Is It Safe To Be Sexual With Someone With Herpes?

Cathy: Hi Reid. One of our listeners asked, is it safe to be involved with someone with herpes? Reid: I’m Reid Mihalko from Cathy: I’m Cathy Vartuli from Reid: Is it safe? Cathy: Well, it is true that our culture makes … Reid: That was a shout out to my friends who are really big geeks about Robert Redford films. Do you know the Robert Redford film with that “Is it safe?” [...]

By | 2016-01-05T07:30:53+00:00 July 29, 2014|Dating|

I Want To Work Things Out… But She Keeps Shutting Down

Cathy: We have another comment from someone asking for help. Reid: Okay. Cathy:  His wife is going through some family stuff, and she's been really depressed. Every time he tries to talk to her about it, because their relationship is being ... Is not going really well. She just kind of shuts down and he's really frustrated, and he doesn't know what to do. Reid: First off, we are not therapists, we are not [...]

By | 2016-01-06T10:10:17+00:00 July 27, 2014|Relationship Skills|

If I Need Lube For Sex…Does That Mean I’m Not Turned On?

Cathy: We had someone write to us about needing lube for sex. She had thought originally because she needed lube, her partner thought that that meant she wasn't turned on. What do you think about that Reid? Reid: I have lots of thoughts about this. I'm Reid Mihalko from Cathy: I'm Cathy Vartuli from Reid: Lube. Lube, lube, lube, lube, lube, lube, lube, lube. Lube's a good thing, don't mean anything, if you [...]

By | 2016-01-04T12:57:53+00:00 July 25, 2014|Dating, Sex Geeks, Touch|


Cathy: Do you ever masturbate? Reid: No! Never. Cathy: You're going to scare them. Reid: What are we talking about? Cathy: Masturbation. Reid: Oh, no! No, no! Cathy: A lot of us are brought ...  Reid: I'm Reid Mihalko from Cathy: I'm Cathy Vartuli from Reid: What are we talking about today? Cathy: Masturbation. In our society, a lot of people were taught that it's really shameful, sinful or that it's just something you do until you get a relationship. [...]

By | 2016-01-06T08:33:53+00:00 July 24, 2014|Sex Geeks|

I Love Her But I Think I’m Losing Her!

Cathy: We had someone write to us and say that he’s so in love with the woman he’s with and he feels like he’s losing her, and he wanted to know what to do. Do you have any suggestions? Reid: I do. I’m Reid Mihalko from Cathy: I’m Cathy Vartuli from Reid: And here is our advice. You go first. Cathy: I go first? Reid: Yeah. Cathy: Part of it depends on why do you [...]

By | 2016-01-07T13:42:35+00:00 July 22, 2014|Dating, Relationship Skills|

Approaching Your Partner About Anal Play

Cathy: Hi.  Have you ever wondered how to approach your partner about anal play? Reid: Whoa.  Man, easy.  Take it easy there. Cathy: Did you know there were 8,000 nerve endings in the anus? Reid: Whoa.  No wonder.  There's a cat walking around here. Cathy: Do you want to restart it? Reid: No.  That's life. Cathy: It's life. Reid: It's real.  Back to anal play.  Yikes. Cathy: How do you [...]

By | 2016-01-06T08:34:47+00:00 July 20, 2014|Dating, Sex Geeks|

How Can You Tease and Build Anticipation?

Would you like to be better at teasing and building anticipation? It can make everything from flirting to marketing more fun! Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from share. Cathy:  Would you like to be better at teasing and building anticipation? Reid:  Hm? What? Yes. Yes! I want to be better at that. Cathy:  This is Reid Mihalko from Reid:  And this is Cathy Vartuli from Cathy:  [...]

By | 2016-01-06T07:56:59+00:00 July 14, 2014|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Touch|

Using Presence and Focus To “Listen To The Room”

Listening To The Room", hearing what the group or audience wants, how they're responding and how connected they are, can make an event go smoothly and easily, leaving enthusiastic and educated attendees! Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from share how to Listen To A Room! Cathy:  Have you ever wanted to listen to a room? It could be really useful when you're leading a workshop or just hanging [...]

By | 2016-01-07T09:41:42+00:00 July 12, 2014|Dating, Relationship Skills|

Dealing with Arousal: Enjoying Being Turned On

Arousal can be uncomfortable and embarrassing. Most of us haven't been taught to enjoy it, or how to deal with it. Join Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from as they discuss enjoying arousal. Cathy: Hi everyone. I'm Cathy Vartuli from This is Reid Mihalko from Reid: What are we talking about today? Cathy: We're talking about arousal and dealing with it. A lot of us are afraid [...]

By | 2016-01-05T07:35:46+00:00 July 6, 2014|Dating, Flirting|

Tuning Into Touch: Increasing Sensation and Arousal

Want more spark in the bedroom? What to drive your partner wild? Join Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from as they discuss Tuning Into Touch. Cathy: Tuning into Touch.  This is Cathy Vartuli from Reid: And I'm Reid Mihalko from  Oh, oh, oh. Cathy: (Laughs) Reid: Everybody just clicked off because they were like, EW! Stop it! Stop it! Cathy: (Laughs) I love that you talk about [...]

By | 2016-01-05T07:37:46+00:00 June 30, 2014|Dating, Energy, Flirting, Relationship Skills|