Safer Sex Elevator Speech On The Third Date? When To Bring This Up

Ever wonder how to have "The Talk" with your date? Reid and Cathy discuss when to share the safer sex elevator speech. Discussing safer sex issues and concerns can bring a lot of ease to a new or an established connection, and sets the groundwork for talking about challenging things. Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from as they discuss the Safer Sex Elevator Speech. [...]

By | 2016-01-06T10:20:52+00:00 June 16, 2014|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Does This Panel Make Me Look Fat: Body Image and Sexuality Live from CatalystCon East!

Size and body image can have profound and sometimes debilitating effects on a person's sexual self-esteem and self-expression. Internalized shame and feelings of inadequacy are often super-charged by the constant stream of external judgment, a barrage of media and marketing pressure (individuals are exposed to an estimated 300,000 negative images or comments about weight each year), and socially acceptable prejudice against those who don't conform. People of size can be [...]

By | 2016-01-05T10:44:54+00:00 May 27, 2014|Body Image, Collaborators|

Where Sex Meets “Isms”: From Shame to Self-Expression

This panel was presented at the 2013 Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit in DC, by emotional freedom coach Cathy Vartuli  from, 2013 EXXXOTICA BBW Female Performer of the Year Kelly Shibari from, iconic transgender filmmaker Buck Angel, sensuality guru Elle "Lady Cheeky" Chase from and, and outspoken sex blogger N'Jaila Rhee from Each person's sexual self-expression is unique, and requires courage and self-knowledge to [...]

By | 2016-01-19T13:53:27+00:00 November 27, 2013|Collaborators|

Vaginal Shame And What You Can Do

Dealing with Vaginal Shame, or care about someone who is? A frank discussion about sexual shame and how to reconnect with your vagina and how to help others feel more self-love. Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from as Reid shares his Safer Sex Elevator Speech. Cathy: Hi I'm Cathy Vartuli from Reid: Reid Mihalko from Cathy: We're talking about vaginal shame. Reid: In this [...]

By | 2016-01-06T08:55:48+00:00 June 30, 2013|Body Image, Relationship Skills, Shame|

What is the Difference Between Poly and Cheating

Ever wondered about Polyamory? Want to know how cheating is different from Poly? Cathy: Hey everyone. If you've been hearing something on the news or just from your friends about open or poly relationships, you may be wondering what the difference between that is and having an affair. Reid: What's the difference between polyamory and cheating? Cathy: It's all about ethics and communication. Reid: And why is that important? Cathy: [...]

By | 2016-01-06T10:38:23+00:00 June 8, 2013|Dating, Relationship Skills|

Vulnerability: Privacy vs Transparency

When you want to be more open and vulnerable, how do you know when to be transparent and when to be more private? Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from as they share simple, practical steps you can take to bring the passion back into your life, and create warmth and love again. Reid: What's up doc? Cathy: [Laughs] Hey everyone. We're wondering what's the [...]

By | 2016-01-06T12:02:10+00:00 February 25, 2013|Dating, Relationship Skills|

Afraid of Attraction or Arousal? We’re Not in 7th Grade Anymore!

Are you afraid of other people's attraction? Or your own arousal? Most of us can actually control ourselves. You can upgrade your beliefs and feel more confident with yourself and others. Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from share tips and approaches to help you appreciate your pre-frontal cortex! Cathy: Are you still afraid of attraction? A lot of us are. We're taught when we're young that we [...]

By | 2016-04-13T08:55:55+00:00 February 13, 2013|Dating, Flirting|

Release Anger and Resentment with the Languages of Apology

The 5 Languages of Apology can make it surprisingly easy to let go of resentment and anger. Ever had someone repeat your "crimes" from years past? Find yourself doing that? Learn what might be missing and make your romance and friendships better starting now. Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from share tips and approaches to help you connect more deeply and with less discord. Cathy: Are you [...]

By | 2016-01-06T12:06:41+00:00 February 9, 2013|Dating, Relationship Skills, Shame|

Learn Love Languages and Create More Intimacy

Understanding your partner's, co-workers', friends and families love languages can make a powerful difference in how loved and connected they feel. Understanding your own love language can change how loved and welcomed you feel in your relationships. Cathy Vartuli from and Reid Mihalko from share Gary Chapman's 5 Love Languages and share how learning these can change your relationships for the better! Cathy: Knowing love languages can make a [...]

By | 2016-01-06T12:08:03+00:00 November 19, 2012|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills|

Tips for Creating Safety Around Touch.

Fear of touch can create a conflict- you long for connection and you freeze up at the thought. People need touch to really thrive. Avoid skin hunger and learn how to start feeling safer receiving concentual touch and getting the warmth and connection you long for. Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from share tips and approaches to allow you to feel safer giving and receiving touch. Cathy: [...]

By | 2016-01-06T12:10:24+00:00 November 8, 2012|Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame, Trauma|