Shame

Facing Judgement As A Sex Educator and/or Sex Worker?

Shamed for being a sex educator and/or sex worker? What can you do? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo and Reid Mihalko and http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: Are you going to do the business thing? Reid: Yah I’m going to do the business thing cause when I’m wearing the Sex Geek Summer Camp t-shirt that means were talking about business for sex educators and things like that. Cathy: What’s like wearing purple orchid [...]

By | 2017-05-03T03:12:58+00:00 June 25, 2017|Flirting, Sex Geeks, Shame|

How Women Can Talk About STIs and Testing

How can women talk about STIs and getting Tested? Kate McCombs from http://www.SexGeekdom.com, Ashley Manta from http://www.AshleyManta.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com share tips and their experiences. Cathy: Hey, everyone. We're talking about STDs and getting tested. We know that as women, there's a lot of stigma around that. We'd like to discuss our views and share different ways to make it more comfortable. Would you like to introduce us? [...]

By | 2016-09-23T15:21:10+00:00 April 17, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

Sharing Vulnerably And Told You’re Just Insecure?

Opening up is scary enough without being told you're "too" insecure and needy. What do you do? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, "I've been listening to your advice and I just put myself out there feeling really vulnerable, only to be told by my family that I'm insecure, and my husband, and that the cause behind all of our [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:57:50+00:00 March 27, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

What If Your Potential Partner Has Herpes?

A lot of people are nervous about connecting with people with herpes. Join Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com as they share. Cathy: Hi Reid. One of our listeners asked, is it safe to be involved with someone with herpes? Reid: I'm Reid Mihalko from http://ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: I'm Cathy Vartuli from http://TheIntimacyDojo.com Reid: Is it safe? Cathy: Well, it is true that our culture makes ... Reid: That was a shout [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:30:52+00:00 January 14, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame, Trauma|

What Do You Do When You Realize What You’ve Been Teaching Is Wrong?!

Its a horrible feeling. You've been confidently teaching what you thought was great advice... And wham! You find out its wrong. What do you do? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Reid: What do you do when you realize what you're teaching is wrong? I love that. I love being wrong. Cathy: This is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Sex Geek Summer Camp Reid: [...]

By | 2016-09-22T15:33:19+00:00 December 12, 2016|Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

I Want To Shoot Videos But I’m Running Into Resistance…

How do you face your fears and do it anyway in front of a video camera? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: All right, so we were talking to people that want to shoot videos because they were inspired at Sex Geek Summer Camp and want to get their message out. Reid Mihalko from Sex Geek Summer Camp and http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli [...]

By | 2016-01-08T09:35:08+00:00 December 8, 2016|Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

Releasing Resistance to Shooting Videos

How can you release resistance to shooting videos? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and http://www.ThrivingNow.com. Some of you wrote in and said, “How you’re having resistance to shooting the videos?” I thought I’d offer, if you want it, some tapping to help you get pass the blocks. The hamsters can get really loud and I usually notice that it get loud as when I move in toward in something that [...]

By | 2016-01-08T09:35:31+00:00 December 5, 2016|Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

Will I Get In Trouble If I Bring My Vibrator When I Fly?

I don't want to get in trouble or be embarrassed. What can I do? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: Someone asked, can I bring my vibrator with me when I fly? Is TSA going to pull it out and embarrass me in front of everyone? This is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Reid: This is Cathy Vartuli from the http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com. Cathy: I've flown [...]

By | 2016-01-07T08:38:25+00:00 March 17, 2016|Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

How Do You Deal When Someone Shames You For Being A Sex Educator?

When society shames you for teaching "bad" things or expects you to be available sexually to everyone, what do you do? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Reid: Sex educator shame, what is it? Hi. This is Cathy Vartuli from http://TheIntimacyDojo.com. Cathy: And this is Reid Mihalko from http://ReidAboutSex.com. Reid: I'm holding the mic here to see if it sounds better. Cathy: He's good with that [...]

By | 2016-01-04T06:31:07+00:00 December 21, 2015|Sex Geeks, Shame|

Have You Been Shamed For Wanting Distance or Space?

Has anyone ever given you a hard time because you didn't want to spend as much time (or affection) as they wanted? Join Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com as they share ideas and insights from the beach (recorded from Fort Lauderdale Beach, our apologize for the wind noise on the recording). Cathy: What do you do when someone shames you for wanting some space? I'm Cathy [...]

By | 2016-01-06T12:41:08+00:00 December 15, 2015|Shame|