Cathy, Author at The Intimacy Dojo

Being Attracted To Unavailable and Distant People

Cathy: Do you ever find that you're getting attracted, you find yourself attracted to people that are distant or emotionally unavailable? That can be a pattern that some people can fond to. And if you can just hit them upside the head it would make you feel better. Reid: Yeah, just do that. Next video please. Cathy: This is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Reid: Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com. Cathy: Reid, what can someone do [...]

By Cathy|2016-01-06T08:27:59+00:00August 1, 2014|Dating, Flirting|

Threesomes: I Have An Idea

Cathy: So we're back. Reid is going to explain, "I have an idea." Reid: We're back from what? What if this is this person's first video they're ever watching? They don't really know where we were. Cathy: That's true. Reid: You should probably tell them. Cathy: We were just discussing ... Reid: Who are you? Cathy: I'm Cathy Vartuli from http://TheIntimacyDojo.com. Reid: I'm Reid Mihalko from http://ReidAboutSex.com. We apologize if this is your first video. If this [...]

By Cathy|2016-01-06T08:31:12+00:00July 31, 2014|Sex Geeks|

Is It Safe To Be Sexual With Someone With Herpes?

Cathy: Hi Reid. One of our listeners asked, is it safe to be involved with someone with herpes? Reid: I’m Reid Mihalko from http://ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: I’m Cathy Vartuli from http://TheIntimacyDojo.com Reid: Is it safe? Cathy: Well, it is true that our culture makes … Reid: That was a shout out to my friends who are really big geeks about Robert Redford films. Do you know the Robert Redford film with that “Is it safe?” [...]

By Cathy|2016-01-05T07:30:53+00:00July 29, 2014|Dating|

I Want To Work Things Out… But She Keeps Shutting Down

Cathy: We have another comment from someone asking for help. Reid: Okay. Cathy: His wife is going through some family stuff, and she's been really depressed. Every time he tries to talk to her about it, because their relationship is being ... Is not going really well. She just kind of shuts down and he's really frustrated, and he doesn't know what to do. Reid: First off, we are not therapists, we are not [...]

By Cathy|2016-01-06T10:10:17+00:00July 27, 2014|Relationship Skills|

If I Need Lube For Sex…Does That Mean I’m Not Turned On?

Cathy: We had someone write to us about needing lube for sex. She had thought originally because she needed lube, her partner thought that that meant she wasn't turned on. What do you think about that Reid? Reid: I have lots of thoughts about this. I'm Reid Mihalko from http://ReidAboutSex.com Cathy: I'm Cathy Vartuli from http://TheIntimacyDojo.com Reid: Lube. Lube, lube, lube, lube, lube, lube, lube, lube. Lube's a good thing, don't mean anything, if you [...]

By Cathy|2016-01-04T12:57:53+00:00July 25, 2014|Dating, Sex Geeks, Touch|

Masturbation

Cathy: Do you ever masturbate? Reid: No! Never. Cathy: You're going to scare them. Reid: What are we talking about? Cathy: Masturbation. Reid: Oh, no! No, no! Cathy: A lot of us are brought ... Reid: I'm Reid Mihalko from http://ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: I'm Cathy Vartuli from http://TheIntimacyDojo.com. Reid: What are we talking about today? Cathy: Masturbation. In our society, a lot of people were taught that it's really shameful, sinful or that it's just something you do until you get a relationship. [...]

By Cathy|2016-01-06T08:33:53+00:00July 24, 2014|Sex Geeks|

I Love Her But I Think I’m Losing Her!

Cathy: We had someone write to us and say that he’s so in love with the woman he’s with and he feels like he’s losing her, and he wanted to know what to do. Do you have any suggestions? Reid: I do. I’m Reid Mihalko from http://ReidAboutSex.com Cathy: I’m Cathy Vartuli from http://TheIntimacyDojo.com. Reid: And here is our advice. You go first. Cathy: I go first? Reid: Yeah. Cathy: Part of it depends on why do you [...]

By Cathy|2016-01-07T13:42:35+00:00July 22, 2014|Dating, Relationship Skills|

Approaching Your Partner About Anal Play

Cathy: Hi. Have you ever wondered how to approach your partner about anal play? Reid: Whoa. Man, easy. Take it easy there. Cathy: Did you know there were 8,000 nerve endings in the anus? Reid: Whoa. No wonder. There's a cat walking around here. Cathy: Do you want to restart it? Reid: No. That's life. Cathy: It's life. Reid: It's real. Back to anal play. Yikes. Cathy: How do you [...]

By Cathy|2016-01-06T08:34:47+00:00July 20, 2014|Dating, Sex Geeks|

How To Be Better Prepared for a Conference

Conferences, workshops and events can be a blast! And they can be overwhelming and leave you exhausted and worn out. Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com share how to have a better conference! Cathy: Do you want to have a better conference? Reid: Yeah. I totally do. Most of my conference experiences are haphazard and hit or miss. This would be really useful information. Tell me more. Cathy: This [...]

By Cathy|2016-01-07T09:38:56+00:00July 17, 2014|Collaborators, Event|

Easing Re-entry and Con Drop

Surviving Con Drop (post-Conference Drop) with style can make life so much easier, and let you keep that post-conference glow. Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com share. Click here for Reid's Article: The Morning After: The Art of Surviving Workshops, Retreats and Conferences. Cathy: Hi, I'm Cathy Vartuli from http://TheIntimacyDojo.com. Reid: I'm Reid Mihalko from http://ReidAboutSex.com, from somewhere. Cathy: Do you want to start again? Reid: Something that has [...]

By Cathy|2016-01-07T09:40:23+00:00July 16, 2014|Relationship Skills|

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