Trouble Orgasming

Cathy: A lot of women have trouble orgasming. Reid: What? That explains everything. Cathy: They may not be able to orgasm with a partner or by themselves or they may just be, it may take them a long time or it might be a struggle for them. Reid: I just thought it was me. Cathy: It is you sweetie. Reid: It's me, so me, if anyone can orgasm around me is a miracle. I'm Reid [...]

By | 2016-01-06T08:18:31+00:00 August 20, 2014|Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Doing Things in Bed That You Don’t Want to Do

Cathy: We had someone write in to us and say that their partner is wanting them to try things in bed that they don't really know they want to try. They're not really sure and ... Reid: Like eating cookies in bed? Cathy: Yeah. I'm sure that was it. Reid: That's crummy. Cathy: Oh my god. Reid: I'm Reid Mihalko from Cathy: I am Cathy Vartuli from  and I am so [...]

By | 2016-01-19T13:56:34+00:00 August 16, 2014|Dating, Relationship Skills|

How Do I Know When She’s Come

Cathy: How do you know when she has an orgasm, so you know when to stop? Someone wrote in asking about that and I love that the person wants to know more. There is a lot of pressure I think in our society to know when the person had an orgasm or not. Reid: Our society is very orgasm-centric. Cathy: You supposed to do the orgasm then you're done. Reid: Yeah, because now we [...]

By | 2016-01-06T08:24:12+00:00 August 9, 2014|Dating, Sex Geeks, Touch|

Dealing with Arousal: Enjoying Being Turned On

Arousal can be uncomfortable and embarrassing. Most of us haven't been taught to enjoy it, or how to deal with it. Join Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from as they discuss enjoying arousal. Cathy: Hi everyone. I'm Cathy Vartuli from This is Reid Mihalko from Reid: What are we talking about today? Cathy: We're talking about arousal and dealing with it. A lot of us are afraid [...]

By | 2016-01-05T07:35:46+00:00 July 6, 2014|Dating, Flirting|

Backdoor Basics: Introducing Anal Sex To Your Relationship

Are you curious about anal sex? Would you like to explore this with your partner? Join Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from as they discuss Backdoor Basics! Cathy: Hi everyone.  I'm Cathy Vartuli from Reid: I'm Reid Mihalko from Cathy: One of our viewers wrote in and asked if we could give some tips on introducing anal into the relationship. Reid: Woa!!!!  I just had to do [...]

By | 2016-06-30T11:20:09+00:00 June 29, 2014|Energy, Relationship Skills, Touch|

Safer Sex Elevator Speech On The Third Date? When To Bring This Up

Ever wonder how to have "The Talk" with your date? Reid and Cathy discuss when to share the safer sex elevator speech. Discussing safer sex issues and concerns can bring a lot of ease to a new or an established connection, and sets the groundwork for talking about challenging things. Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from as they discuss the Safer Sex Elevator Speech. [...]

By | 2016-01-06T10:20:52+00:00 June 16, 2014|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Body Image and Sexuality

How you view and connect with your body can strongly effect how you express your sexuality (and whether you express it at all). Cathy Vartuli from and Ashley Manta from talk about body image and how you can improve yours to improve your sex life! Cathy: Hello, we’re talking about body image now and about how we view our body has an amazing impact on positive and negative [...]

By | 2016-01-07T09:31:55+00:00 June 15, 2014|Body Image, Dating, Shame|

The Big O, and Goal Oriented Sex…How They Can Get In The Way of Deep Intimacy

Rather than focusing on the big O as a sign that you did a good job...try focusing on the connection and the joy. When we take the pressure off, and don't shame each other for not "getting there", we can be more present and enjoy ourselves a lot more. Cathy Vartuli from and Ashely Manta from share. Cathy: If you read the latest addition of Cosmo, you'll see a [...]

By | 2016-01-06T08:48:42+00:00 June 4, 2014|Collaborators, Dating, Relationship Skills, Touch|

Delayed Ejaculation: Suggestions with Humor

If you have trouble ejaculating, or have a partner who does, this video will give you insights and ideas to help. Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from as they share ways to talk about delayed ejaculation and increase pleasure. Cathy: Hi, I'm Cathy Vartuli from Reid: I'm Reid Mihalko from Cathy: We have a video on premature ejaculation. Reid: It's really shitty. Cathy:  (Laughs) Oh my God! [...]

By | 2016-01-04T12:59:45+00:00 July 21, 2013|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

As A Woman Who Likes Women…What Is Your Favorite Thing About A Vulva?

Allison Moon from joins Cathy Vartuli from and shares what she most likes about vulvas... learn more here! Cathy: Hey, everyone. This is Cathy Vartuli from, and I'm here today with Allison Moon from Hey, Allison! Allison: Hi! How it's going? Cathy: Good! I'm so glad you're here with us. Allison: I'm glad I'm here too. Cathy: So as a woman who likes women, can you [...]

By | 2016-01-06T08:57:32+00:00 June 19, 2013|Body Image, Dating, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|