The Intimacy Dojo Blog

Shadow and Light: Open Call for Talks

Call For Talks at Shadows and Light, Organized by TheIntimacyDojo and EverydayTantra, September 24-27th, 2020 We’re opening up our upcoming event to speaker submissions: Shadows and Light Festival, September 24-27th. Monique, Peter, and I are running this festival to help people identify, connect, and reclaim their shadow sides and to bring light into their world. You can see the full description here: TheIntimacyDojo.com/shadowsandlight Too many people are intent on suppressing [...]

By |2020-08-14T18:56:00+00:00August 13, 2020|Uncategorized|

Shadows and Light Speaker Invite

We're running another summit and want you to be part of it! We'll be sending a wider announcement for speaker invitations, and wanted to give you a heads up as an invited speaker. We have a 1-2 hour spot for you to speak in during our upcoming Shadows and Light Festival, September 24-28th. (And please feel free to submit more than one, we'd love to have you present more than [...]

By |2020-08-13T01:35:30+00:00August 9, 2020|Uncategorized|

TheIntimacyDojo No Harassment Policy

What is your no harassment policy? TheIntimacyDojo is committed to offering experiences as free from harassment as we can make it regardless of gender, sexual orientation, disability, physical appearance, age, race, size, religion, nationality, or social class. We do not tolerate harassment of participants or staff in any form. Anyone violating these rules may be expelled from the event without a refund at the discretion of the organizers. We also reserve the right to [...]

By |2020-07-09T03:59:13+00:00June 30, 2020|Uncategorized|

What Do I Do If My Child Asks Me What A Dildo Is?

What Do I Do If My Child Asks Me About Dildo? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0mU0vcy0we8 Cathy: What do you do if your kid ask you what a dildo is and ….how do you answer them? This is J.D…J.aka Jen Devine from http://superstarhealtheducation.com/ and I’m Cathy Vartuli from https://theintimacydojo.com/ and you said you actually gotten this question a number of times. Jen: Oh, yeah. In the anonymous question box. It's not uncommon to get [...]

By |2017-11-22T00:56:21+00:00July 11, 2019|Kids Questions, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Sex Toys|

Should We Teach Sex Toys To Kids?

Should We Teach Sex Toys To Kids? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U4eqbA0mXzs Jen: Hey! It's J.D or Jen Devine from http://superstarhealtheducation.com/ and also I'm here with Cathy: Cathy Vartuli from https://theintimacydojo.com/ Jen: Sweet. Cathy's been asking me some great questions and I always like I have a question as a sex educator in the public schools and there's the state law gives me some guidelines and in in California there are really great guidelines. [...]

By |2017-09-25T01:55:40+00:00July 8, 2019|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

My Partner Slept With Somebody Even though We Have Pre-existing Agreement, Should I Be Angry?

My Partner Slept With Somebody Even though We Have Pre-existing Agreement, Should I Be Angry? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GPwybPQIAJ0 Reid: Hello! This is Reid Mihalko from http://reidaboutsex.com/ and I am with Cathy Vartuli of https://theintimacydojo.com/. Cathy, what is today's question? Cathy: Today's question is someone wrote in and said “my partner and I are just opening up a relationship. He agreed that he wouldn't sleep with someone else until we discuss it. He's [...]

By |2017-09-25T01:51:47+00:00July 5, 2019|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

How Do Fetishism and Tokenism Affects People Of Color Joining Polycommunities?

How Do Fetishism and Tokenism Affects People Of Color Joining Polycommunities? Kevin Patterson http://polyrolemodels.tumblr.com https://www.facebook.com/polyrolemodels/ TW/IG: @PolyRoleModels http://www.patreon.com/polyrolemodels/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UX3g9C3poqI Cathy: How do a fetishism and tokenism affect how people of color join polycommunities? I'm here with Kevin E. Patterson from poly role-models https://www.tumblr.com/. And I'm Kathy virtually from https://theintimacydojo.com/. Kevin thanks so much for talking about this I know that this is part of your your amazing book that's going [...]

By |2018-07-20T05:10:10+00:00July 2, 2019|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

How Do You Talk To Kids About Sex?

How Do You Talk To Kids About Sex? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QoEL7G0fUFs Cathy: How do you talk to your kid about what sex is? I'm here with J.D aka Jen Devine from http://superstarhealtheducation.com/ and I’m Cathy Vartuli from https://theintimacydojo.com/ and you talk to kids all the time about this. So how would….if you want your….what sex? Jen: That is one of the most popular questions in the anonymous question box. Cathy: Yeah. Jen: [...]

By |2018-07-20T05:10:36+00:00June 29, 2019|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

How Do I Talk To My Kids About Gender?

How Do I Talk To My Kids About Gender? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xwxuu9Pv87M Cathy: With everything in the news and all the information going out to children today, how do you talk to your kids about gender? I'm here with J.D Jen Devine from http://superstarhealtheducation.com/ and I’m Cathy Vartuli from https://theintimacydojo.com/ and you teach this all the time. I'd love to hear how….how do you teach talk to children and sometimes hard to [...]

By |2017-09-25T01:36:17+00:00June 26, 2019|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|

How Do I Discuss To My Kids About STD’s And STI’s?

How Do I Discuss To My Kids About STD’s And STI’s? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1pdI1cGpcyU Cathy: How do you talk to your kids about STD’s and STI's? I'm here with J.D aka Jen Devine from http://superstarhealtheducation.com/ and I’m Cathy Vartuli from https://theintimacydojo.com/ and it's a big thing now like when I was growing up nobody talked about STD’s or STI’s. They assumed they weren't having sex even though some of them were. My [...]

By |2017-09-25T01:31:54+00:00June 23, 2019|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks|