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How Women Can Talk About STIs and Testing

How can women talk about STIs and getting Tested? Kate McCombs from http://www.SexGeekdom.com, Ashley Manta from http://www.AshleyManta.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com share tips and their experiences. Cathy: Hey, everyone. We're talking about STDs and getting tested. We know that as women, there's a lot of stigma around that. We'd like to discuss our views and share different ways to make it more comfortable. Would you like to introduce us? [...]

By | 2016-09-23T15:21:10+00:00 April 17, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

How Do You Deal With Haters? And Herpes Not A Big Deal?!

Someone calling you a wacko? And saying you're way off track? What can you do? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Reid: Hate mail, hate mail, whatcha gonna do? Whatcha gonna do when the haters come for you? Okay, so this really isn't necessarily hate mail ...  Cathy: Well, calling us "fucking wackos" is a little bit unpleasant.  Reid: Well, we're a little bit [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:55:52+00:00 March 17, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Trauma|

Afraid Your Partner Is Going To Abandon You? Does That Fear Create Tension In Your Relationship?

Fear of being left can be intense... And it can strain a perfectly healthy relationship. What can you do? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: How do you deal with major fears of abandonment? He left. The thing is this can bother and be part of a relationship in general. It can be big problem if you have fears of abandonment and they're [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:44:31+00:00 February 15, 2017|Dating, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Trauma|

What If Your Potential Partner Has Herpes?

A lot of people are nervous about connecting with people with herpes. Join Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com as they share. Cathy: Hi Reid. One of our listeners asked, is it safe to be involved with someone with herpes? Reid: I'm Reid Mihalko from http://ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: I'm Cathy Vartuli from http://TheIntimacyDojo.com Reid: Is it safe? Cathy: Well, it is true that our culture makes ... Reid: That was a shout [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:30:52+00:00 January 14, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame, Trauma|

If I Have Sex With Him, Will He Disappear?

Traditional advise says women should hold back on being sexual so the man will pursue. Is that still valid and what are the alternatives? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: One of our viewers wrote in and said, “I recently had sexual encounter with a new man. I know we really like each other and we seeing each other twice now. Something I [...]

By | 2016-09-23T14:30:03+00:00 January 11, 2017|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Trauma|

Certain Sexual Positions Hurt… Is That Normal?

Its fun to be able to mix it up and try new things... But what if some of the sexual positions you try hurt? What can you do? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, "I'm wondering if it's normal to have pain during certain sexual positions. I noticed that when riding my boyfriend or being in the doggy [...]

By | 2016-09-22T16:48:51+00:00 December 24, 2016|Energy, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Touch, Trauma|

When Can Disappointment and Grief Be Triggered By Childhood Experiences?

Sometimes emotional pain can hit us out of the blue... And seem way out of line with the intensity we might expect. Sometimes that's because the disappointment is resonating with something from your childhood. What do you do? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: Dealing with the grief of disappointment. How do you do it? This is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com.  Reid: This [...]

By | 2016-09-19T14:31:11+00:00 October 1, 2016|Dating, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Shame|

When Is Disappointment Useful?

Disappointment is a feeling most of us avoid... But what if it can be a useful and insightful signal to pay attention to? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: So Reid, you've shared with me that you think that, are you going to pick on me now? That people can most determine when they have expectations because they experience disappointment. Explain.  Reid: Yeah, [...]

By | 2016-09-19T14:29:46+00:00 September 28, 2016|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Trauma|

Dealing With Envy and Disappointment When There’s No Way To Get That Need Met…

It's easier to deal with disappointment and envy when you have alternatives... Can't have chocolate ice cream, just have chocolate chip. What do you when you can't have ice cream at all? With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and http://SexGeekSummerCamp.com. Cathy: This is Reid being helpful.  Reid: This is a very important question and I'm feeling intimidated.  Cathy: Someone asked:  "How do you deal with envy [...]

By | 2016-09-22T14:50:24+00:00 September 22, 2016|Dating, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Trauma|

What Do I Do If I Have Anal Burning?

Not sure what to do if you experience burning around your anus? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, "This is embarrassing, but I need an answer. My anus is burning anytime I use the rest room or shave in that area."  Reid: Put water on it, quick!  Cathy: Wow.  Reid: Like it's actually on fire?  Cathy: I don't think [...]

By | 2016-01-04T09:35:08+00:00 June 9, 2016|Shame, Trauma|