Difficult Conversations

Afraid of Discussing Sex? What If You Have a Sex-Positive Business?

How can you be empowered about discussing sex when you feel frightened and ashamed to talk about sex in public? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com, and Andi Cortland from http://www.LevelUpSex.com. Cathy: What if you're ashamed to use the word sex or talk about intimacy? What if you're afraid of it? I'm Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com.  Andi: I'm Andi Cortland from http://www.LevelUpSex.com.  Cathy: Thank you for sharing this. I went through [...]

By | 2016-09-22T15:03:44+00:00 October 25, 2016|Event, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

Is There A Way To Make Asking For Payment Easier? Do You Negotiate?

Handling money can be challenging! How do you discuss money with clients or prospective clients and still sound confident and professional? How can it be easy? With Cathy Vartuli from the http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, “How do I ask for payments with ease? Should I negotiate? What do I do?” Reid: I just send them that little clip from Jerry Maguire. Show [...]

By | 2016-09-22T15:00:53+00:00 October 16, 2016|Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

How Can I Make My Meetup Group More Inclusive and Diverse?

How can I make my group more inviting to people with different backgrounds, incomes, ages, races, and perspectives? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: Someone who runs a polyamory group wrote in and said, "I just started this group but it's mostly Caucasian people with money, how do I attract people..." Reid: That idea is again younger people. Cathy: Younger, yeah. How do I attract [...]

By | 2016-09-22T14:59:48+00:00 October 13, 2016|Collaborators, Event, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Jealousy in Polyamorous Relationships: Examples and Stories

Wanting to handle jealousy better? What are examples of jealousy in poly relationships? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: Someone wrote in and asked about jealousy in a polyamorous relationship and was asking if we had some stories we could share that would help bring it down to a real level, like a more practical experiential level.  Reid: And Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com has a [...]

By | 2016-09-22T14:57:07+00:00 October 10, 2016|Dating, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Jealousy and the Law of Attraction

How does understanding jealousy can help you attract more of what you want in your life? Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.ThrivingNow.com (and founder of http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com) discuss how understanding jealousy can help you attract more of what you want in your life. Cathy: This is Cathy Vartuli from http://ThrivingNow.com. I'm here with Reid Mihalko from http://ReidAboutSex.com. If you saw the first video, we were talking about how [...]

By | 2016-09-19T14:36:36+00:00 October 7, 2016|Dating, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

How Can Understanding Jealousy Give You More Confidence?

Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.ThrivingNow.com (and founder of http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com) discuss how understanding jealousy can give you more confidence. Cathy: Good evening, this is Cathy Vartuli from http://ThrivingNow.com. I'm here with Reid Mihalko from http://ReidAboutSex.com. We're going to be talking about jealousy today. Reid: The green-eyed beast. Cathy: We all have jealousy and our society does not teach us how to deal with it well, most of [...]

By | 2016-09-19T14:33:29+00:00 October 4, 2016|Dating, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

When Is Disappointment Useful?

Disappointment is a feeling most of us avoid... But what if it can be a useful and insightful signal to pay attention to? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: So Reid, you've shared with me that you think that, are you going to pick on me now? That people can most determine when they have expectations because they experience disappointment. Explain.  Reid: Yeah, [...]

By | 2016-09-19T14:29:46+00:00 September 28, 2016|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Trauma|

Dealing With Envy and Disappointment When There’s No Way To Get That Need Met…

It's easier to deal with disappointment and envy when you have alternatives... Can't have chocolate ice cream, just have chocolate chip. What do you when you can't have ice cream at all? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: This is Reid being helpful.  Reid: This is a very important question and I'm feeling intimidated.  Cathy: Someone asked:  "How do you deal with envy [...]

By | 2016-09-22T14:50:24+00:00 September 22, 2016|Dating, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Trauma|

How Do You Handle Disappointment In The Bedroom?

Disappointment sucks. In the bedroom it can bring debilitating shame. What can you do and how can you handle it?     With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Reid: Disappointment and ponies. Video number four. This one's about disappointment in bed. I'm Reid Milhako from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: Cathy Vartulli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com. We are not talking about sleeping with ponies, not that we judge anybody [...]

By | 2016-09-19T06:34:17+00:00 September 19, 2016|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame, Uncategorized|

If You Don’t Want To Have Sex With Your Partner… Should You?

Do you tell your partner if you're not in the mood to have sex?     Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1GTMgV5HqBU Reid: Welcome back. Or if this is the first video that you are watching. Welcome for the first time. Cathy: We are talking about how you can talk to your partner about not wanting to have sex, and do it in [...]

By | 2016-08-08T19:36:48+00:00 August 11, 2016|Body Image, Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Touch|