If I Sleep With An Older Woman, Will I Get STDs or STIs? Cathy: So, I’ve done a video with Elizabeth Wood and Dan Powers about cougar if someone had to ask about wanting to date older women. Reid: Cougaring? Cathy: Cougaring. Reid: Is that what’s called? Cathy: Yes Reid: That’s awesome. Cougaring. My Cougars out there. [Inaudible 00:00:17] Cathy: Someone replies said that cougar mantra Reid: Cougar mantra? Cathy: Well he was not being very nice about it. Reid: Okay Cathy: [...]

How Do Handle It When If You Ask- They Say No, But If Its Their Idea- They Love it? Reid: How do you handle situations where when you ask for something, the person is a no but if it’s their idea, they’re yes? This is Cathy Vartuli from Cathy: And this is Reid Mihalko from Reid: We’re building off of a previous video and so I had this insight now, and I want to flip these scales on Cathy Vartuli and be like okay, so how [...]

What Do You Do When Someone Says Everything Is Fine (In Bed) But They Don’t Mean It? Cathy: Okay. So someone write in and said I come from Asia and realized that what I’m sharing is trembles cultures, people will say everything is fine, when they don’t really mean it, so she says, I’ve had sexual partners who I, they report that they love our connection, interaction with regular partners and I asked them to let me know if anything’s uncomfortable or if everything feels good…they [...]

How Do I Stop Myself From “Future Tripping”? Cathy: How do I stop myself when I’m future tripping for example, my primary partner doesn’t call or text me back in a few hours I start feeling like I’m not important to him anymore therefore we’re gonna break up, etc. I take these things too far. Reid: I think I like to get myself back to the future too. Cathy: Do you have any banana pills? Reid: I [...]

By | 2017-05-10T12:38:24+00:00 November 16, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

We’re From Different Countries and Don’t Speak Each Other’s Languages? Is Our Relationship Doomed? Cathy: So, are you ready now? Reid: Ready now. Cathy: So, one of our viewers said “I’m travelling in Thailand right now and I have made a relationship with a wonderful girl here. We’ve spent a couple of weeks together and have had a great time, but she knows minimal English and I know very minimal Thai. I’d like to learn Thai and she wants to learn English. But [...]

By | 2017-05-10T12:23:05+00:00 November 13, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Event, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Does Status and Gender Matter? Do Women “Settle” If They Date Someone Of Equal Status? Cathy: Someone wrote in and said that they are curious about the current state of this person mentioned Japan and US where he saw a huge gap in the mentality of women towards men. Making most women on the same level as men in terms of looks, money and lifestyle, think they are better in settling down if they get together with a man of equal status. He wanted [...]

Will Strong Vibrators Numb You Out? Reid: Vibrators! Specifically the Sybian, it’s kind of like a Cadillac or John Deer tractors of vibrators the one that you sit on. Can it numb you out? Can it numb your stuff out? Can it harm you? I’m Reid Mihalko from Cathy: I’m Cathy Vartuli from Reid: Hmmm… So, for transparency Sybian. I’m friends with many of the people at that company. Cathy: They are wonderful [...]

By | 2017-05-09T13:56:41+00:00 November 7, 2017|Body Image, Collaborators, Dating, Delivery, Energy, Event, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Touch|

Will Herpes Ruin Your Life? Cathy: So we have number of videos on Herpes and how to deal with it what is safe or safer? And we have a number of comments come back about it as well and there seems to be a lot of fear in the general culture around herpes and we have some people comment, some people said thank you so much for sharing this and normalize which one of [...]

By | 2017-05-09T13:47:07+00:00 November 4, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Event, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

What Is Your Getting Things Done Style? Cathy: So today we’re gonna be talking about your getting things done style. Reid: This is Cathy Vartuli from Cathy: And Reid Mihalko from and… Reid: When I have the green Sex Geek Summer Camp shirt on this is a business advice video with grapes for sex educators. Cathy: So, were getting things ready for camp and talking about the different things that Reid is going to [...]

By | 2017-11-07T06:57:09+00:00 November 1, 2017|Collaborators, Delivery, Event, Sex Geeks|

Is It Impractical To Ask Everyone In A Cuddle Or Play Pile For Consent? Cathy: Question: When discussing consent in a workshop someone asked, “How do you respond to someone claiming that it’s impractical to ask every participant for consent in a cuddle or fuck pile? Thanks in advance.” Reid: Yes, so… Cathy: Reid Mihalko from Reid: Oh, my god! I just wanna answer this! Cathy Vartuli from Cathy: It’s a great question. Reid: Yeah, the impractical is an interesting situation [...]