Difficult Conversations

What Do You Do If You Lied And Don’t Know How To Clean It Up?

What do you do if you lied? You blurted out a lie without meaning to and then you're afraid to take it back and you're not really sure there's safe space to do so. What can you do? Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com as they share thoughts about how to clean up your lie. Cathy: Another viewer wrote in and said what do you [...]

By | 2016-01-06T09:46:23+00:00 February 27, 2015|Relationship Skills|

Stuck In The Friend Zone

Cathy: Some people end up being friends with everyone they're interested with romantically. It doesn't ever quite transition to romantic. They end up being buddies. That can be really frustrating. Reid: The friend zone. Cathy: Yes. It can be very frustrating.  What would you do, Reid Mihalko, from http://wwwReidAboutSex.com? Reid: I don't know, Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com. What would I do? What a weird segue. Being stuck in the friend zone. [...]

By | 2016-01-06T09:51:24+00:00 August 18, 2014|Dating, Flirting|

Reframing Fighting

Reid: Hi, I'm Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: I'm Cathy Vartuli from the http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com. Reid: Yeah, and today we're going to talk about reframing fighting. Cathy: It's really powerful because in our society, we do have a tendency ... Reid: Whatever. Cathy: To have discussions that are ... one of us has to win and I'm going to beat him up until he gives in or his going to give me the cold [...]

By | 2016-01-06T09:52:21+00:00 August 16, 2014|Dating, Relationship Skills|

Doing Things in Bed That You Don’t Want to Do

Cathy: We had someone write in to us and say that their partner is wanting them to try things in bed that they don't really know they want to try. They're not really sure and ... Reid: Like eating cookies in bed? Cathy: Yeah. I'm sure that was it. Reid: That's crummy. Cathy: Oh my god. Reid: I'm Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com Cathy: I am Cathy Vartuli from  http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com  and I am so [...]

By | 2016-01-19T13:56:34+00:00 August 16, 2014|Dating, Relationship Skills|

Does He Love Me

Cathy: Does he love me? How can I tell? Someone wrote in and asked us that question the other day. It's a great question. And this is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and I'm Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and apparently, we've killed him, so I'll just do this talk without him. Reid: Oh, let me count the ways. How do you tell? Have you asked? Cathy: Yeah, talking about it can ... Reid: Excuse [...]

By | 2016-01-06T10:06:43+00:00 August 5, 2014|Dating, Relationship Skills|

5 Break Up Tips: Making Breaking Up Easier To Do

How can you make breaking up easier? How can you support yourself through the process? Join Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com as they discuss making breaking up easier! Cathy: Hi, everyone. Breakups are pretty hard. What are five ways you can make breakups easier on yourself? Reid: Tune in now. We will tell you as we pull the answers out of our butts. I'm Reid Mihalko from [...]

By | 2016-01-19T12:36:16+00:00 July 2, 2014|Relationship Skills, Trauma|

Feeling Guilty For Not Having It Together As An Educator/Coach and Feminist

If you're a feminist or an educator, you may want to be strong and solid about accepting yourself and being accepting. But we all have bad days. Do you ever feel bad about feeling bad?? Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Ashley Manta from http://www.AshelyManta.com share. Cathy: Do you ever feel bad because you're feeling bad? Especially if you're a sex educator or feminist you think that ... you're out there [...]

By | 2016-01-08T05:56:16+00:00 May 30, 2014|Body Image, Collaborators, Shame|

Where Sex Meets “Isms”: From Shame to Self-Expression

This panel was presented at the 2013 Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit in DC, http://www.sexualfreedomsummit.org by emotional freedom coach Cathy Vartuli  from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com, 2013 EXXXOTICA BBW Female Performer of the Year Kelly Shibari from http://KellyShibariXXX.com, iconic transgender filmmaker Buck Angel http://www.BuckAngel.com, sensuality guru Elle "Lady Cheeky" Chase from http://www.LadyCheeky.com and http://www.SmutForSmarties.com, and outspoken sex blogger N'Jaila Rhee from http://www.BlasianBytch.com. Each person's sexual self-expression is unique, and requires courage and self-knowledge to [...]

By | 2016-01-19T13:53:27+00:00 November 27, 2013|Collaborators|

How to Appreciate Bigger Women without Appearing Creepy

Want the inside scoop from Kelly Shibari from http://ThePRSMGroup.com and http://www.KellyShibariXXX.com? Join Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com as she talks with Kelly about appreciation and being approached. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CnL_ZFMGEx0 Cathy: So how does someone approach you and tell you that they like bigger women without appearing creepy. Kelly: You know, the funny thing is when I used to be in college -- because it didn't really happened so much if you're 12 [...]

By | 2016-01-07T09:36:52+00:00 March 9, 2013|Dating, Shame|

Trust in Relationships

Join Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com as she asks Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com to discuss how lack of trust can affect relationships. Cathy: Hi everyone, this is Cathy Vartuli from http://TheIntimacyDojo.com here with Reid Mihalko from http://ReidAboutSex.com Reid: Yay. Cathy: Can you talk to us about trust and how it's really important in a relationship for a lot of people if there's a lack of trust or a perceived lack of [...]

By | 2016-01-06T12:14:59+00:00 July 27, 2012|Jealousy, Relationship Skills|