New Events coming up in San Jose

(see Calendar in Right Sidebar for public events. Some more explicit events are by application only)

Questions? See our Event FAQ!

March 2019 with Monique Darling and Peter Petersen

Multi-handed Massage, Sunday March 24th from 7:30pm to 10:30pm


April 2019 with Reid Mihalko

Blow Job Grad School, Thursday 4/4/19 7:30pm to 10:30pm
Negotiating Success Threesomes, Friday 4/5/19 7:30pm to 10:30pm
Official Cuddle Party (Run exclusively by Cathy), Saturday 4/6/19 Noon to 3pm
Energetic Sex for Pragmatists, Saturday 4/6/19 3:30pm to 6:30pm
Energetic Sex Play Party, Saturday 4/6/19 7:30pm to 11:30pm
Dating For the Shy and Awkward, Sunday 4/7/19 12:30pm to 3pm
Rough Sex for Nice Folks, Sunday 4/7/19 3:30pm to 6pm
All Gender Play Party with Cathy and Reid! Sunday 4/7/19 7:30pm to 11:30pm


May Events with Peter Petersen!

Official Cuddle Party- with Cathy Vartuli w Peter Petersen Warmup! Friday, May 10th at 7:30pm

The Elements of a Fabulous Toucher w/ Cathy Vartuli & Peter Petersen Saturday, May 11th at 12:30pm

How To Be Successful At A Play Party w/ Cathy Vartuli & Peter Petersen Saturday, May 11th at 3:30pm

All Gender Play Party with Cathy & Peter Saturday, May 11th at 7:30pm


Pre-Cons at ConvergeCon in Vancouver, Canada! March 29th, 2019

Sexy Negotiation with Cathy Vartuli and Jet Noir in Vancouver, Canada

Creating Sustainable Open Relationships with Marcia B. in Vancouver Canada

And Come to ConvergeCon in Vancouver to see Talks on Courage, Using Humor in Sex Ed and Beauty and Perception. 


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