Using Presence and Focus To “Listen To The Room”

Listening To The Room", hearing what the group or audience wants, how they're responding and how connected they are, can make an event go smoothly and easily, leaving enthusiastic and educated attendees! Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from share how to Listen To A Room! Cathy:  Have you ever wanted to listen to a room? It could be really useful when you're leading a workshop or just hanging [...]

By | 2016-01-07T09:41:42+00:00 July 12, 2014|Dating, Relationship Skills|

Finding Ways To Flirt When You’re Shy

Flirting can be fun and playful...but if you're shy, it can feel impossible! Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from share how to flirt when you're shy! Cathy: We've done a video on flirting before but I've noticed that ... Reid: No we didn't. Cathy: Yes we did. Reid: No we didn't. Oh I touched your boob. Cathy: My problem is I get very shy when I'm flirting with someone I actually [...]

By | 2016-01-19T13:10:27+00:00 July 10, 2014|Dating, Relationship Skills|

Dealing with Arousal: Enjoying Being Turned On

Arousal can be uncomfortable and embarrassing. Most of us haven't been taught to enjoy it, or how to deal with it. Join Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from as they discuss enjoying arousal. Cathy: Hi everyone. I'm Cathy Vartuli from This is Reid Mihalko from Reid: What are we talking about today? Cathy: We're talking about arousal and dealing with it. A lot of us are afraid [...]

By | 2016-01-05T07:35:46+00:00 July 6, 2014|Dating, Flirting|

5 Break Up Tips: Making Breaking Up Easier To Do

How can you make breaking up easier? How can you support yourself through the process? Join Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from as they discuss making breaking up easier! Cathy: Hi, everyone. Breakups are pretty hard. What are five ways you can make breakups easier on yourself? Reid: Tune in now. We will tell you as we pull the answers out of our butts. I'm Reid Mihalko from [...]

By | 2016-01-19T12:36:16+00:00 July 2, 2014|Relationship Skills, Trauma|

I Want To Have A Threesome…What Do I Do?

Cathy: We had someone ask us- you're such a goof-ball. We had someone ask us, "Who do I or who to approach for a threesome and how to talk to them about it?" I know someone who runs a class on that. I thought we'd ask you. Reid: Yeah, just approach me. Next question. Cathy: How do you identify people that might be good for a threesome, and how do you invite them [...]

By | 2016-01-06T08:37:36+00:00 June 29, 2014|Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Break Up Tips To Make Things Easier For Your Ex

You cared enough to date them. How can you make things easier for your ex during and after a break up? Join Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from as they discuss making breaking up easier! Cathy: How can you make breakups easier for your ex? Reid: How can you make breakups easier? Cathy: Usually it's someone you cared about enough at least to be in a relationship with.  So, [...]

By | 2016-01-05T10:12:21+00:00 June 27, 2014|Dating, Relationship Skills, Shame|

Sexual Preferences and Body Image

Do you ever find yourself being attracted to aspects of people that you think you shouldn't like? Or not being attracted to people you think you should like? Join Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from as they discuss preferences, attraction, and image! Cathy: Today we're talking about body preference and body image.  A lot of people think that you have to like what's PC, and our bodies don't [...]

By | 2016-01-07T09:27:27+00:00 June 24, 2014|Body Image, Dating, Shame|

Expectations and Agreements

Where do expectations get in the way, and how are they helpful? When do you want agreements and when are they too much work? Cathy: Hi everyone, I'm Cathy Vartuli from the and I want to talk today about expectations versus agreements. Most of us are really good with expectations, we have them all the time. We were brought up in a certain culture, a certain set of social [...]

By | 2016-01-06T10:15:45+00:00 June 22, 2014|Dating, Energy, Relationship Skills|

Safer Sex Elevator Speech On The Third Date? When To Bring This Up

Ever wonder how to have "The Talk" with your date? Reid and Cathy discuss when to share the safer sex elevator speech. Discussing safer sex issues and concerns can bring a lot of ease to a new or an established connection, and sets the groundwork for talking about challenging things. Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from as they discuss the Safer Sex Elevator Speech. [...]

By | 2016-01-06T10:20:52+00:00 June 16, 2014|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Does This Panel Make Me Look Fat: Body Image and Sexuality Live from CatalystCon East!

Size and body image can have profound and sometimes debilitating effects on a person's sexual self-esteem and self-expression. Internalized shame and feelings of inadequacy are often super-charged by the constant stream of external judgment, a barrage of media and marketing pressure (individuals are exposed to an estimated 300,000 negative images or comments about weight each year), and socially acceptable prejudice against those who don't conform. People of size can be [...]

By | 2016-01-05T10:44:54+00:00 May 27, 2014|Body Image, Collaborators|