Playing with Touch and Intimacy: with Betty Martin

There is give and take in every relationship. Cathy Vartuli from interviews Betty Martin from about playing with touch and intimacy. Cathy: I'm Cathy Vartuli from here with Betty Martin from She's going to share the three-minute game with us. Hey, Betty. Betty: Hey! (Laugh). My favorite topic. Cathy: Is it? Betty: Yes. Pretty much. I'm writing a book on it. We've been talking with you [...]

By | 2016-01-07T12:36:22+00:00 February 14, 2016|Dating, Flirting|

Taking the Confusion Out of Giving Intimacy: With Betty Martin

Cathy: Hi everyone. I'm Cathy Vartuli from Here with Betty Martin from We're talking about giving. Now, have you ever been confused about giving and felt a little awkward about it? Betty is going to show us some ways to make it more clear and easy. Thanks, Betty. Betty: Thank you. First I want to define giving, because it can be thought of in a lot of ways. In our [...]

By | 2016-01-08T06:07:12+00:00 February 11, 2016|Dating, Energy, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

How Do You Deal With Change In A Relationship?

Moving across country for a job? Any big change can stress a relationship. What can you do? With Cathy Vartuli from, Andi Cortland from and Raj. Cathy: Dealing with change in a relationship can be really challenging. Moving across country because one person has a job or for other reasons, that can put a lot of turmoil into a relationship. How do you deal with that? I'm Cathy [...]

By | 2016-01-08T07:35:30+00:00 July 21, 2015|Dating, Energy, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

How To Be Better Prepared for a Conference

Conferences, workshops and events can be a blast! And they can be overwhelming and leave you exhausted and worn out. Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from share how to have a better conference! Cathy: Do you want to have a better conference? Reid: Yeah.  I totally do.  Most of my conference experiences are haphazard and hit or miss.  This would be really useful information.  Tell me more. Cathy: This [...]

By | 2016-01-07T09:38:56+00:00 July 17, 2014|Collaborators, Event|

How Can You Tease and Build Anticipation?

Would you like to be better at teasing and building anticipation? It can make everything from flirting to marketing more fun! Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from share. Cathy:  Would you like to be better at teasing and building anticipation? Reid:  Hm? What? Yes. Yes! I want to be better at that. Cathy:  This is Reid Mihalko from Reid:  And this is Cathy Vartuli from Cathy:  [...]

By | 2016-01-06T07:56:59+00:00 July 14, 2014|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Touch|

Building Self-Esteem to Overcome Shyness

If you want to get out there and build more connections, make friends, find romantic partners, self-esteem and self-confidence are key. Join Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from as they discuss powerful steps to building self-esteem! Cathy: Hi, everyone.  I'm Cathy Vartuli from Reid: I'm Reid Mihalko from  I was feeling a little not confident there. Cathy: Oh, so you're vamping a little bit. Reid: [...]

By | 2016-01-06T10:12:08+00:00 July 4, 2014|Body Image|

Penis Size, Sexual Shame and Confidence

Are you concerned about your penis size? Or love someone who has concerns about their size? Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from as they discuss how penis size can effect people's sexual confidence, and share tips on how to be more confident. Cathy: Hey everyone, this is Cathy Vartuli from Reid: I'm Reid Mihalko from Cathy: Today we're talking about penis size. (Laughs) A lot [...]

By | 2016-01-06T08:45:40+00:00 June 10, 2014|Body Image, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

Does This Panel Make Me Look Fat: Body Image and Sexuality Live from CatalystCon East!

Size and body image can have profound and sometimes debilitating effects on a person's sexual self-esteem and self-expression. Internalized shame and feelings of inadequacy are often super-charged by the constant stream of external judgment, a barrage of media and marketing pressure (individuals are exposed to an estimated 300,000 negative images or comments about weight each year), and socially acceptable prejudice against those who don't conform. People of size can be [...]

By | 2016-01-05T10:44:54+00:00 May 27, 2014|Body Image, Collaborators|

Where Sex Meets “Isms”: From Shame to Self-Expression

This panel was presented at the 2013 Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit in DC, by emotional freedom coach Cathy Vartuli  from, 2013 EXXXOTICA BBW Female Performer of the Year Kelly Shibari from, iconic transgender filmmaker Buck Angel, sensuality guru Elle "Lady Cheeky" Chase from and, and outspoken sex blogger N'Jaila Rhee from Each person's sexual self-expression is unique, and requires courage and self-knowledge to [...]

By | 2016-01-19T13:53:27+00:00 November 27, 2013|Collaborators|

Do You Want To Spend the Night with Buck Angel?!

If you'd like to meet one of America's cutting edge film makers, inspirational speakers, and sex positive activists, join us for an intimate evening on Thursday September 27th at the Dish for a night you won't soon forget! If you're coming to Beyond Vanilla to Buck's amazing keynote, beat everyone to the punch by attending our exclusive kick-off event! Then help spread the word to get even MORE people [...]

By | 2013-02-20T22:17:03+00:00 September 3, 2012|Collaborators, Sex Geeks|