Reid Mihalko

If I Need Lube For Sex…Does That Mean I’m Not Turned On?

Cathy: We had someone write to us about needing lube for sex. She had thought originally because she needed lube, her partner thought that that meant she wasn't turned on. What do you think about that Reid? Reid: I have lots of thoughts about this. I'm Reid Mihalko from Cathy: I'm Cathy Vartuli from Reid: Lube. Lube, lube, lube, lube, lube, lube, lube, lube. Lube's a good thing, don't mean anything, if you [...]

By | 2016-01-04T12:57:53+00:00 July 25, 2014|Dating, Sex Geeks, Touch|


Cathy: Do you ever masturbate? Reid: No! Never. Cathy: You're going to scare them. Reid: What are we talking about? Cathy: Masturbation. Reid: Oh, no! No, no! Cathy: A lot of us are brought ...  Reid: I'm Reid Mihalko from Cathy: I'm Cathy Vartuli from Reid: What are we talking about today? Cathy: Masturbation. In our society, a lot of people were taught that it's really shameful, sinful or that it's just something you do until you get a relationship. [...]

By | 2016-01-06T08:33:53+00:00 July 24, 2014|Sex Geeks|

I Love Her But I Think I’m Losing Her!

Cathy: We had someone write to us and say that he’s so in love with the woman he’s with and he feels like he’s losing her, and he wanted to know what to do. Do you have any suggestions? Reid: I do. I’m Reid Mihalko from Cathy: I’m Cathy Vartuli from Reid: And here is our advice. You go first. Cathy: I go first? Reid: Yeah. Cathy: Part of it depends on why do you [...]

By | 2016-01-07T13:42:35+00:00 July 22, 2014|Dating, Relationship Skills|

Approaching Your Partner About Anal Play

Cathy: Hi.  Have you ever wondered how to approach your partner about anal play? Reid: Whoa.  Man, easy.  Take it easy there. Cathy: Did you know there were 8,000 nerve endings in the anus? Reid: Whoa.  No wonder.  There's a cat walking around here. Cathy: Do you want to restart it? Reid: No.  That's life. Cathy: It's life. Reid: It's real.  Back to anal play.  Yikes. Cathy: How do you [...]

By | 2016-01-06T08:34:47+00:00 July 20, 2014|Dating, Sex Geeks|

How To Be Better Prepared for a Conference

Conferences, workshops and events can be a blast! And they can be overwhelming and leave you exhausted and worn out. Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from share how to have a better conference! Cathy: Do you want to have a better conference? Reid: Yeah.  I totally do.  Most of my conference experiences are haphazard and hit or miss.  This would be really useful information.  Tell me more. Cathy: This [...]

By | 2016-01-07T09:38:56+00:00 July 17, 2014|Collaborators, Event|

Easing Re-entry and Con Drop

Surviving Con Drop (post-Conference Drop) with style can make life so much easier, and let you keep that post-conference glow. Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from share. Click here for Reid's Article: The Morning After: The Art of Surviving Workshops, Retreats and Conferences. Cathy: Hi, I'm Cathy Vartuli from Reid: I'm Reid Mihalko from, from somewhere. Cathy: Do you want to start again? Reid: Something that has [...]

By | 2016-01-07T09:40:23+00:00 July 16, 2014|Relationship Skills|

How Can You Tease and Build Anticipation?

Would you like to be better at teasing and building anticipation? It can make everything from flirting to marketing more fun! Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from share. Cathy:  Would you like to be better at teasing and building anticipation? Reid:  Hm? What? Yes. Yes! I want to be better at that. Cathy:  This is Reid Mihalko from Reid:  And this is Cathy Vartuli from Cathy:  [...]

By | 2016-01-06T07:56:59+00:00 July 14, 2014|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Touch|

Using Presence and Focus To “Listen To The Room”

Listening To The Room", hearing what the group or audience wants, how they're responding and how connected they are, can make an event go smoothly and easily, leaving enthusiastic and educated attendees! Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from share how to Listen To A Room! Cathy:  Have you ever wanted to listen to a room? It could be really useful when you're leading a workshop or just hanging [...]

By | 2016-01-07T09:41:42+00:00 July 12, 2014|Dating, Relationship Skills|

Finding Ways To Flirt When You’re Shy

Flirting can be fun and playful...but if you're shy, it can feel impossible! Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from share how to flirt when you're shy! Cathy: We've done a video on flirting before but I've noticed that ... Reid: No we didn't. Cathy: Yes we did. Reid: No we didn't. Oh I touched your boob. Cathy: My problem is I get very shy when I'm flirting with someone I actually [...]

By | 2016-01-19T13:10:27+00:00 July 10, 2014|Dating, Relationship Skills|

Dealing with Arousal: Enjoying Being Turned On

Arousal can be uncomfortable and embarrassing. Most of us haven't been taught to enjoy it, or how to deal with it. Join Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from as they discuss enjoying arousal. Cathy: Hi everyone. I'm Cathy Vartuli from This is Reid Mihalko from Reid: What are we talking about today? Cathy: We're talking about arousal and dealing with it. A lot of us are afraid [...]

By | 2016-01-05T07:35:46+00:00 July 6, 2014|Dating, Flirting|