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Partner Not Wanting To Sleep With You: Part IV

What do you do if you realize that their desire is already gone? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo and Reid Mihalko and http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: You've done your thing, and your partner is still not wanting to sleep with you, not wanting to connect that way. What do you do? This is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Reid: Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com. What would you do? Cathy: I've worked with a lot [...]

By | 2017-05-02T23:14:45+00:00 May 20, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills|

3 Strikes Rule And Lying/Changing Your Mind

What are the 3 Strikes Rule and how are they applied to lying? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com.     Reid: Cathy promised me that was the last video but now we have to shoot another one. Cathy: Actually I- Reid: You lied to me! Cathy: No, you changed your mind. Reid: Okay, the first video if you haven't seen it was about lying and there [...]

By | 2017-05-03T20:21:59+00:00 May 2, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills|

What Is Gender Queer?

And what about pronouns? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com, Andi Cortland from http://www.LevelUpSex.com. Cathy: What is genderqueer? I'm Catherine Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com. I'm really honored to be joined today by Andi Cortland.  Andi: From http://www.LevelUpSex.com. Today, we're talking about genderqueer. For me, that means that I don't feel like a man. I don't feel like a woman. I just feel like a human. It would be pretty awesome if people [...]

By | 2016-11-07T16:07:53+00:00 April 29, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

If You’re The Go To Expert Around Sex, How Do You Make Space For Your Own Growth?

When everyone is turning to you... When do you get time, space and focus to do your own growth and learning? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: How do you deal with being both a sex educator and a human being? Being the resource for information on dealing with personal relationship issues we all have? I have this feeling like one must know [...]

By | 2016-09-23T15:28:40+00:00 April 26, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Can I Be A Sex Educator Even If I’m Not Having A Lot Of Sex Right Now?

Does a sex educator have to be having great sex a lot to be in integrity? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: I can't take him anywhere. Reid: That's why we sit right here, in front of this camera. Cathy: Someone wrote in and said they're a sex educator. Good job. They're also going through a lot of transition about their sexuality right [...]

By | 2016-09-23T15:26:10+00:00 April 20, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Touch|

How Do You Know Who Has Bandwidth For Listening And Support?

Sharing helps so much. How do you if they have room to listen and hear your vulnerable sharing? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: So we just answered the question about someone who’d shared vulnerably have been judged by her family or husband. There are times when sharing vulnerably especially if you’re going through a lot. Reid: And if you didn’t see that video, they [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:50:31+00:00 March 5, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

How Do You Handle Risk (No Not The Board Game) … And How Can It Be Easier?

Without some risk or growth, life can be boring, but if risk seems terrifying, what can you do? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: Today, we're talking about risk. How do you handle it and how can it be easier for you? Reid: You mean the board game? Cathy: Yes, of course. Reid: I'm Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: I'm Cathy Vartuli from [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:48:43+00:00 February 27, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

If Relationships Aren’t “Forever” How Does That Change The Nature of Relationships?

Changing the parameters of what we expect from relationships can bring freedom... But it can also rewrite the rules of relationships. What's important going forward? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, "Should we stop seeing relationships as made for life? What's the alternative in terms of the conditions of relationships? How do we define the future of the [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:40:18+00:00 January 31, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

How Do You Know When Someone Has An Awkward Crush And When They’re Creepy?

Is someone a stalker or just really sweetly awkward? How can you tell? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Reid: We're eating chewable vitamins, and we're going to do this video while we make these faces. Cathy: I've finished mine, hopefully. Reid: What's the question? Cathy: This came from ... We had a video on dealing with a mini stalker. Reid: A mini stalker? [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:37:36+00:00 January 25, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Does Holding Hands Make You Uncomfortable? Can You Get Close To People Anyway?

Are you scared or uncomfortable holding hands? How can you date or let people close? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: What do you do if you want to get close to people, you want to go dating, but you're scared of holding hands?  Reid: This is Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com.  Cathy: This is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. If you are not comfortable [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:36:08+00:00 January 20, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Touch|