Difficult Conversations

Restitution… Is it Important Or Not?

When do you make amends and when is okay to let things go? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xa1AEORxN9s Cathy: Restitution should you do it and is it good? Start, if you don’t like the I way, start. Don’t you laugh? Reid: I just want to say, I love people stay and watching videos. Cathy: They‘re already tolerating you so much. Reid: In this video, [...]

By | 2017-05-04T16:46:24+00:00 July 28, 2017|Dating, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Do You End Up Being Friends With People You’re Interested In Romantically? Here’s Help!

Cathy: Some people end up being friends with everyone they're interested with romantically. It doesn't ever quite transition to romantic. They end up being buddies. That can be really frustrating. Reid: The friend zone. Cathy: Yes. It can be very frustrating.  What would you do, Reid Mihalko, from http://wwwReidAboutSex.com? Reid: I don't know, Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com. What would I do? What a weird segue. Being stuck in the friend zone. [...]

By | 2016-09-23T15:27:19+00:00 April 23, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

How Women Can Talk About STIs and Testing

How can women talk about STIs and getting Tested? Kate McCombs from http://www.SexGeekdom.com, Ashley Manta from http://www.AshleyManta.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com share tips and their experiences. Cathy: Hey, everyone. We're talking about STDs and getting tested. We know that as women, there's a lot of stigma around that. We'd like to discuss our views and share different ways to make it more comfortable. Would you like to introduce us? [...]

By | 2016-09-23T15:21:10+00:00 April 17, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Considering Opening Up Your Relationship? How Do You Talk To Your Partner?

Want to talk to your partner about opening up your relationship? How do you bring up the subject? Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com as they share ideas and resources for talking about polyamory and open relationships. Cathy: Have you been thinking about opening up your relationship? Are you terrified of speaking to your partner about it? You’re not sure what they’re going to [...]

By | 2016-09-23T15:20:19+00:00 April 14, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Talking To Your Partner About Lack Of Desire Can Be Challenging… How Do You Do It?

Do you owe your partner sex? What if you promised? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: How do you tell your partner in a way that's loving and caring that you're just not in the mood? Reid: This is Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com. Cathy: And Reid Mihalco from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Reid: How do you do it? What's your advice? Cathy: One, I have to [...]

By | 2016-09-23T15:02:08+00:00 April 8, 2017|Dating, Energy, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

What Does It Mean To Take Someone At Their Word? What About Measuring Their Words By Their Actions?

Treating people like adults means taking them at their word most of the time... How can you tell if someone can use their words well? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: Reid, you talk about taking people at their word and measuring their words by ...  Reid: Let's read the testimonial first. We love it when you guys send in cool things about [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:58:59+00:00 March 30, 2017|Dating, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Sharing Vulnerably And Told You’re Just Insecure?

Opening up is scary enough without being told you're "too" insecure and needy. What do you do? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, "I've been listening to your advice and I just put myself out there feeling really vulnerable, only to be told by my family that I'm insecure, and my husband, and that the cause behind all of our [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:57:50+00:00 March 27, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

Can My Relationship Be Saved?

How do you know if your relationship is worth saving... And how can you save it? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, “Is there a way back from the brink? How can you assess a relationship and tell if it can be made to flourish again?” Reid: The brink of destruction? Cathy: Or [inaudible 00:00:10] Reid: The brink of insanity. [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:56:26+00:00 March 20, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

How Do You Deal With Haters? And Herpes Not A Big Deal?!

Someone calling you a wacko? And saying you're way off track? What can you do? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Reid: Hate mail, hate mail, whatcha gonna do? Whatcha gonna do when the haters come for you? Okay, so this really isn't necessarily hate mail ...  Cathy: Well, calling us "fucking wackos" is a little bit unpleasant.  Reid: Well, we're a little bit [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:55:52+00:00 March 17, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Trauma|

In a Poly Relationship and Not Sure How To Set Boundaries Around Flirting?

Is it ok for people to flirt with your partner, if you're in a poly relationship, in a monogamous situation? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Reid: Cathy Vartuli from Intimacy Dojo. Reading one of our amazing watcher/listeners comments. Oh, I spit everywhere. Cathy: Someone wrote and said, “Hi Cathy, I’ve been watching you and Reid’s video for the past three months and I’m grateful for [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:55:12+00:00 March 14, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|