Conflict

Afraid Your Partner Is Going To Abandon You? Does That Fear Create Tension In Your Relationship?

Fear of being left can be intense... And it can strain a perfectly healthy relationship. What can you do? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: How do you deal with major fears of abandonment? He left. The thing is this can bother and be part of a relationship in general. It can be big problem if you have fears of abandonment and they're [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:44:31+00:00 February 15, 2017|Dating, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Trauma|

Gossip and How To Deal With It

Being generous and nice to someone and then find out they're saying bad things behind your back? What do you do? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Reid: We have writer write in. We love it when you write in because it gives us things should be used about. You do not want us just to sit here without anything to do. A little hands and [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:43:57+00:00 February 12, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

What Do You Do When One Partner Wants Something and The Other Doesn’t?

How do you deal with the shame and social pressure and choose what's right for you? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com, Andi Cortland from http://www.LevelUpSex.com and Raj. Cathy: How do you deal with it when one partner wants something and the other partner doesn't? I'm Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com.  Andi: I'm Andi Cortland from http://www.LevelUpSex.com.  Raj: I'm Raj, I'm married to Andi.  Cathy: It is a challenge when ... We're [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:42:29+00:00 February 9, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

How Does The Sex Positive Community React To Gender and Relationship Changes?

Even in a super supportive community, it can be challenging to change how we identify ourselves, either in relationships (opening up) or gender. How does it feel? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com, Andi Cortland from http://www.LevelUpSex.com and Raj. Cathy: Whether you're opening up your relationship or transitioning gender or whatever you are doing in your relationship how does that feel as part of the sex positive community, what are your [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:41:53+00:00 February 6, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

What If You And Your Partner Have Very Different Needs Around Play Parties?

What if you're shyer and don't want to jump in the middle of the pile? Or what if you do what to jump in the middle of the pile? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com, Andi Cortland from http://www.LevelUpSex.com and Raj. Cathy: What if you and your partner have very different needs about play parties, what you want to express, what you want to experience? It can be a challenge. What [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:41:04+00:00 February 3, 2017|Dating, Energy, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

If Relationships Aren’t “Forever” How Does That Change The Nature of Relationships?

Changing the parameters of what we expect from relationships can bring freedom... But it can also rewrite the rules of relationships. What's important going forward? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, "Should we stop seeing relationships as made for life? What's the alternative in terms of the conditions of relationships? How do we define the future of the [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:40:18+00:00 January 31, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Jealousy Explained

Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.ThrivingNow.com (and founder of http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com) discuss the different aspects of jealousy and how understanding the "8-arms" of jealousy can add ease and deepen connection. Cathy: This is Cathy Vartuli from http://ThrivingNow.com. I'm here with Reid Mihalko from http://ReidAboutSex.com. We're talking about jealousy. Reid: This is video three. There are two other videos if you have not seen them. Cathy: They stand alone, [...]

By | 2016-09-08T06:37:57+00:00 January 31, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Hot Sex… Until You Moved In Together?

Great sex drying up once you shack up? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Reid: Your partner and you were having lots of sex.  Cathy: Hot sex.  Reid: Hot, hot frequent sex and then you moved in together and poof! It evaporated. Not so frequent.  Cathy: Not so hot.  Reid: Not so hot. What do you do? I'm Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com.  Cathy: He's a little [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:38:23+00:00 January 28, 2017|Dating, Energy, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

How Do I Know If My Rules Are Reasonable In My Poly Relationship?

What is "reasonable" to ask for in a relationship? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo and Reid Mihalko and http://www.ReidAboutSex.com as they disagree and debate. Cathy: Hi Reid and Cathy. I really need some advice and someone to tell me if the rule I have in my poly relationship is reasonable or not. My primary partner has started dating someone else for the first time in 6 years. I [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:37:00+00:00 January 23, 2017|Collaborators, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Afraid of Touch? Tips for Creating Safety Around Touch

Fear of touch can create a conflict- you long for connection and you freeze up at the thought. People need touch to really thrive. Avoid skin hunger and learn how to start feeling safer receiving concentual touch and getting the warmth and connection you long for. Reid Mihalko from http://www.reidaboutsex.com/ and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.theintimacydojo.com/ share tips and approaches to allow you to feel safer giving and receiving touch. Cathy: Hey, [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:31:29+00:00 January 17, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Touch|