My Partner Is Horrible At Reframing Fighting… I Want To Give Up!

Is your partner horrible at reframing fighting? Do you get to the point where you just give up because you don’t care? Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from as they share ways to learn how to reframe fighting and fight better. Cathy: In our video about reframing fighting, which I really enjoyed doing I think it's really useful information. Someone wrote: "Oh my god. [...]

By | 2016-01-05T06:06:46+00:00 June 23, 2015|Relationship Skills|

Handling Disappointment Can Be Challenging…Unless You Know How!

A simple tip on dealing with Disappointment with Cathy Vartuli from and Reid Mihalko from Cathy: We often get disappointed in life, and knowing how to handle that disappointment can make the difference between moving forward much more easily and feeling devastated. This is- Reid: (Blows nose loudly) Cathy: I feel very disappointed in my shirt right now. Reid: Acting. That was great. I'm an acting teacher. I'm [...]

By | 2016-01-04T06:00:06+00:00 June 14, 2015|Relationship Skills|

How Can I Share My STI / STD Test Results With My Partner?

How to make it seem normal to talk about STI testing which isn't in our society? Talking about things with your partner before you do them, can soften the blow. You don't want it to come as a surprise. Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from as they share ways to tell your partner about your STI/STD results. Cathy: One of our listeners wrote in and said she [...]

By | 2016-01-05T06:12:12+00:00 May 10, 2015|Relationship Skills|

How Can You Have Good Boundaries When You’re Being Goofy?

People like being playful and goofy, but they are not necessarily being as careful about boundaries. State your boundaries so that you can be even more playful. It's not the other way around. With boundaries you can make people feel safer, and they will play back with you. Hear what relationship expert Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from have to say about how you can have good boundaries when you're [...]

By | 2016-01-05T09:33:31+00:00 May 7, 2015|Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Finding A Balance: Self-Expression and Helping Others Feel Comfortable

How to find a balance where you're not offending? Some people are hard to read so you don't always know, if you've offended people. Finding that safe balance  can be a challenge. Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from as they talk about how to find a balance between self-expression and helping others feel comfortable. Cathy: I had shared in a video how I don't like to [...]

By | 2016-01-05T09:42:01+00:00 May 1, 2015|Energy, Relationship Skills|

Conflicts Around Money

What to do, if one person wants to save and budget and the other person, someone who is a lot more free thinking about money, doesn't want to budget or plan? That can cause a lot of conflict in a relationship, because one is a saver, and other is a spender. Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from as they share ways how to solve conflicts around [...]

By | 2016-04-13T09:12:58+00:00 April 13, 2015|Relationship Skills|

What Do You Do If You Lied And Don’t Know How To Clean It Up?

What do you do if you lied? You blurted out a lie without meaning to and then you're afraid to take it back and you're not really sure there's safe space to do so. What can you do? Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from as they share thoughts about how to clean up your lie. Cathy: Another viewer wrote in and said what do you [...]

By | 2016-01-06T09:46:23+00:00 February 27, 2015|Relationship Skills|

Being Attracted To Unavailable and Distant People

Cathy: Do you ever find that you're getting attracted, you find yourself attracted to people that are distant or emotionally unavailable? That can be a pattern that some people can fond to. And if you can just hit them upside the head it would make you feel better. Reid: Yeah, just do that. Next video please. Cathy: This is Reid Mihalko from Reid: Cathy Vartuli from Cathy: Reid, what can someone do [...]

By | 2016-01-06T08:27:59+00:00 August 1, 2014|Dating, Flirting|

Is It Safe To Be Sexual With Someone With Herpes?

Cathy: Hi Reid. One of our listeners asked, is it safe to be involved with someone with herpes? Reid: I’m Reid Mihalko from Cathy: I’m Cathy Vartuli from Reid: Is it safe? Cathy: Well, it is true that our culture makes … Reid: That was a shout out to my friends who are really big geeks about Robert Redford films. Do you know the Robert Redford film with that “Is it safe?” [...]

By | 2016-01-05T07:30:53+00:00 July 29, 2014|Dating|

Where Sex Meets “Isms”: From Shame to Self-Expression

This panel was presented at the 2013 Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit in DC, by emotional freedom coach Cathy Vartuli  from, 2013 EXXXOTICA BBW Female Performer of the Year Kelly Shibari from, iconic transgender filmmaker Buck Angel, sensuality guru Elle "Lady Cheeky" Chase from and, and outspoken sex blogger N'Jaila Rhee from Each person's sexual self-expression is unique, and requires courage and self-knowledge to [...]

By | 2016-01-19T13:53:27+00:00 November 27, 2013|Collaborators|