How Can You Tease and Build Anticipation?

Would you like to be better at teasing and building anticipation? It can make everything from flirting to marketing more fun! Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from share. Cathy:  Would you like to be better at teasing and building anticipation? Reid:  Hm? What? Yes. Yes! I want to be better at that. Cathy:  This is Reid Mihalko from Reid:  And this is Cathy Vartuli from Cathy:  [...]

By | 2016-01-06T07:56:59+00:00 July 14, 2014|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Touch|

Does This Panel Make Me Look Fat: Body Image and Sexuality Live from CatalystCon East!

Size and body image can have profound and sometimes debilitating effects on a person's sexual self-esteem and self-expression. Internalized shame and feelings of inadequacy are often super-charged by the constant stream of external judgment, a barrage of media and marketing pressure (individuals are exposed to an estimated 300,000 negative images or comments about weight each year), and socially acceptable prejudice against those who don't conform. People of size can be [...]

By | 2016-01-05T10:44:54+00:00 May 27, 2014|Body Image, Collaborators|

Where Sex Meets “Isms”: From Shame to Self-Expression

This panel was presented at the 2013 Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit in DC, by emotional freedom coach Cathy Vartuli  from, 2013 EXXXOTICA BBW Female Performer of the Year Kelly Shibari from, iconic transgender filmmaker Buck Angel, sensuality guru Elle "Lady Cheeky" Chase from and, and outspoken sex blogger N'Jaila Rhee from Each person's sexual self-expression is unique, and requires courage and self-knowledge to [...]

By | 2016-01-19T13:53:27+00:00 November 27, 2013|Collaborators|

Reigniting Passion in Your Relationships

Is your relationship growing stale? Are one or both of you shut down or disconnected? Cathy: Hey everyone. Do you want to revitalize your relationship? Reid: Do you want to reignite your passion? Cathy: It can be hard if you're feeling shut down. Reid: Yeah. Cathy: And once you're shut down, you tend not to communicate and I think a lot of people start looking elsewhere for connection. Reid: Uh-hum. [...]

By | 2016-01-06T10:53:04+00:00 March 12, 2013|Dating, Relationship Skills, Touch|

Being Vulnerable: How Much to Share and With Whom?

You want to be more open and transparent, but how much do you share, with whom? Cathy: Hi, everyone. We're talking about vulnerability and how to know how much to share and maybe who to share with. Reid: Uh-hum. In the last video, we talked about how not to be a victim so now the question is how much do you share and to whom? I mean I tend to [...]

By | 2016-01-06T12:00:00+00:00 March 3, 2013|Dating, Relationship Skills|

Fear of Physical Intimacy: Lack of Trust

How do you deal with fear of intimacy, and how do you feel safe and trusting in a connection? Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from as they share simple, practical steps you can take to bring the passion back into your life, and create warmth and love again. Cathy: Hi, everyone. What do you do when you're afraid of physical intimacy? You want to [...]

By | 2016-01-06T09:07:49+00:00 February 21, 2013|Dating, Relationship Skills, Trauma|

How To Ask For Reassurance Without Adding Blame

Do you need reassurance and comfort from your partner? Want to ask in a way that gets you more of what you want and builds connection? Join Cathy Vartuli from and Reid Mihalko from as they give tips and new perspectives. Reid: Hello, welcome, it's... Cathy: Cathy Vartuli from, and Reid Mihalko from Reid: And Reid Mihalko from We'll have to work on that. The [...]

By | 2016-01-05T10:15:17+00:00 August 25, 2012|Dating, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills|

Jealousy As A Signal That Needs Aren’t Being Met

Most of us avoid the topic of Jealousy, but when we face the feelings and learn new skills, we can transform our relationships and create new intimacy. Being jealous doesn't mean you're bad- it may just mean you have some needs that aren't being met. Join Cathy Vartuli from as she talks to sex and relationship expert Reid Mihalko from about creating more intimacy in your life. Cathy:  [...]

By | 2016-01-04T06:07:28+00:00 June 21, 2012|Relationship Skills, Shame|

What Is Intimacy?

What is intimacy and how do you create it? It's about safety and openness, and it can make live so delicious! Join Cathy Vartuli from as she talks to sex and relationship expert Reid Mihalko from about creating more intimacy in your life. Cathy:  Hey, everyone. This is Cathy Vartuli from, and I'm here today with Reid Mihalko from So Reid, how do you define intimacy? [...]

By | 2016-01-06T12:37:20+00:00 June 11, 2012|Relationship Skills|

Stories to Reduce Shame: Bawdy Storytelling

How can telling Dirty Stories reduce shame and bring you self-expression and a sense of freedom? Join Cathy Vartuli from as she interviews Dixie De La Tour from and some of the amazing story tellers, including Allison Moon from , Reid Mihalko from , FleurDeLis from and others. Cathy: Hi, this is Cathy Vartuli from, and we're here today with Dixie De La Tour [...]

By | 2016-01-07T09:42:58+00:00 June 9, 2012|Shame|