You find out its wrong. What do you do? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Reid: What do you do when you realize what you're teaching is wrong? I love that. I love being wrong. Cathy: This is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Sex Geek Summer Camp Reid: [...]

By | 2016-09-22T15:33:19+00:00 December 12, 2016|Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|